"Baby not ready for daycare"

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Some children just are not "daycare kids," no matter how much you want it to work. You and your husband may want to look into doing part time work so you don't have to put your baby into care.

Exactly.

While there are some super sensitive children that may not be a good fit for daycare, I think that is rare and also may be indicative of a sensitivity issue generally. It does not sound as if the daycare provide in question spent enough time with this child to make such a judgment. Suggesting to the OP that her best option may be for her and her husband to change their careers to avoid any need for childcare is extreme and could add significant stress to their family, timewise, careerwise and financially. I think that is a rather extreme suggestion given the limited evidence the daycare provider had before making this pronouncement.

I agree totally. I think children who are not "daycare kids" are very rare.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Our provider did the same thing with a 5mth old baby. After a trial of two days, she told his parents that she couldn't handle him. And when our son started crawling and generally being more "work", she started complaining about him. Fearing she would throw him out, we looked for a new place. I am learning that daycare providers can pick and chose--they have that luxury so for them, it makes sense to pick and chose the 'easier' kids. When conducting interviews or checking references, ask the other parents if they know of such situations happening. It might not be your kid at all. It just might be they aren't willing to do the work.

IMHO if a provider cannot "handle" a 5 mo after only 2 days, and complains when one begins to crawl meaning it will be more work, that person needs to get out of the business. Fast. It is all part of the job, and a childs normal development. If a provider cant deal with that, then they have no business doing this type of work.

It basically reflects that the provider is incompetent in her line of work. Sad that they continue to stay in this field if they arent happy with it.

[Anonymous]

A baby did this at my son's daycare when she first started. That poor thing cried all the time. The providers did everything they could possibly do. I don't know how many weeks that baby cried but she is still at the daycare and she might as well be their ambassador -- she is the friendliest, happiest toddler you've ever seen.

Sometimes they need to get used to things.

Trust your gut. If you don't feel good about it, don't stay. But don't panic just because your LO doesn't like it.

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I know this won't help the OP but for anyone else reading - this is one major argument for starting daycare at 12 weeks. My baby could not have cared less, as long as she got fed and held some.

Two years later, I'm home with her due to a move. I've considered looking for a job here now that things are settled, but she really takes time to warm up to new people and situations.

I only add this because at 12 weeks, I was FREAKED at leaving her at daycare. She was so little! And helpless! and couldn't even sit up! I thought if only I had another 3 months, it would all be okay. Turns out it was the best thing for us both.

[Anonymous]

I would be concerned about the provider because she refused to accommodate the baby's schedule and instead made the parents cut short her afternoon nap. How will she treat the baby when they need regular naps throughout the day? Will she decide during naptime that it's music time with the toddlers or outside time for everyone, and make the baby miserable?

I agree that some babies cry, but I see a LOT of kids in my daycare - whiny, yes, but not outright crying ALL THE TIME.

I'd do two things. First, I'd insist on dropping the baby off in the AM - no if's, and's, or but's. If the provider refuses again, then find someplace else.

Second, I'd leave the baby with someone else for a couple hours. Those childless friends of yours who are waffling over having kids? Here you go! JK. But someone who's not too familiar would be a good test to see if it's just strange person/strange place anxiety or if indeed the provider isn't a good fit.