Hugs?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I found an old thread to ask a question that I don’t want to attract much attention to. If there is a man who says that he only feels that he and you (woman) are friends and then gives you a really tight and long (at least 30 seconds) hug, what does that mean? Does he truly feel like a friend or is there something more going on? The woman is married, the man is single.

If he's gay, this is comforting. If he's het, this is super weird, unless they're childhood friends or otherwise especially close.

30 seconds of physical contact is pretty intimate.

Definitely not gay. Yes, so weird, has never happened to me before, therefore am trying to figure out what he meant by this hug.

[Anonymous]

Last time I hugged someone in that way, I just knew it would be the last time I saw this person and didn’t want them to go. I still think about it. I still miss them.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I found an old thread to ask a question that I don’t want to attract much attention to. If there is a man who says that he only feels that he and you (woman) are friends and then gives you a really tight and long (at least 30 seconds) hug, what does that mean? Does he truly feel like a friend or is there something more going on? The woman is married, the man is single.

If he's gay, this is comforting. If he's het, this is super weird, unless they're childhood friends or otherwise especially close.

30 seconds of physical contact is pretty intimate.

Definitely not gay. Yes, so weird, has never happened to me before, therefore am trying to figure out what he meant by this hug.

Are one of you going on a long trip? Recent loss or heavy news (e.g. cancer diagnosis)? Had you been venting about how shite life is right now, or some other situation that might make him feel compelled to offer comfort? Were there traveling hands or was it just a static, tight hug?

I mean, I don't want to jump to "eww, creepy" but... without some sort of reason or explanation, that is entirely too long a hug from someone who is simply hugging you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Prefer to not be hugged; just handed $5,000

You can grope my a** for $5,000.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I found an old thread to ask a question that I don’t want to attract much attention to. If there is a man who says that he only feels that he and you (woman) are friends and then gives you a really tight and long (at least 30 seconds) hug, what does that mean? Does he truly feel like a friend or is there something more going on? The woman is married, the man is single.

If he's gay, this is comforting. If he's het, this is super weird, unless they're childhood friends or otherwise especially close.

30 seconds of physical contact is pretty intimate.

Definitely not gay. Yes, so weird, has never happened to me before, therefore am trying to figure out what he meant by this hug.

Are one of you going on a long trip? Recent loss or heavy news (e.g. cancer diagnosis)? Had you been venting about how shite life is right now, or some other situation that might make him feel compelled to offer comfort? Were there traveling hands or was it just a static, tight hug?

I mean, I don't want to jump to "eww, creepy" but... without some sort of reason or explanation, that is entirely too long a hug from someone who is simply hugging you.

We'd worked together for a few months and had a couple of deep conversations. I'm fully remote, the company is on the West coast, where he lives. I recently went there for a business meeting and met him in person for the first time, outside of work. He gave me a tight hug when we met, then we went for a walk and he briefly hugged me a couple of times as we walked and then when it was time to say goodbye, he held me really tight and for a long time and didn't say anything, no traveling hands. I didn't complain to him about anything, and it's likely not going to be soon when we meet in person again but it certainly might happen in the future.

[Anonymous]

I prefer a good body to body, chest to chest, crotch to crotch, rubbing, with maybe a few squeezes of the rump type hug.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I found an old thread to ask a question that I don’t want to attract much attention to. If there is a man who says that he only feels that he and you (woman) are friends and then gives you a really tight and long (at least 30 seconds) hug, what does that mean? Does he truly feel like a friend or is there something more going on? The woman is married, the man is single.

If he's gay, this is comforting. If he's het, this is super weird, unless they're childhood friends or otherwise especially close.

30 seconds of physical contact is pretty intimate.

Definitely not gay. Yes, so weird, has never happened to me before, therefore am trying to figure out what he meant by this hug.

Are one of you going on a long trip? Recent loss or heavy news (e.g. cancer diagnosis)? Had you been venting about how shite life is right now, or some other situation that might make him feel compelled to offer comfort? Were there traveling hands or was it just a static, tight hug?

I mean, I don't want to jump to "eww, creepy" but... without some sort of reason or explanation, that is entirely too long a hug from someone who is simply hugging you.

We'd worked together for a few months and had a couple of deep conversations. I'm fully remote, the company is on the West coast, where he lives. I recently went there for a business meeting and met him in person for the first time, outside of work. He gave me a tight hug when we met, then we went for a walk and he briefly hugged me a couple of times as we walked and then when it was time to say goodbye, he held me really tight and for a long time and didn't say anything, no traveling hands. I didn't complain to him about anything, and it's likely not going to be soon when we meet in person again but it certainly might happen in the future.

Is he from another culture? The way you're describing it doesn't sound particularly creepy (which doesn't mean it didn't make you uncomfortable).

It's non-standard for USians with the parameters you described, but... maybe just odd?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I found an old thread to ask a question that I don’t want to attract much attention to. If there is a man who says that he only feels that he and you (woman) are friends and then gives you a really tight and long (at least 30 seconds) hug, what does that mean? Does he truly feel like a friend or is there something more going on? The woman is married, the man is single.

If he's gay, this is comforting. If he's het, this is super weird, unless they're childhood friends or otherwise especially close.

30 seconds of physical contact is pretty intimate.

Definitely not gay. Yes, so weird, has never happened to me before, therefore am trying to figure out what he meant by this hug.

