How to handle son coming out as trans to an anti-trans, homophobic grandparent?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Can he stay closeted until they pass? Seems like the respectful thing to do. I know individualism is very du jour in Western society, but I think this is jumping the shark.

No and no.

[Anonymous]

OP why in the world do you have this so called grandparent in your kids lives to begin with.

NOPE and NO

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You kid has the right to be his or her authentic self. If s/he wants to tell grandpa and see what happens you support that decision because it is your child. Presumably your dad taught you that. If you dad can’t reconcile this that is on your dad.

It’s not the same but I came out as gay over 25 years ago. I had one conservative friend I was certain would not respond well. I’ll never forget our conversation. He told me that for us to stay friends he would have to literally reject Most everything that he believed in and who he was as a person or we could stop being friends. He then told me that it wasn’t even a close decision and that obviously he needed yo rethink his whole life. I was floored and will
Never forget it.

Honestly, that's pretty awesome. What a good friend.

And exactly how it should be. He was smart and realized that his religion was lying to him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Said grandparent lives out of state and isn’t particularly close to our children. Grandparent is openly homophobic, indoctrinated with MAGA/right wing conservative values. Has anyone here BTDT?

Yes. We haven't told them. It's been over 2 years. Graduation is going to be fun.

Just kidding. We're not inviting them to graduation.