My beloved father is dying

[Anonymous]

And I feel numb! It feels strange and unreal that I am this ok with watching the sudden decline in my father’s health due to end stage cancer.

We are very close. I know this will destroy me yet I cannot seem to access any feelings right now.

Is this normal?

[Anonymous]

I'm so sorry. You are in shock. You're emotionally bracketing to manage. It's common. We ll grieve in different ways. When my mom was suffering from a terrible cancer, it all crashed on me a few months before she passed. By the time she passed, I had done all the deep wells of despair hard grieving and it was more peaceful for me in the final days and right after. Peace to you.

[Anonymous]

My father died in hospice this morning after fighting brain cancer for months. What you’re feeling is totally normal. I’m so sorry.

[Anonymous]

I’m sorry, OP. I think you’re overwhelmed and what you’re feeling is normal. May you and your father both find peace.

[Anonymous]

Very normal. Your grief will come in waves, and sometimes it will feel like numbness.
I'm so sorry.

[Anonymous]

I’m so sorry OP and the other app whose father recently passed as well.

[Anonymous]

Watching someone you love die can be an out of body experience. Am I really here? Once he dies grief takes over as you start to deal with funeral plans etc.

[Anonymous]

I'm so sorry. It's very painful. Take it one hour and one day at a time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Watching someone you love die can be an out of body experience. Am I really here? Once he dies grief takes over as you start to deal with funeral plans etc.

+1

My father also died recently. I remember watching him closely in his hospital bed and thinking “he will be dead in a few days but here he is now alive.” Very surreal. The grief will come. Take it easy, allow yourself the time to go through it. Cherish this time with him!

[Anonymous]

Normal.

I'm the youngest of 3. My dad was my best friend. I love that man so much. I saw him often. My kids adored him. He was so supportive and present at all times. He could make any situation better--and always had you laughing til you cried at your worst moments. I knew he was always there for us. Unconditionally. He was my 'go-to' person. A fountain of knowledge on everything.

It was SOOOO hard to watch him die from cancer. And the entire time he was so strong and worried about everyone else--never complained, still funny, etc.

It has been 6 years since his death. I can now think of him and smile and not fall apart. I get sad when he is missing milestones that he would have relished--particularly with his grandsons who he adored and they adored him,,,their successes, upcoming graduation, etc.

I am amazed I gave his eulogy without crying. It was the one last thing I could do to honor him. I also found that since I grieved so long ahead of time--the sicker he got..that it was eventually easier when it did happen.

I look for signs everywhere. I get them, some pretty crazy that can't be 'coincidence' and I take heart that he still 'sees' and I am so thankful I had him as a dad.

I wish you peace, OP. I hope he doesn't suffer.

[Anonymous]

Beautiful comments on here. So many of us were blessed with lovely fathers. That never dies.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:And I feel numb! It feels strange and unreal that I am this ok with watching the sudden decline in my father’s health due to end stage cancer.

We are very close. I know this will destroy me yet I cannot seem to access any feelings right now.

Is this normal?

Your Dad wouldn’t want his death to destroy you. That’s the last thing he wants for you.

So honor your Dad’s wishes, and don’t let it destroy you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Not normal.

Troll

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My father died in hospice this morning after fighting brain cancer for months. What you’re feeling is totally normal. I’m so sorry.

Np. My condolences to both of you.

[Anonymous]

I’m sorry, OP (and PPs who have experienced this loss)
My beloved dad died almost 20 years ago and I still miss him so much.