Are one of you going on a long trip? Recent loss or heavy news (e.g. cancer diagnosis)? Had you been venting about how shite life is right now, or some other situation that might make him feel compelled to offer comfort? Were there traveling hands or was it just a static, tight hug?

I mean, I don't want to jump to "eww, creepy" but... without some sort of reason or explanation, that is entirely too long a hug from someone who is simply hugging you.

We'd worked together for a few months and had a couple of deep conversations. I'm fully remote, the company is on the West coast, where he lives. I recently went there for a business meeting and met him in person for the first time, outside of work. He gave me a tight hug when we met, then we went for a walk and he briefly hugged me a couple of times as we walked and then when it was time to say goodbye, he held me really tight and for a long time and didn't say anything, no traveling hands. I didn't complain to him about anything, and it's likely not going to be soon when we meet in person again but it certainly might happen in the future.

You two are having an emotional affair. (If you are both single, having an "affair" isn't bad.)

If that's not your intention, you should tell him.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I found an old thread to ask a question that I don’t want to attract much attention to. If there is a man who says that he only feels that he and you (woman) are friends and then gives you a really tight and long (at least 30 seconds) hug, what does that mean? Does he truly feel like a friend or is there something more going on? The woman is married, the man is single.

If he's gay, this is comforting. If he's het, this is super weird, unless they're childhood friends or otherwise especially close.

30 seconds of physical contact is pretty intimate.

Definitely not gay. Yes, so weird, has never happened to me before, therefore am trying to figure out what he meant by this hug.

Are one of you going on a long trip? Recent loss or heavy news (e.g. cancer diagnosis)? Had you been venting about how shite life is right now, or some other situation that might make him feel compelled to offer comfort? Were there traveling hands or was it just a static, tight hug?

I mean, I don't want to jump to "eww, creepy" but... without some sort of reason or explanation, that is entirely too long a hug from someone who is simply hugging you.

We'd worked together for a few months and had a couple of deep conversations. I'm fully remote, the company is on the West coast, where he lives. I recently went there for a business meeting and met him in person for the first time, outside of work. He gave me a tight hug when we met, then we went for a walk and he briefly hugged me a couple of times as we walked and then when it was time to say goodbye, he held me really tight and for a long time and didn't say anything, no traveling hands. I didn't complain to him about anything, and it's likely not going to be soon when we meet in person again but it certainly might happen in the future.

Is he from another culture? The way you're describing it doesn't sound particularly creepy (which doesn't mean it didn't make you uncomfortable).

It's non-standard for USians with the parameters you described, but... maybe just odd?

He and his parents were born in the US, a white male if it matters.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I found an old thread to ask a question that I don’t want to attract much attention to. If there is a man who says that he only feels that he and you (woman) are friends and then gives you a really tight and long (at least 30 seconds) hug, what does that mean? Does he truly feel like a friend or is there something more going on? The woman is married, the man is single.

If he's gay, this is comforting. If he's het, this is super weird, unless they're childhood friends or otherwise especially close.

30 seconds of physical contact is pretty intimate.

Definitely not gay. Yes, so weird, has never happened to me before, therefore am trying to figure out what he meant by this hug.

Are one of you going on a long trip? Recent loss or heavy news (e.g. cancer diagnosis)? Had you been venting about how shite life is right now, or some other situation that might make him feel compelled to offer comfort? Were there traveling hands or was it just a static, tight hug?

I mean, I don't want to jump to "eww, creepy" but... without some sort of reason or explanation, that is entirely too long a hug from someone who is simply hugging you.

We'd worked together for a few months and had a couple of deep conversations. I'm fully remote, the company is on the West coast, where he lives. I recently went there for a business meeting and met him in person for the first time, outside of work. He gave me a tight hug when we met, then we went for a walk and he briefly hugged me a couple of times as we walked and then when it was time to say goodbye, he held me really tight and for a long time and didn't say anything, no traveling hands. I didn't complain to him about anything, and it's likely not going to be soon when we meet in person again but it certainly might happen in the future.

You two are having an emotional affair. (If you are both single, having an "affair" isn't bad.)

If that's not your intention, you should tell him.

Well, I genuinely have no idea as to what is going on between us. I’m married, and he is a lot younger and single (I’m in my 40s, he is 30s). He told me he feels we are friends. And I don’t know if/when we’ll even meet in person again. We no longer work together and exchange text messages a couple of times a week.

[Anonymous]

I like to be hugged from the back with my tatas palmed. My wife thinks a man shouldn't expect this.

[Anonymous]

This is definitely not normal. I don't hug with my male friends, be it colleagues or former classmates. It seems like he has feelings for you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is definitely not normal. I don't hug with my male friends, be it colleagues or former classmates. It seems like he has feelings for you.

He probably does, and I do too. But it's so sad and can't go anywhere, as I understand that he should date and marry a young woman who he could build a family with.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I found an old thread to ask a question that I don’t want to attract much attention to. If there is a man who says that he only feels that he and you (woman) are friends and then gives you a really tight and long (at least 30 seconds) hug, what does that mean? Does he truly feel like a friend or is there something more going on? The woman is married, the man is single.

He cares about her.

In what way?

In the way that he probably wants more, but can’t go there. He’s savoring his time with you because that’s all he has. It sounds like he is respecting your boundaries and spouse even though he has feelings for you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Do women prefer to be squeezed while hugging or just held? Where should the arms land?

Held, no grope, hands around back or waist