Truly gorgeous women don’t have it as easy as you think

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Here’s something else to keep in mind: the higher they are, the harder they fall.

We all age, go thru menopause, and lose our beauty. No, being beautiful is not the panacea to a perfect life, but it DOES afford one more opportunities and, let’s face it, the world is just *nicer* to you. It’s almost like being a minor celebrity, always being admired and complimented - the dopamine hits never stop. Until they do.

Then what? There are many former beauties that cannot accept this. They are grieving hard for what they have lost. It’s truly devastating for some.

I hate to break it to you, but not everyone loses their beauty. I’m in my 30s and I do yoga with several gorgeous 70 something women. Obviously, 20 something men don’t see them as sex goddesses, but they are still very, very attractive. They haven’t been devastated by anything because they still turn the heads of men their age. Sorry!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Ugly duckling is where it's at, from the man's perspective. That way you get the character, bookishness, and wit formed in stage 1, and the gorgeous looks in stage 2.

Dowdy, overweight childhood with coke bottle glasses and then BAM! Smoking hot at 22.

Story of my wife.

This is my husband too! I look at pictures of him from his teens with glasses and acne, a bad haircut, and barely 100 lbs, and can't believe it's the same smoking hot dude (brilliant with a great sense of humor) I married in our 30s.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Personally, I think for women, the ideal situation is to be attractive/pretty, but not gorgeous/stunning.

I am pretty but not gorgeous and I need two hands to count how many times I’ve been sexually assaulted. Men (and women) take one look at me and think I’m approachable.

I’ve also been told in interviews that I’m qualified for work but not hire-able because I ‘ look like a risk’. I’ve never mentioned the work assaults.

Same about the SA. I was very attractive as a young teen and into my 20s. The harassment from teachers, bosses, and other authority figures still makes me cringe. Yes, good looks gave me many advantages in life, but I am very happy to be "average" looking now.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Here’s something else to keep in mind: the higher they are, the harder they fall.

We all age, go thru menopause, and lose our beauty. No, being beautiful is not the panacea to a perfect life, but it DOES afford one more opportunities and, let’s face it, the world is just *nicer* to you. It’s almost like being a minor celebrity, always being admired and complimented - the dopamine hits never stop. Until they do.

Then what? There are many former beauties that cannot accept this. They are grieving hard for what they have lost. It’s truly devastating for some.

I guys so. I'm a 48-yo former beauty and I'm thrilled to be a very pretty middle aged person. Some people never get that their whole lives. If you're beautiful you just become less so. It's not such a hard fall in my experience

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Here’s something else to keep in mind: the higher they are, the harder they fall.

We all age, go thru menopause, and lose our beauty. No, being beautiful is not the panacea to a perfect life, but it DOES afford one more opportunities and, let’s face it, the world is just *nicer* to you. It’s almost like being a minor celebrity, always being admired and complimented - the dopamine hits never stop. Until they do.

Then what? There are many former beauties that cannot accept this. They are grieving hard for what they have lost. It’s truly devastating for some.

Are you a mind reader? You can’t possibly know this about someone unless they told you, and then it’s just one person who feels that way.

Sounds like you’re trying to extrapolate your own wishful thinking onto many others.

[Anonymous]

A friend of mine’s mother is likely 80 and is still gorgeous even at 80. It’s not just her beauty but her personality that makes her shine. I’d love to have known her when she was 40 because she must have been amazing. Her daughter is pretty, but not like her mother. Even my 58 year old husband thinks she’s gorgeous.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:A friend of mine’s mother is likely 80 and is still gorgeous even at 80. It’s not just her beauty but her personality that makes her shine. I’d love to have known her when she was 40 because she must have been amazing. Her daughter is pretty, but not like her mother. Even my 58 year old husband thinks she’s gorgeous.

Gorgeous and gorgeous-for-80 are not the same thing at all.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is like saying gorgeous men or athletic people or tall men dont have it easy as portrayed. Ummm yes they do. They have heartbreak and other human experiences but they also have LOTS of privileges. Socially and economically.
Not taking the bait for pretty victimhood 😆

This^. Include wealthy as well.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Think about how hard it is for us fuglies.

This^.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Once we are done empathizing with the truly gorgeous, and we move on to the misfortunes of the profoundly wealthy?

Amen 🙏

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The post about marrying for money got me thinking about this.

Everyone seems to think that beautiful women just have the pick of every man, career, and thing they want in life because people fall all over themselves because of their beauty.

The few truly stunning women I have known in my life don’t have it any easier than others. They had their fair share of heartbreaks and passovers for promotions and mean, gossipy women they’ve had to deal with.

I think it’s just a good reminder that we are all just people trying to make it in the world and we shouldn’t assume anyone has it easier because of their looks.

If you are expecting perfect bliss from birth to death then no, they'll see some health, relationship issues etc. but from the second they are born, they enjoy advantages average people can't ever dream of.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Here’s something else to keep in mind: the higher they are, the harder they fall.

We all age, go thru menopause, and lose our beauty. No, being beautiful is not the panacea to a perfect life, but it DOES afford one more opportunities and, let’s face it, the world is just *nicer* to you. It’s almost like being a minor celebrity, always being admired and complimented - the dopamine hits never stop. Until they do.

Then what? There are many former beauties that cannot accept this. They are grieving hard for what they have lost. It’s truly devastating for some.

The world is nicer to beautiful women unless it isn’t. You shouldn’t underestimate how many cruel, insecure women out there see beauties as their competition and undercut them at every chance they get. For the guy walking in front of a beauty going into the book store? Yeah, he’ll probably hold the door open for her faster than he would a homely woman. That seems to be the kind of “nice” you’re taking about.

You should probably read the studies on all the extra positive attributes that people on to the attractive.

[Anonymous]

I’m a gorgeous woman and I agree. It’s always felt like more of an albatross than a gift. At the moment I’m kind of fat/not looking my best postpartum and it’s actually kind of a relief!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have a friend who is gorgeous. She's always with men who never see her as longterm commitment material. A lot of them are much older and are very wealthy. She'll be with them for several months or several years with lots of fancy trips, dinners and gifts. She's 45 and this has been going on for 25+ years. I think if she weren't so gorgeous she would likely have been in healthier relationships.

Arm candy. They get tired of her and trade her in on a newer model. She will always be single.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Here’s something else to keep in mind: the higher they are, the harder they fall.

We all age, go thru menopause, and lose our beauty. No, being beautiful is not the panacea to a perfect life, but it DOES afford one more opportunities and, let’s face it, the world is just *nicer* to you. It’s almost like being a minor celebrity, always being admired and complimented - the dopamine hits never stop. Until they do.

Then what? There are many former beauties that cannot accept this. They are grieving hard for what they have lost. It’s truly devastating for some.

I hate to break it to you, but not everyone loses their beauty. I’m in my 30s and I do yoga with several gorgeous 70 something women. Obviously, 20 something men don’t see them as sex goddesses, but they are still very, very attractive. They haven’t been devastated by anything because they still turn the heads of men their age. Sorry!

Thank you for saying that - i havent lost my good looks, im mid 50s. The heads that turn are all ages - ALL ages.