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The post about marrying for money got me thinking about this.
Everyone seems to think that beautiful women just have the pick of every man, career, and thing they want in life because people fall all over themselves because of their beauty. The few truly stunning women I have known in my life don’t have it any easier than others. They had their fair share of heartbreaks and passovers for promotions and mean, gossipy women they’ve had to deal with. I think it’s just a good reminder that we are all just people trying to make it in the world and we shouldn’t assume anyone has it easier because of their looks. |
| If gorgeous women had perfect relationships none of them would ever be abused. |
| Personally, I think for women, the ideal situation is to be attractive/pretty, but not gorgeous/stunning. |
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Ugly duckling is where it's at, from the man's perspective. That way you get the character, bookishness, and wit formed in stage 1, and the gorgeous looks in stage 2.
Dowdy, overweight childhood with coke bottle glasses and then BAM! Smoking hot at 22. Story of my wife. |
| I have a friend who is gorgeous. She's always with men who never see her as longterm commitment material. A lot of them are much older and are very wealthy. She'll be with them for several months or several years with lots of fancy trips, dinners and gifts. She's 45 and this has been going on for 25+ years. I think if she weren't so gorgeous she would likely have been in healthier relationships. |
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Here’s something else to keep in mind: the higher they are, the harder they fall.
We all age, go thru menopause, and lose our beauty. No, being beautiful is not the panacea to a perfect life, but it DOES afford one more opportunities and, let’s face it, the world is just *nicer* to you. It’s almost like being a minor celebrity, always being admired and complimented - the dopamine hits never stop. Until they do. Then what? There are many former beauties that cannot accept this. They are grieving hard for what they have lost. It’s truly devastating for some. |
The world is nicer to beautiful women unless it isn’t. You shouldn’t underestimate how many cruel, insecure women out there see beauties as their competition and undercut them at every chance they get. For the guy walking in front of a beauty going into the book store? Yeah, he’ll probably hold the door open for her faster than he would a homely woman. That seems to be the kind of “nice” you’re taking about. |
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Lol.
I was gorgeous. A solid 9/10. Worked as a model (just a catalog/car show model -- no editorial, etc.) in my early 20s. Medication caused weight gain in my early 30s, and then there is aging of course. Not a 9/10 anymore, let's put it that way. I could have posted this original post myself when I was 24. And it would have been ignorant as hell, lol. I will assure you that I -- and all of the highly attractive women out there -- do have an easier time of it. Pretty privilege is very real. I'm not saying there aren't negative ramifications to extreme beauty (the harassment is virtually never ending, the assumption that you are dumb as a rock feels never ending, jealousy is a problem), but overall? Life is much, much easier with pretty privilege. But I probably bothered to type too much here because this post is probably just trolling. |
| And husbands cheating on them!! |
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This is like saying gorgeous men or athletic people or tall men dont have it easy as portrayed. Ummm yes they do. They have heartbreak and other human experiences but they also have LOTS of privileges. Socially and economically.
Not taking the bait for pretty victimhood 😆 |
Unless you’ve walked a mile in their shoes, you can’t really claim to know for sure. Have you walked a mile in their shoes? |
What a fatuous remark. Lots of people have experienced both worlds (been hot, then been not). See posts up thread. So yeah, we can know. |
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I never thought they had it easy, OP. Great wealthy, intelligence or beauty is a burden in some ways. You get noticed, and some of the attention is exploitative. |
| Think about how hard it is for us fuglies. |
| I wouldn’t know! I’m more than happy being being reasonably attractive and after 26 years having a husband who still lusts after me. I guess a problem being truly gorgeous is that you end up working so hard to maintain it that when you can’t you are crushed. I don’t have that problem. |