Why is polyamory getting a big push?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:True story: I just found out that a dad of a kid on my son’s sports team is a sex therapist who includes among his clients those into polyamory and kink. It’s all in his professional profile. Should I allow play dates between our kids? I’m leaning towards no. Any other opinions? I wish I were making this story up. Not a troll.

You're talking about clients of a therapist, that doesn't really tell you anything about his life.

He's a sex therapist. The chances of him being monogamous are zero.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:True story: I just found out that a dad of a kid on my son’s sports team is a sex therapist who includes among his clients those into polyamory and kink. It’s all in his professional profile. Should I allow play dates between our kids? I’m leaning towards no. Any other opinions? I wish I were making this story up. Not a troll.

You're talking about clients of a therapist, that doesn't really tell you anything about his life.

This.

What if the dad was a psychologist for prisoners, many of whom are likely rapists and murderers? It shouldn’t affect whether your son plays with his kid.

Presumably a psychologist for prisoners wants to help them to rehabilitate. A therapist for people into polyamory and kink might just want to help clients to be “better” at polyamory and kink, not necessarily to give it up. Some therapists, like the famous Nicole LaPerla, end up getting into polyamory themselves. Not my family values.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:End of civilization as we know it or may be some religions weee ahead of times for legitimization of polygamy?

Polygamy is a lot worse & more potential for abuse than polyamory. Polygamy traditionally conferred a degree of ownership over the women, with very limited options for the women who needed to leave the relationship.

Polyamory is lower stakes and more consensual.

Polygamy also tends to end up targetting younger and younger girls.

Polyamory as I've seen it is usually centered around a woman with multiple guys. But my exposure is limited.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:True story: I just found out that a dad of a kid on my son’s sports team is a sex therapist who includes among his clients those into polyamory and kink. It’s all in his professional profile. Should I allow play dates between our kids? I’m leaning towards no. Any other opinions? I wish I were making this story up. Not a troll.

You're talking about clients of a therapist, that doesn't really tell you anything about his life.

This.

What if the dad was a psychologist for prisoners, many of whom are likely rapists and murderers? It shouldn’t affect whether your son plays with his kid.

Presumably a psychologist for prisoners wants to help them to rehabilitate. A therapist for people into polyamory and kink might just want to help clients to be “better” at polyamory and kink, not necessarily to give it up. Some therapists, like the famous Nicole LaPerla, end up getting into polyamory themselves. Not my family values.

Nicole LaPera, sorry for typo

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:True story: I just found out that a dad of a kid on my son’s sports team is a sex therapist who includes among his clients those into polyamory and kink. It’s all in his professional profile. Should I allow play dates between our kids? I’m leaning towards no. Any other opinions? I wish I were making this story up. Not a troll.

You're talking about clients of a therapist, that doesn't really tell you anything about his life.

He's a sex therapist. The chances of him being monogamous are zero.

Ok…and so? How does this affect your kid?

I wouldn’t want my kid exposed to other partners, it’s too weird and confusing. But I wouldn’t expect that to happen when my kid is just on a play date with another kid.

Look, a sketchy pedo comes in all stripes. In fact, I would expect it to be less likely from a non-monogamous sex therapist because that person already has a fulfilling sex life and isn’t bound by shame. Pedos are more likely to be the Super Dads, the sports coaches, the religious types who are good at hiding who they are.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:NP. I’m poly and say nothing about it to anyone except my own partners and anonymous forums. 1) It’s no one else’s business, and 2) it works fantastically well for me but I would never in a million years presume it could or should work for others.

Are you solo poly?

No, I have two partners.

[Anonymous]

Polyamory is not my cup of tea at all, but I will say the New York Magazine cover with the polyamorous cats made me chuckle.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:End of civilization as we know it or may be some religions weee ahead of times for legitimization of polygamy?

Polygamy is a lot worse & more potential for abuse than polyamory. Polygamy traditionally conferred a degree of ownership over the women, with very limited options for the women who needed to leave the relationship.

Polyamory is lower stakes and more consensual.

Polygamy also tends to end up targetting younger and younger girls.

Polyamory as I've seen it is usually centered around a woman with multiple guys. But my exposure is limited.

Polyamory views sexual jealousy as a problem. Basically denies a huge part of human psychology

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:True story: I just found out that a dad of a kid on my son’s sports team is a sex therapist who includes among his clients those into polyamory and kink. It’s all in his professional profile. Should I allow play dates between our kids? I’m leaning towards no. Any other opinions? I wish I were making this story up. Not a troll.

You're talking about clients of a therapist, that doesn't really tell you anything about his life.

He's a sex therapist. The chances of him being monogamous are zero.

Ok…and so? How does this affect your kid?

I wouldn’t want my kid exposed to other partners, it’s too weird and confusing. But I wouldn’t expect that to happen when my kid is just on a play date with another kid.

