Do you let your 9th grade daughters go on "dates"?

[Anonymous]

I don't care about having a date for homecoming. That's fine. But I'm not entertaining a pseudo-serious boyfriend-girlfriend relationship in the 9th grade for my daughter. That cannot and should not be her priority at 14.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't care about having a date for homecoming. That's fine. But I'm not entertaining a pseudo-serious boyfriend-girlfriend relationship in the 9th grade for my daughter. That cannot and should not be her priority at 14.

+1 Finally, a voice of reason.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't care about having a date for homecoming. That's fine. But I'm not entertaining a pseudo-serious boyfriend-girlfriend relationship in the 9th grade for my daughter. That cannot and should not be her priority at 14.

+1 Finally, a voice of reason.

+2

Yup, so stupid at this age. Pseudo-serious boyfriend-girlfriend relationship in the 9th grade. She's 14, she'll have plenty of time when she is ready for that type of relationship, but it should definitely not be a priority at 14

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't care about having a date for homecoming. That's fine. But I'm not entertaining a pseudo-serious boyfriend-girlfriend relationship in the 9th grade for my daughter. That cannot and should not be her priority at 14.

+1 Finally, a voice of reason.

And what if she says they are “ just friends.” Then is it ok to hang out at each others houses, the mall, etc together?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't care about having a date for homecoming. That's fine. But I'm not entertaining a pseudo-serious boyfriend-girlfriend relationship in the 9th grade for my daughter. That cannot and should not be her priority at 14.

+1 Finally, a voice of reason.

And what if she says they are “ just friends.” Then is it ok to hang out at each others houses, the mall, etc together?

No. We don’t encourage opposite sex friendships as I don’t believe they can just be platonic friends.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't care about having a date for homecoming. That's fine. But I'm not entertaining a pseudo-serious boyfriend-girlfriend relationship in the 9th grade for my daughter. That cannot and should not be her priority at 14.

+1 Finally, a voice of reason.

And what if she says they are “ just friends.” Then is it ok to hang out at each others houses, the mall, etc together?

No. We don’t encourage opposite sex friendships as I don’t believe they can just be platonic friends.

Wow. Way to make the opposite sex even more appealing and mysterious. Do you let them work on school projects together? Will they be allowed to have a job or be on a coed sports team like XC? This is legitimately ridiculous. And sad. Some of my son’s closest friends are girls he has no romantic interest in.

[Anonymous]

As I explained in another thread, a friend’s freshman daughter was allowed to have a boyfriend, and they were allowed to view movies on the couch in the finished basement; all doors were kept fully open.

Still, this resulted in: her breasts were touched.

Freshman year is too young!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:As I explained in another thread, a friend’s freshman daughter was allowed to have a boyfriend, and they were allowed to view movies on the couch in the finished basement; all doors were kept fully open.

Still, this resulted in: her breasts were touched.

Freshman year is too young!

I was expecting a bigger payday than...her breasts were touched.

I guess...are you saying it's fine for breast fondling Sophomore year, followed by maybe a little more action junior year?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:As I explained in another thread, a friend’s freshman daughter was allowed to have a boyfriend, and they were allowed to view movies on the couch in the finished basement; all doors were kept fully open.

Still, this resulted in: her breasts were touched.

Freshman year is too young!

This really sounds like some perv who is looking for specifics from others

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't care about having a date for homecoming. That's fine. But I'm not entertaining a pseudo-serious boyfriend-girlfriend relationship in the 9th grade for my daughter. That cannot and should not be her priority at 14.

+1 Finally, a voice of reason.

And what if she says they are “ just friends.” Then is it ok to hang out at each others houses, the mall, etc together?

No. We don’t encourage opposite sex friendships as I don’t believe they can just be platonic friends.

I was following you until this. This is probably one of the most ignorant opinions I have seen on this site.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't care about having a date for homecoming. That's fine. But I'm not entertaining a pseudo-serious boyfriend-girlfriend relationship in the 9th grade for my daughter. That cannot and should not be her priority at 14.

+1 Finally, a voice of reason.

And what if she says they are “ just friends.” Then is it ok to hang out at each others houses, the mall, etc together?

No. We don’t encourage opposite sex friendships as I don’t believe they can just be platonic friends.

Wow. Way to make the opposite sex even more appealing and mysterious. Do you let them work on school projects together? Will they be allowed to have a job or be on a coed sports team like XC? This is legitimately ridiculous. And sad. Some of my son’s closest friends are girls he has no romantic interest in.

Also, the opposite sex friendships are how to you learn to interact with an eventual bf/gf.

The boy doesn't burp and fart around his female friends, but he will around his boys. Stuff like that.

[Anonymous]

Boys can never just be friends with girls - they always want more.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't care about having a date for homecoming. That's fine. But I'm not entertaining a pseudo-serious boyfriend-girlfriend relationship in the 9th grade for my daughter. That cannot and should not be her priority at 14.

+1 Finally, a voice of reason.

And what if she says they are “ just friends.” Then is it ok to hang out at each others houses, the mall, etc together?

No. We don’t encourage opposite sex friendships as I don’t believe they can just be platonic friends.

Okay, Pence.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't care about having a date for homecoming. That's fine. But I'm not entertaining a pseudo-serious boyfriend-girlfriend relationship in the 9th grade for my daughter. That cannot and should not be her priority at 14.

+1 Finally, a voice of reason.

+2

Yup, so stupid at this age. Pseudo-serious boyfriend-girlfriend relationship in the 9th grade. She's 14, she'll have plenty of time when she is ready for that type of relationship, but it should definitely not be a priority at 14

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My 14 year old has a friend who is a younger freshman that she describes as "boy crazy." I have seen it firsthand and agree. Said kid is now having drama over a boy. Ridiculous, kids this age should be busy with school and making friends with kids, learning how to high school, not caught up in relationship drama. I dated at that age and wish I had not, nothing good came out of any boyfriends as a teen.

[Anonymous]

Homecoming date- yes
Meet up as group -yes

All else no for freshman.