Why is polyamory getting a big push?

[Anonymous]

Polyamory has become just like CrossFit was a few years ago: 1. Nothing wrong with it if it works for you, many dig it; 2. Carries inherent risks that make it a bad fit for most people; 3. Practitioners cannot stop talking about it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Polyamory has become just like CrossFit was a few years ago: 1. Nothing wrong with it if it works for you, many dig it; 2. Carries inherent risks that make it a bad fit for most people; 3. Practitioners cannot stop talking about it.

It seems to me that you vanilla types can’t stop talking about it, either

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Polyamory has become just like CrossFit was a few years ago: 1. Nothing wrong with it if it works for you, many dig it; 2. Carries inherent risks that make it a bad fit for most people; 3. Practitioners cannot stop talking about it.

It seems to me that you vanilla types can’t stop talking about it, either

Ha! Who said I was vanilla? You shouldn’t presume. Heh

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Polyamory has become just like CrossFit was a few years ago: 1. Nothing wrong with it if it works for you, many dig it; 2. Carries inherent risks that make it a bad fit for most people; 3. Practitioners cannot stop talking about it.

It seems to me that you vanilla types can’t stop talking about it, either

Ha! Who said I was vanilla? You shouldn’t presume. Heh

Oh, please. If you weren’t a Suzy Homemaker type you wouldn’t be making digs at it.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:True story: I just found out that a dad of a kid on my son’s sports team is a sex therapist who includes among his clients those into polyamory and kink. It’s all in his professional profile. Should I allow play dates between our kids? I’m leaning towards no. Any other opinions? I wish I were making this story up. Not a troll.

I’m the PP with this predicament. I never ever mentioned that the dad could be a pedophile. That’s some other poster. You can ask Jeff. I just wanted to point out that polyamory has unfortunately become more mainstream when even a suburban soccer dad gives sex therapy advice to throuples. When I say I would like to avoid play dates, I would especially like to avoid them at his house. Not because he’s a pedo, but because our families clearly have a different outlook on life.

What exactly did you think sex therapists were going before? A sex therapist with moral limitations on who they will and won't treat is called a priest.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:True story: I just found out that a dad of a kid on my son’s sports team is a sex therapist who includes among his clients those into polyamory and kink. It’s all in his professional profile. Should I allow play dates between our kids? I’m leaning towards no. Any other opinions? I wish I were making this story up. Not a troll.

I’m the PP with this predicament. I never ever mentioned that the dad could be a pedophile. That’s some other poster. You can ask Jeff. I just wanted to point out that polyamory has unfortunately become more mainstream when even a suburban soccer dad gives sex therapy advice to throuples. When I say I would like to avoid play dates, I would especially like to avoid them at his house. Not because he’s a pedo, but because our families clearly have a different outlook on life.

What exactly did you think sex therapists were doing before? A sex therapist with moral limitations on who they will and won't treat is called a priest.

Should say *doing* before.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:NP. I’m poly and say nothing about it to anyone except my own partners and anonymous forums. 1) It’s no one else’s business, and 2) it works fantastically well for me but I would never in a million years presume it could or should work for others.

Just announce you're both polyamorous and asexual. It's the best of both worlds. Several bloggers have done this already.

What do those people do? Get coffee with their many non-lovers?

Wait, isn’t polyamorous asexuality just….friendship?

Friendship is old fashioned and boring. Polyamorous asexuality is the wave of the future!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:They’re also pushing divorced women power.

The trend is that people are waking up to the fact that the traditional marriage model is no longer relevant for many.

wokeness is so cool - 😑

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:They’re also pushing divorced women power.

The trend is that people are waking up to the fact that the traditional marriage model is no longer relevant for many.

I usually think white feminism is a crock, a term that was created to divide women and enforce misogyny, but your opinion sounds like a caricature of it.

People have been living "outside the traditional marriage model" for quite some time. It's not the fifties where we didn't acknowledge that.

But this idea that polyamory is some "progressive," "enlightened" state is also a crock. Do I have to bring up my west philly childhood spent in communal housing again? Ah, the seventies. All of our parents were doing each other. Our dads got custody, our moms had nervous breakdowns. I remember Dad telling me about how he had the clap and he wasn't sure if it was from Joan or Beth. Some of our parents died of AIDS. Our friendships and bonds with each other were formed and broken by who our parents fancied, or won, or lost. Our friends' older brothers tried to show us what adults do... And the adults shrugged it off. When our friends ran away from home at 14 to get away from said brother... Parents just said they were finding themselves. Or crazy. We were constantly patted on the back for being exceptional and then ignored, slogging off to take the trolley to Masterman at ten, come home to empty rooms, and some weird hippie named Sunshine who didn't wear any shoes who had apparently just moved in...

Sure, but I'm sure you all are totally hip, man. You probably draw up "contracts."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why are so many “mainstream” publications pushing polyamory suddenly?

I think once it hits up Bangalore, your thread will finally start poppin”. It needs so help.

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Anonymous wrote:Polyamory has become just like CrossFit was a few years ago: 1. Nothing wrong with it if it works for you, many dig it; 2. Carries inherent risks that make it a bad fit for most people; 3. Practitioners cannot stop talking about it.

It seems to me that you vanilla types can’t stop talking about it, either

Ha! Who said I was vanilla? You shouldn’t presume. Heh

Oh, please. If you weren’t a Suzy Homemaker type you wouldn’t be making digs at it.

Polyamorous people can be pretty--even painfully--vanilla, notwithstanding the non-monogamy. And plenty of monogamous people are very unvanilla (whatever the opposite of vanilla is). Making digs at how painfully awkward a lot of poly people doesn't mean that PP is vanilla.

[Anonymous]

They are trying to recruit new members.

[Anonymous]

The traditional, nuclear family was created maybe a century ago and is simply not how humans live or ever have lived. Arguably, its harmed many generations, because now you have to farm out and pay for child and elder care. Its also harmed couples, because one person can't be everything to another person-friend, lover, caretaker, etc. Marriage was for money and stability, not love, with people sleeping with whoever they wanted to outside of that arrangement. It was expected, at least for men. Poly is just a slightly more ethical take on the human condition. I appreciate the sentiment behind it, but you are all right, its still a goddamn mess.

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Anonymous wrote:NP. I’m poly and say nothing about it to anyone except my own partners and anonymous forums. 1) It’s no one else’s business, and 2) it works fantastically well for me but I would never in a million years presume it could or should work for others.

Just announce you're both polyamorous and asexual. It's the best of both worlds. Several bloggers have done this already.

What do those people do? Get coffee with their many non-lovers?

Wait, isn’t polyamorous asexuality just….friendship?

Friendship is old fashioned and boring. Polyamorous asexuality is the wave of the future!

Pretty much. I had a friend tell me she was "polyamorous" and I asked her was she having sex with one or both of her roommates? Surprise, none.

It was just more sexy to say that, instead of saying she was roommates with a couple for budget reasons.

[Anonymous]

Cope for millennial women stuck in situationships.