coed sleepovers
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Anonymous
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I am a woman and have a twin brother. We grew up having co-ed sleepovers with our friend groups- it wasn't a big deal because of the sibling factor. When we hosted, we would have girls and boys sleep in separate areas only because our house was smaller and didn't have a family room. We also attended ones at a family friend's house. It would be my brother, his same-age friend who was a boy, me, and the friend's two younger sisters who I got along with really well. They also had what felt like 5-6 dogs. It was weirder to sleep around that many animals than it was to be at a co-ed sleepover.
Our friendships shifted before an age where anyone would think co-ed sleepovers were a bad idea. |
Anonymous
| no no no. unnecessary. no reason to promote it. |
Anonymous
Tons of things kids do are unnecessary. They do them because they're fun! |
Anonymous
And Brenda, did you always have a crush on your twin brother Brandon or did it develop over time? |
Anonymous
| Girl is oldest and it's ages 6-9, this is perfectly fine. I don't see any issue unless one of the kids gives you pause? We had coed sleepovers at those ages for our kids without issue but not so much after 10. I think having kids close in age of both genders makes it a more natural thing to do. |
Anonymous
The issue is the awkwardness you will create when you decide they are “too old” for this and they disagree/don’t get why. And fyi 9 is probably too old unless you are super chill about exploration. |
Anonymous
| I don’t think it’s a big deal but my husband would not allow it. If they are neighbors though, seems really easy to just do a late-night hangout instead of sleepover. |
Anonymous
| I allow coed sleepovers with families we know well and I don't see the issue. |
Anonymous
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I also grew up with lots of coed sleepovers... very close in age brother and sister had a big group of combined friends and we did sleepovers at their house all the time, but we always slept separately and we were truly really goody two shoes type of kids. Never any issues.
BUT as a parent, I loathe sleepovers. Not only because there are just too many opportunities for your kid to feel uncomfortable and not know how to deal with it (obviously terrible things could happen, but I even mean things like they can't sleep, or they have to pee in the middle of the night and are scared to go to an unfamiliar bathroom... or they get sick) - but because sleepovers ruin the entire weekend. Do a sleep under OP - kids still get the experience they crave, but everyone sleeps in their own beds. |
Anonymous
| I think it’s fine if girl is 9. |
Anonymous
I agree. Our best family friends have 14, 12, and 9 yo girls and an 8 yo boy. I have 12 and 10 yo girls and a 4 yo boy. Usually both sets of parents are present too, because we live a few hours away from each other, but there have been times they've slept over together. I agree the dynamic might feel different if the sexes were reversed. But I don't think it's much different than allowing your daughter to sleepover at a girl friend's house who also has a brother. |
Anonymous
| HECK NO!!! |
Anonymous
| I would rather do this with all the parents, like rent a cabin or something. |
Anonymous
| Still have them leave at 11 |
Anonymous
| I wouldn't think twice about doing it if the kids were excited. They're young! |