DD friend with food allergies?

[Anonymous]

What did the mom do when the child became sick in your house? I’m surprised they didn’t reach out to you proactively.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Apple, Banana, Oranges, Grapes

Don't buy anything special.

Exactly. We always have clementines or bananas around. If she doesn’t want that. She’s probably not that hungry.

Both of those are pretty common allergens.

OP needs to talk to this kid's parents. OP doesn't know what the kid is allergic to, so there's nothing safe that OP can feed the child until she knows.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Apple, Banana, Oranges, Grapes

Don't buy anything special.

Exactly. We always have clementines or bananas around. If she doesn’t want that. She’s probably not that hungry.

Both of those are pretty common allergens.

OP needs to talk to this kid's parents. OP doesn't know what the kid is allergic to, so there's nothing safe that OP can feed the child until she knows.

No, they aren’t. The back of packages does not say MAY CONTAIN BANANAS or MADE IN A FACILITY THAT ALSO PROCESSES CLEMENTINES.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Do you not regularly have fruit, vegetables, cheese, pretzels in your house? Really? That's...interesting.

NP. Did you read the OP's post? Cheese = dairy.

As the parent of a child with an anaphylactic allergy to eggs, I would prefer someone in OP's situation to either not feed my child at all or ask me ahead of time what foods are safe for her. Plain fruits and veggies are a great option, provided child is not allergic to them. But I don't expect anyone else to take responsibility for feeding my children and, particularly for the one with the egg allergy, I don't necessarily trust others to feed her, either. There's just too much risk there. She travels everywhere with snacks and an epi pen, just in case.
My DD has known since she was just barely 3yo not to ask for or take food from anyone other than myself, my DH, or her daycare teacher. It is important to teach children with food allergies to be able to speak up and advocate for themselves early, to keep them safer. This child should be able to advocate for themselves; that's a key life-saving skill for food allergies.

So anyway, there are plenty of easy snack choices that contain no allergens. It takes two seconds to think of five snack ideas that are dairy free or peanut free or what have you. I see you chose to ignore my suggestions of fruit, etc. What is wrong with fruit or some vegetables as a snack? If they don’t want it, they aren’t hungry.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Apple, Banana, Oranges, Grapes

Don't buy anything special.

Exactly. We always have clementines or bananas around. If she doesn’t want that. She’s probably not that hungry.

Both of those are pretty common allergens.

OP needs to talk to this kid's parents. OP doesn't know what the kid is allergic to, so there's nothing safe that OP can feed the child until she knows.

No, they aren’t. The back of packages does not say MAY CONTAIN BANANAS or MADE IN A FACILITY THAT ALSO PROCESSES CLEMENTINES.

Lol

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Apple, Banana, Oranges, Grapes

Don't buy anything special.

Exactly. We always have clementines or bananas around. If she doesn’t want that. She’s probably not that hungry.

Both of those are pretty common allergens.

OP needs to talk to this kid's parents. OP doesn't know what the kid is allergic to, so there's nothing safe that OP can feed the child until she knows.

Clementines and bananas are NOT common allergens. Get a grip - this is not a thing.

[Anonymous]

OP - be an adult and talk with her parents asap. They will be happy to talk with you about this. Why haven’t you already?

[Anonymous]

It is bizarre the parents didn’t reach out to you about this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:PP who just read your follow up. Okay I'd just say no snacks.

Even after a long day at school? Often she stays until dinner when one of her parents picks her up!

I guess it’ll have to be chips and fruit.

She eats things that make her ill but does not carry meds with her. She's 12 but does not seem to have a good handle on her allergies. She's been to your house numerous times but none of the adults have had a conversation about what's safe for her to eat.

This whole situation just seems off.

My 6 year old knows to ask about ingredients and only eats things he's eaten safely before. When in doubt, he just does not eat anything at someone else's house. It's not that hard.

All of this. Op, she's 12. If she can't/won't manage it just say "sorry, I don't know what I have that won't make you sick."

This is a little ridiculous at 12. Unless she was recently diagnosed.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Do you not regularly have fruit, vegetables, cheese, pretzels in your house? Really? That's...interesting.

