Men like me better heavier

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Anonymous wrote:In my 20s I weighed between 115-135, I’m 5’6”. At 115 all the women in the office would compliment me for being thin, at 135 I got a ton of male attention at bars, clubs, and even just walking down the street. Seems like lots of men like T&A and women are impressed by skinny.

This is generally true. Men like the curvy parts. Whereas women seem to admire being slim.

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Anonymous wrote:Lol what you are not heavy, this title is misleading. Go up to 150+ lbs at 5’4” and then report back if men like you heavier

I am pretty heavy, I guess, 155 at 5'2" and men are very, very nice to me. A lot of it is going to my chest and I have a smallish waist, at least proportionally. I don't look thin but I'm not huge either and men don't seem to care, men like anyone who is pretty enough with big boobs. Especially after a certain age, men seem to feel free to like whatever.

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155 at 5’2 is pretty big.

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Anonymous wrote:Lol what you are not heavy, this title is misleading. Go up to 150+ lbs at 5’4” and then report back if men like you heavier

She said heavier. As in, heavier than what she finds her ideal weight to be

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Anonymous wrote:I think more women than men are into the skeletal look. Or at least those of us that grew up with that as the most desirable look!

You should do whatever is best for you and your body, don't change your weight based on what other people like.

I don’t. I practice intuitive eating and I work out. This post is about moderate body positivity. Men might say things like “just don’t be fat” but their definition of fat is like 230 lbs, not 130.

Meh, Ive heard men say that anyone over 150lbs is fat, but 5'9 and 150 is quite thin.

I think the more apt statement is "men are dumb"

I wouldn't call that "quite thin." It isn't fat, but it isn't "quite thin" either.

I am 5’6” 150 and quite thin. Not skeletal, but comfortably wearing size 2-4 clothes. Body composition matters. 150 at 5’9” can easily look unhealthy skinny.

150 at 5’6 is not thin.

NP. Yes, one can look thin at 150 lbs and 5’6. It totally depends on your body type, how you carry yourself, how your weight is distributed. I’m also 5’6 and I’ve been everywhere between 115 lbs in high school-college and 160ish when massively pregnant. When I’ve been 150 I wear a size 4-6 comfortably. It’s not skinny but it’s thin. I have the classic hour glass shape and I’m muscular/strong. If I was flat chested and had no hips/butt and wasn’t muscular, no I wouldn’t look thin at 150 lbs.

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Anonymous wrote:FWIW I’ve never been overweight, not since I was a 9lb baby. But I’ve been all over the “normal” range of the BMI scale. I’m 5’4. I have been 112lbs to 132lbs.

I think I look best at 120. When I was over 130, men couldn’t keep their eyes off me. When I was 112, people randomly asked if I was feeling OK (not entirely because of my weight, but because I did actually look tired and weak all the time).

I have the same stats. What I’ve found is I get more attention at 130, but the quality of attention I get at 112 is significantly better. I don’t really need the UPS guy or the garbage man to think I’m hot, or my personal favorite, the guys walking out of their court hearings to shout out at me. I want to investment banker or the doctor. I weigh 120 now because I’m a middle aged mom, but I miss the 112 days. I really, really do.

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Anonymous wrote:FWIW I’ve never been overweight, not since I was a 9lb baby. But I’ve been all over the “normal” range of the BMI scale. I’m 5’4. I have been 112lbs to 132lbs.

I think I look best at 120. When I was over 130, men couldn’t keep their eyes off me. When I was 112, people randomly asked if I was feeling OK (not entirely because of my weight, but because I did actually look tired and weak all the time).

I have the same stats. What I’ve found is I get more attention at 130, but the quality of attention I get at 112 is significantly better. I don’t really need the UPS guy or the garbage man to think I’m hot, or my personal favorite, the guys walking out of their court hearings to shout out at me. I want to investment banker or the doctor. I weigh 120 now because I’m a middle aged mom, but I miss the 112 days. I really, really do.

I’m OP back again and there is certainly a class, cultural, and ethnic context. I also didn’t specify race - I’m half white (German/Irish) and half Middle Eastern (Lebanese). Wealthier people, especially White and Asian, value the thin and sleek aesthetic. I would say at 132 I received more attention from the general male population, not just lower SES. At 112 I only received attention from White guys, and a lot of people thought I looked sick (because I was).

