My beloved father is dying

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Normal.

I'm the youngest of 3. My dad was my best friend. I love that man so much. I saw him often. My kids adored him. He was so supportive and present at all times. He could make any situation better--and always had you laughing til you cried at your worst moments. I knew he was always there for us. Unconditionally. He was my 'go-to' person. A fountain of knowledge on everything.

It was SOOOO hard to watch him die from cancer. And the entire time he was so strong and worried about everyone else--never complained, still funny, etc.

It has been 6 years since his death. I can now think of him and smile and not fall apart. I get sad when he is missing milestones that he would have relished--particularly with his grandsons who he adored and they adored him,,,their successes, upcoming graduation, etc.

I am amazed I gave his eulogy without crying. It was the one last thing I could do to honor him. I also found that since I grieved so long ahead of time--the sicker he got..that it was eventually easier when it did happen.

I look for signs everywhere. I get them, some pretty crazy that can't be 'coincidence' and I take heart that he still 'sees' and I am so thankful I had him as a dad.

I wish you peace, OP. I hope he doesn't suffer.

OMG this made me cry.....this was my dad to a tee and I just lost him five months ago. I haven't stopped crying but it's getting just a little easier. I get signs as well. I held his hand in hospice and know he was at peace. His grandsons adored him and he adored them. We miss him so much.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My father died in hospice this morning after fighting brain cancer for months. What you’re feeling is totally normal. I’m so sorry.

DP, I'm so very sorry for your loss.

OP, completely normal coping mechanism. I'm so sorry and hope you can ultimately find peace.

[Anonymous]

I’m so sorry. This happened to me in August 2021 and I’m still not remotely ok. Hugs.

[Anonymous]

I’m so sorry. I also felt numbness when my father was sick and dying; it was a coping mechanism which allowed me to put aside my emotions so I could focus on my mother and her pain.

My friend told me “The only way through this is through this.” As much as it sucked, she was right. Please lean on people and let them help you get through this.