Look, a sketchy pedo comes in all stripes. In fact, I would expect it to be less likely from a non-monogamous sex therapist because that person already has a fulfilling sex life and isn’t bound by shame. Pedos are more likely to be the Super Dads, the sports coaches, the religious types who are good at hiding who they are.

Until pedo becomes just another source of diversity.

All research shows that deviance is associated with other deviance.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:True story: I just found out that a dad of a kid on my son’s sports team is a sex therapist who includes among his clients those into polyamory and kink. It’s all in his professional profile. Should I allow play dates between our kids? I’m leaning towards no. Any other opinions? I wish I were making this story up. Not a troll.

You're talking about clients of a therapist, that doesn't really tell you anything about his life.

He's a sex therapist. The chances of him being monogamous are zero.

Ok…and so? How does this affect your kid?

I wouldn’t want my kid exposed to other partners, it’s too weird and confusing. But I wouldn’t expect that to happen when my kid is just on a play date with another kid.

Look, a sketchy pedo comes in all stripes. In fact, I would expect it to be less likely from a non-monogamous sex therapist because that person already has a fulfilling sex life and isn’t bound by shame. Pedos are more likely to be the Super Dads, the sports coaches, the religious types who are good at hiding who they are.

Until pedo becomes just another source of diversity.

All research shows that deviance is associated with other deviance.

Then religious institutions, prep schools, and scouting are de facto institutions of deviance, no?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why are so many “mainstream” publications pushing polyamory suddenly?

Honestly, i think it's because a lot of people that you would not suspect of being into it are into it. My best friend told me that their pastor at their evangelical megachurch had to address it. There was that Mormon Tik Tok scandal. I think it's because people are exploring it. I'm not. Sounds exhausting.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:True story: I just found out that a dad of a kid on my son’s sports team is a sex therapist who includes among his clients those into polyamory and kink. It’s all in his professional profile. Should I allow play dates between our kids? I’m leaning towards no. Any other opinions? I wish I were making this story up. Not a troll.

Unless the dad's office is in the house where the kids are going to be playing I think it's gonna be all right.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:True story: I just found out that a dad of a kid on my son’s sports team is a sex therapist who includes among his clients those into polyamory and kink. It’s all in his professional profile. Should I allow play dates between our kids? I’m leaning towards no. Any other opinions? I wish I were making this story up. Not a troll.

You're talking about clients of a therapist, that doesn't really tell you anything about his life.

This.

What if the dad was a psychologist for prisoners, many of whom are likely rapists and murderers? It shouldn’t affect whether your son plays with his kid.

Presumably a psychologist for prisoners wants to help them to rehabilitate. A therapist for people into polyamory and kink might just want to help clients to be “better” at polyamory and kink, not necessarily to give it up. Some therapists, like the famous Nicole LaPerla, end up getting into polyamory themselves. Not my family values.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:True story: I just found out that a dad of a kid on my son’s sports team is a sex therapist who includes among his clients those into polyamory and kink. It’s all in his professional profile. Should I allow play dates between our kids? I’m leaning towards no. Any other opinions? I wish I were making this story up. Not a troll.

You're talking about clients of a therapist, that doesn't really tell you anything about his life.

He's a sex therapist. The chances of him being monogamous are zero.

Ok…and so? How does this affect your kid?

I wouldn’t want my kid exposed to other partners, it’s too weird and confusing. But I wouldn’t expect that to happen when my kid is just on a play date with another kid.

Look, a sketchy pedo comes in all stripes. In fact, I would expect it to be less likely from a non-monogamous sex therapist because that person already has a fulfilling sex life and isn’t bound by shame. Pedos are more likely to be the Super Dads, the sports coaches, the religious types who are good at hiding who they are.

Until pedo becomes just another source of diversity.

All research shows that deviance is associated with other deviance.

Point us to just one example of this research.

Educate us. Thanks.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:True story: I just found out that a dad of a kid on my son’s sports team is a sex therapist who includes among his clients those into polyamory and kink. It’s all in his professional profile. Should I allow play dates between our kids? I’m leaning towards no. Any other opinions? I wish I were making this story up. Not a troll.

You're talking about clients of a therapist, that doesn't really tell you anything about his life.

He's a sex therapist. The chances of him being monogamous are zero.

Ok…and so? How does this affect your kid?

I wouldn’t want my kid exposed to other partners, it’s too weird and confusing. But I wouldn’t expect that to happen when my kid is just on a play date with another kid.

Look, a sketchy pedo comes in all stripes. In fact, I would expect it to be less likely from a non-monogamous sex therapist because that person already has a fulfilling sex life and isn’t bound by shame. Pedos are more likely to be the Super Dads, the sports coaches, the religious types who are good at hiding who they are.

Until pedo becomes just another source of diversity.

All research shows that deviance is associated with other deviance.

Point us to just one example of this research.

Educate us. Thanks.

Aella does a lot.

https://aella.substack.com/p/my-kink-survey-design-methodology