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I’ve also been 110 to 142 at the same height. My DH likes me best around 130. He would die if I was 110 lbs but I’m also 45 so I think that would look a little crazy. My super happy weight is 127.

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Anonymous wrote:I think more women than men are into the skeletal look. Or at least those of us that grew up with that as the most desirable look!

You should do whatever is best for you and your body, don't change your weight based on what other people like.

I don’t. I practice intuitive eating and I work out. This post is about moderate body positivity. Men might say things like “just don’t be fat” but their definition of fat is like 230 lbs, not 130.

Meh, Ive heard men say that anyone over 150lbs is fat, but 5'9 and 150 is quite thin.

I think the more apt statement is "men are dumb"

I wouldn't call that "quite thin." It isn't fat, but it isn't "quite thin" either.

I am 5’6” 150 and quite thin. Not skeletal, but comfortably wearing size 2-4 clothes. Body composition matters. 150 at 5’9” can easily look unhealthy skinny.

150 at 5’6 is not thin.

NP. Yes, one can look thin at 150 lbs and 5’6. It totally depends on your body type, how you carry yourself, how your weight is distributed. I’m also 5’6 and I’ve been everywhere between 115 lbs in high school-college and 160ish when massively pregnant. When I’ve been 150 I wear a size 4-6 comfortably. It’s not skinny but it’s thin. I have the classic hour glass shape and I’m muscular/strong. If I was flat chested and had no hips/butt and wasn’t muscular, no I wouldn’t look thin at 150 lbs.

Agreed a lot really depends on body type. I have thicker legs/butt so 120s looks really really thin to begin with.

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I'm 5'4, have been everywhere from 90 to 155 pounds, and feel healthy, strong and slim enough at 120 (and can basically eat whatever I want at this weight). At a lower weight. I just get bony in the torso - I'm never going to have slender legs and willowy arms because I'm muscular.

Men in general never found me attractive at any weight. DH barely noticed when I lost 40 pounds a few years back. Women are definitely nicer to me at 120 than they were when I was heavier.

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Anonymous wrote:I think more women than men are into the skeletal look. Or at least those of us that grew up with that as the most desirable look!

You should do whatever is best for you and your body, don't change your weight based on what other people like.

I don’t. I practice intuitive eating and I work out. This post is about moderate body positivity. Men might say things like “just don’t be fat” but their definition of fat is like 230 lbs, not 130.

Meh, Ive heard men say that anyone over 150lbs is fat, but 5'9 and 150 is quite thin.

I think the more apt statement is "men are dumb"

I wouldn't call that "quite thin." It isn't fat, but it isn't "quite thin" either.

I am 5’6” 150 and quite thin. Not skeletal, but comfortably wearing size 2-4 clothes. Body composition matters. 150 at 5’9” can easily look unhealthy skinny.

150 at 5’6 is not thin.

NP. Yes, one can look thin at 150 lbs and 5’6. It totally depends on your body type, how you carry yourself, how your weight is distributed. I’m also 5’6 and I’ve been everywhere between 115 lbs in high school-college and 160ish when massively pregnant. When I’ve been 150 I wear a size 4-6 comfortably. It’s not skinny but it’s thin. I have the classic hour glass shape and I’m muscular/strong. If I was flat chested and had no hips/butt and wasn’t muscular, no I wouldn’t look thin at 150 lbs.

Thank you. That is exactly what I meant. It sounds like we are built similarly. I also hold a good amount of muscle and tend to add weight quite proportionally. I can still easily wear a size 4 across brands at 150. I feel best just below 145. The moment I get below 135 people start asking me if everything is ok. Height and weight in isolation (outside of the extremes) are quite meaningless for judging how heavy or healthy someone will look.

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I get more judgy comments and looks from women when I’m heavier. No real change from men.

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Call me.

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Men have evolved to be attracted to health and fertility. From an evolutionary perspective looking very skinny and gaunt and sickly would not desirable.

Obviously things have changed now that there are so many fat people and thinness is rarified and associated with wealth and status.

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Aren't you people married urban Moms and Dads, why are you trying to mold your bodies to attract the people?