Can I confess this? Still feeling guilty.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think it would be nice to let your DH if your DH may feel any guilt himself for cutting off the relationship -- your DH mattered to him

Says who? He didn’t text his grandson, he texted his grandson’s WIFE!

Maybe grandson had blocked him and the grandfather was trying to find a way to reach out to them.

Puh-lease. All grandpa had to do was ask someone text his grandson and tell him he was in the hospital. Hell, any friend/relative who knew about the estrangement could have done it. If there is to be guilt, it should land on OP.

[Anonymous]

OP I don’t think you should feel guilty. The grandpa could’ve texted your husband directly, or contacted someone else in the family who could’ve given your DH the news about the hospitalization and sickness. And if your DH had already blocked him, then that’s on DH, not you.

Ultimately your loyalty is to your husband, not the grandpa. So if you were protecting your husband by not mentioning the text at the time, bc your husband chose not to speak with his own grandpa, it’s not your fault at all if the grandpa’s text fell on deaf ears.

Quite frankly, the grandpa should’ve thought more carefully about it the unkind words he said to his grandson during the rift bw your DH and his mom. If hadn’t spoken so harshly, he would’ve still had a functional rship with your DH.

Release the guilt OP!

[Anonymous]

Agree w what others have said. You shouldn’t feel guilty at all! It is 1000% not your fault that DH and his family all have dysfunctional relationships that lead to all of this cutting-off and not speaking and cold-shouldering. That’s what caused this problem.