Men like me better heavier

[Anonymous]

FWIW I’ve never been overweight, not since I was a 9lb baby. But I’ve been all over the “normal” range of the BMI scale. I’m 5’4. I have been 112lbs to 132lbs.

I think I look best at 120. When I was over 130, men couldn’t keep their eyes off me. When I was 112, people randomly asked if I was feeling OK (not entirely because of my weight, but because I did actually look tired and weak all the time).

[Anonymous]

You probably look a lot better and heathy closer to 130 than 112. Especially if you are middle aged.

[Anonymous]

I think more women than men are into the skeletal look. Or at least those of us that grew up with that as the most desirable look!

You should do whatever is best for you and your body, don't change your weight based on what other people like.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:FWIW I’ve never been overweight, not since I was a 9lb baby. But I’ve been all over the “normal” range of the BMI scale. I’m 5’4. I have been 112lbs to 132lbs.

I think I look best at 120. When I was over 130, men couldn’t keep their eyes off me. When I was 112, people randomly asked if I was feeling OK (not entirely because of my weight, but because I did actually look tired and weak all the time).

So what is the issue? Why do you care what men like?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:FWIW I’ve never been overweight, not since I was a 9lb baby. But I’ve been all over the “normal” range of the BMI scale. I’m 5’4. I have been 112lbs to 132lbs.

I think I look best at 120. When I was over 130, men couldn’t keep their eyes off me. When I was 112, people randomly asked if I was feeling OK (not entirely because of my weight, but because I did actually look tired and weak all the time).

So what is the issue? Why do you care what men like?

OP is trying to date women but keeps attracting men.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think more women than men are into the skeletal look. Or at least those of us that grew up with that as the most desirable look!

You should do whatever is best for you and your body, don't change your weight based on what other people like.

I don’t. I practice intuitive eating and I work out. This post is about moderate body positivity. Men might say things like “just don’t be fat” but their definition of fat is like 230 lbs, not 130.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think more women than men are into the skeletal look. Or at least those of us that grew up with that as the most desirable look!

You should do whatever is best for you and your body, don't change your weight based on what other people like.

I don’t. I practice intuitive eating and I work out. This post is about moderate body positivity. Men might say things like “just don’t be fat” but their definition of fat is like 230 lbs, not 130.

5'4" and 130 lbs is a BMI of 22. Smack-dab in the middle of the normal range. Why would anyone need to be reassured that men don't think that's fat? Only a brain deeply damaged by growing up in the heroin chic era would need this reassurance or think this was body positivity.

[Anonymous]

It sounds like you carry that last 10 lbs in T and A. Nice, and a bit of good luck.

A lot of women carry that last 10 lbs around the belly, which is not so lucky.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think more women than men are into the skeletal look. Or at least those of us that grew up with that as the most desirable look!

You should do whatever is best for you and your body, don't change your weight based on what other people like.

I don’t. I practice intuitive eating and I work out. This post is about moderate body positivity. Men might say things like “just don’t be fat” but their definition of fat is like 230 lbs, not 130.

5'4" and 130 lbs is a BMI of 22. Smack-dab in the middle of the normal range. Why would anyone need to be reassured that men don't think that's fat? Only a brain deeply damaged by growing up in the heroin chic era would need this reassurance or think this was body positivity.

Agree - but the beginning limit at 5'4" of what is considered "fat" is definitely not 230lbs.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think more women than men are into the skeletal look. Or at least those of us that grew up with that as the most desirable look!

You should do whatever is best for you and your body, don't change your weight based on what other people like.

I don’t. I practice intuitive eating and I work out. This post is about moderate body positivity. Men might say things like “just don’t be fat” but their definition of fat is like 230 lbs, not 130.

Meh, Ive heard men say that anyone over 150lbs is fat, but 5'9 and 150 is quite thin.

I think the more apt statement is "men are dumb"

[Anonymous]

We make up then we break up

[Anonymous]

I’m about the same build as you OP, and have the same experience. Men like me fatter than I like to be. The last five pounds is purely butt.

[Anonymous]

You are delulu.

[Anonymous]

I wish this was true for me. I’m currently a 22.5 BMI and think men would like me a lot more if I was, say, 20.5

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I wish this was true for me. I’m currently a 22.5 BMI and think men would like me a lot more if I was, say, 20.5

That is your perception of what they want. Not what they actually want.