Is this an offensive joke ?

[Anonymous]

OP, what do you think a date is? Did you know that it is traditionally a term for someone who is interested in you?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Am I the only one that thinks it’s offensive to Middle Eastern people? Maybe you’re too young and didn’t have any old relatives that made jokes about how someone would try to buy you for 3 camels if you went to the Middle East. That used to be a common racist joke about the Middle East—that they liked to buy women.

Sounds like most people on this thread have never heard about that joke.

[Anonymous]

It's a COMPLIMENT. You can take it however you like, but you're the weirdo if you don't understand he's saying you're hot.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Shared my photo in a souvenir store on travel to a Middle East country with a date. He asked what I bought and then texted a few hrs later -“how much were they asking for the hot woman in the chair ?”
It’s me sitting in the chair, very appropriately dressed for the area.
Is it offensive (implying I was prostituting myself)?

Why did you send him a picture of a store? Were you expecting him to buy something for you?

It's banter. It's expected behavior from a date.

Are you a very literal person?
Have you had a problem in the past with people making comments that confuse you?
Do you prefer nonfiction and prose fictional and poetry?
Do you tell far fewer hoes than other people?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Shared my photo in a souvenir store on travel to a Middle East country with a date. He asked what I bought and then texted a few hrs later -“how much were they asking for the hot woman in the chair ?”
It’s me sitting in the chair, very appropriately dressed for the area.
Is it offensive (implying I was prostituting myself)?

Why were you in a souvenir store? Buying things in a foreign country is literally cultural appropriation. He was awkwardly trying to defuse your offensive photo, by highlighting the only non culturally appropriative part of the image.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Shared my photo in a souvenir store on travel to a Middle East country with a date. He asked what I bought and then texted a few hrs later -“how much were they asking for the hot woman in the chair ?”
It’s me sitting in the chair, very appropriately dressed for the area.
Is it offensive (implying I was prostituting myself)?

Why did you send him a picture of a store? Were you expecting him to buy something for you?

It's banter. It's expected behavior from a date.

Are you a very literal person?
Have you had a problem in the past with people making comments that confuse you?
Do you prefer nonfiction and prose fictional and poetry?
Do you tell far fewer hoes than other people?

jokes not hoes! Autocorrect has an on topic sense of humor!

[Anonymous]

I think you are too sensitive for this guy. Move on.

[Anonymous]

Nothing wrong with being a high end escort. Oldest professional on Earth.

[Anonymous]

It’s funny and I’d take it as a compliment. To find it offensive indicates your sense of humor is very lacking. Respond back “you can’t afford me!”

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Am I the only one that thinks it’s offensive to Middle Eastern people? Maybe you’re too young and didn’t have any old relatives that made jokes about how someone would try to buy you for 3 camels if you went to the Middle East. That used to be a common racist joke about the Middle East—that they liked to buy women.

Yes, you are the only one. It would have been offensive if he'd said: All women in Egypt are whores so you must also be for sale since you are in Egypt!

But that is not what he said.

Have people totally lost the ability to flirt? Is that what's happened?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Thank you - what do I respond ? I’m puzzled it’s such a weird sentence from him, the person is not a weirdo at all

It was flirtatious. Flirt back, ask him how much he willing to pay.

My husband will text me a picture of me in the middle of the day and say “came across this picture in my photos of this beautiful woman, thinking about asking her out on a date tonight.”

Cheesy, cute flirting.

[Anonymous]

You sent him a picture of yourself, he paid you a compliment

Smdh

[Anonymous]

You were in a souvenir store, he was joking that you were one of the items for sale, but not in a prostitute kind of way. He was just trying to call you hot.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Not offensive IMO. Agree with PP that it was meant as a compliment.

Yes, it's a cheesy compliment, and should get a smile emoji in return.

And if you can't figure this out, you've got problems with social skills.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Shared my photo in a souvenir store on travel to a Middle East country with a date. He asked what I bought and then texted a few hrs later -“how much were they asking for the hot woman in the chair ?”
It’s me sitting in the chair, very appropriately dressed for the area.
Is it offensive (implying I was prostituting myself)?

How this a question? I mean, literally. He said something to you in private. Why are you asking other people to tell you whether it's offensive? Did it offend you?

Are you asking if you should be offended by things that do not offend you? The answer is no. You should not be offended by things that don't offend you.

Are you asking if you should not be offended by things that offend you? Probably. Being less offended is an aspect of high self-esteem and confidence. But everyone has their insecurities so it's OK to ask people to avoid giving needless offense.