Cheese = dairy and pretzels = wheat.

It’s… interesting… how much you need to learn to read more thoroughly.

[Anonymous]

Call the mother ask for a few things the kid can eat that have a long shelf life. Put them in the pantry and offer them to her when she comes. Or ask the mother to bring a snack supply over if money is an issue.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:PP who just read your follow up. Okay I'd just say no snacks.

Even after a long day at school? Often she stays until dinner when one of her parents picks her up!

I guess it’ll have to be chips and fruit.

She eats things that make her ill but does not carry meds with her. She's 12 but does not seem to have a good handle on her allergies. She's been to your house numerous times but none of the adults have had a conversation about what's safe for her to eat.

This whole situation just seems off.

My 6 year old knows to ask about ingredients and only eats things he's eaten safely before. When in doubt, he just does not eat anything at someone else's house. It's not that hard.

All of this. Op, she's 12. If she can't/won't manage it just say "sorry, I don't know what I have that won't make you sick."

This is a little ridiculous at 12. Unless she was recently diagnosed.

+1 from a parent of a kid with an anaphylactic allergy and always carries an epi-pen. Our daughter developed the habit of carrying her own snacks. You could be part of the encouragement/natural consequence to inspire her to embrace that. Feeding her food she might be allergic to feels cruel. Encouraging her to bring her own snacks might assist the parents in helping the girl create a new habit that she’s going to need over the course of her life.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Do you not regularly have fruit, vegetables, cheese, pretzels in your house? Really? That's...interesting.

NP. Did you read the OP's post? Cheese = dairy.

As the parent of a child with an anaphylactic allergy to eggs, I would prefer someone in OP's situation to either not feed my child at all or ask me ahead of time what foods are safe for her. Plain fruits and veggies are a great option, provided child is not allergic to them. But I don't expect anyone else to take responsibility for feeding my children and, particularly for the one with the egg allergy, I don't necessarily trust others to feed her, either. There's just too much risk there. She travels everywhere with snacks and an epi pen, just in case.
My DD has known since she was just barely 3yo not to ask for or take food from anyone other than myself, my DH, or her daycare teacher. It is important to teach children with food allergies to be able to speak up and advocate for themselves early, to keep them safer. This child should be able to advocate for themselves; that's a key life-saving skill for food allergies.

So anyway, there are plenty of easy snack choices that contain no allergens. It takes two seconds to think of five snack ideas that are dairy free or peanut free or what have you. I see you chose to ignore my suggestions of fruit, etc. What is wrong with fruit or some vegetables as a snack? If they don’t want it, they aren’t hungry.

No, I dodnt ignore it. Fruit and vegetables are likely a good option here as they are not common allergens, but there are people who are allergic to them. My older DD has a friend who is anaphylactic to peas and pea protein (this one is actually becoming more common). People with latex allergies may also react to bananas. Peanut allergy may also be cross-reactive with other legumes (peanuts are a legume, not a nut).
It sounds like the child in OP's post may have multiple allergies/sensitivities, so it would be important to verify beforehand. Frankly, as someone who has dealt with my own food allergies for decades, I'm shocked that a 12yo can't advocate for herself. Her parents really need to be aware that their child is poorly prepared in this respect, before a tragedy occurs.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Do you not regularly have fruit, vegetables, cheese, pretzels in your house? Really? That's...interesting.

Cheese = dairy and pretzels = wheat.

It’s… interesting… how much you need to learn to read more thoroughly.

Argue with fruit and vegetables as snacks. Go on, we'll wait. OP doesn't have fruits and vegetables around? Her kids only eat processed food as snacks?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Do you not regularly have fruit, vegetables, cheese, pretzels in your house? Really? That's...interesting.

Cheese = dairy and pretzels = wheat.

It’s… interesting… how much you need to learn to read more thoroughly.

Argue with fruit and vegetables as snacks. Go on, we'll wait. OP doesn't have fruits and vegetables around? Her kids only eat processed food as snacks?

See the post directly above this one.
Likely safe, yes...but always good to verify.
I mean, maybe I'm the oddball, but I always ask about food or pet allergies (we have a dog) before hosting other kids.