One and done families and snow day whining

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Anonymous wrote:I know several families who were scrambling yesterday because their younger child's daycare was open but their older child's school was not, and would have been thrilled at the suggestion of a playdate with an only child friend. I also know one SAHM of an only who hosted FIVE kids at her house yesterday because she didn't have to work and they have a huge basement with lots of activities for kids and a yard with a slope for mini-sledding. So she just provided a bunch of neighborhood families with free childcare for the day. I'm sure at least part of her motivation was for her own kid to have someone to play with, but I can't imagine being mad at someone for offering to watch your kid all day.

Wow! That woman sounds amazing! Sounds super fun for the kids and fantastic for the parents.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I know several families who were scrambling yesterday because their younger child's daycare was open but their older child's school was not, and would have been thrilled at the suggestion of a playdate with an only child friend. I also know one SAHM of an only who hosted FIVE kids at her house yesterday because she didn't have to work and they have a huge basement with lots of activities for kids and a yard with a slope for mini-sledding. So she just provided a bunch of neighborhood families with free childcare for the day. I'm sure at least part of her motivation was for her own kid to have someone to play with, but I can't imagine being mad at someone for offering to watch your kid all day.

That’s so nice! As a working mom of 3 I am always so grateful for the SAH and PT moms (and only child moms) that I’m friends with who will host my kid(s) or offer rides when they know it will help me out during the week.

I always try to reciprocate on weekends (or by hosting on early release days when I have to take off work anyway).

These weird I hate parents of only children, or SAHMs, or moms of 3+ threads are bizarre. It’s like people have one bad experience with someone and then extrapolate it to being a “trend” amongst all families of that demographic.

Also, who gets upset over a text about a play date on a snow day. It’s not that deep.

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Anonymous wrote:This is an insane reaction to someone asking about a playdate.

+1 I'll add that as a parent of a single, 5 year old child, the idea that OP *knows* that all these parents are one and done by choice is idiotic. No one is going to share with someone as nasty and judgmental as OP that they are facing secondary infertility.

This. You don't know who is one and done by choice anymore than you know who had their youngest on purpose or by accident.

And it even matter why someone is one and done. It’s not OP’s or anyone’s business. Make plans or don’t. But this vent was totally off base and unnecessary.

[Anonymous]

As a one and done mom I really tried to seek out other one and done families but seemed like everyone was fixated on having more kids and even once great playmates would suddenly get baby siblings!
Thankfully these days are long gone but I still remember the frustration lol!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I know many families with one child, and none of them expect this. Beyond asking about play dates occasionally, which they offer to host, they don’t push or invite any more than other parents.

The only pushy family I know has three kids and is constantly trying to dump kids on other people. I’m not saying all families of 3+ are like this, I’m just saying I think pushy people are pushy and it has nothing to do with how many kids they have.

Ha, this!

The families I know with one kid are doing just fine. (We have two). The families with three kids are the ones looking for play dates.

[Anonymous]

This seems like a very broad brush to paint with OP. Some parents handle these things better than others. I see no correlation to number of children or working status.

[Anonymous]

Why are you so mean about a play date? My oldest of two asked for a play date with his friend when we were home for a snow day yesterday. I don’t think that’s weird.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am so tired of the one and done by choice families I know complaining about how their kids won't let them get anything done on snow days and especially on holidays where they chose not to put their kids in camp. No, your child cannot have a play date on those days just because you need a way to occupy them. I have two children who like each other and play together and that's how we get through these days. YOU NEED TO COME UP WITH A PLAN THAT DOES NOT INVOLVE OTHER CHILDREN. You can't use me as your backup plan. I have a job and my own two kids to look after. Nope, just stop.

Wowowow, who hurt you? I love having only children over for a play date.

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Lol I love that this thread is a bunch of posters with varying numbers of kids just uniting around the idea that OP is wrong.

A rare moment of consensus on the mommy fight site!

[Anonymous]

Wait, you are upset because this family invited your kid over for a playdate at their house?? That's a bizarre reaction!

[Anonymous]

I have 3 kids. 2 of the 3 kids went to other people’s houses. I happily hung out with the youngest. I considered trying to coordinate a play date or sledding but I was lazy and didn’t want to change out of my pajamas.

Your response is strange for a play date request.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I am so tired of the one and done by choice families I know complaining about how their kids won't let them get anything done on snow days and especially on holidays where they chose not to put their kids in camp. No, your child cannot have a play date on those days just because you need a way to occupy them. I have two children who like each other and play together and that's how we get through these days. YOU NEED TO COME UP WITH A PLAN THAT DOES NOT INVOLVE OTHER CHILDREN. You can't use me as your backup plan. I have a job and my own two kids to look after. Nope, just stop.

Wowowow, who hurt you? I love having only children over for a play date.

You must have the mask that says, Ok Daddy, I will do it

It's not always fun having other kids at your home
Respect her choice you ignorant b.......

[Anonymous]

I have a now 11yo only. I’m at work today and spouse is home with her until 345 when they go to work and sitter comes.
DD has been to skyzone with a friend this morning for 2 hours ( my spouse took friend) and now she’s outside sledding with a neighborhood friend who is not an only but sibling is quite a bit younger.
I’m so glad not everyone is like you OP.

[Anonymous]

My feeling is that this family has pawned off their kid with them before.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My feeling is that this family has pawned off their kid with them before.

I have 3 kids but we know several families who have only one kid.

They often host or offer to take my kid with them to do an activity. I never once felt they were pawning off their kid.

I have a large age gap. I don’t work so I don’t need childcare. I find myself hosting more play dates for my youngest. I don’t know if it is because I stay home and can or if she is the youngest and kind of like an only with two much older siblings.