s/o "I had to change my name because of logistical issues"

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's kind of exhausting to keep track of who are the parents of each kid my kid makes plans with.

You could say it's because phone books are missing useful features for coordinating members of a family, but one name per family, especially a unique name per family, is simpler.

What is a phone book?

Lol...all the PTAs in my town quit making them about 2015.

I have only used an online phone directory type thing once in the last 10 years to find a distant cousin to speak to for genealogy purposes.

If I never see you face to face and I don't have your e-mail, you don't exist. Kid can bring home your preferred contact info and we go from there. Usually only moms are contacts anyway. I make a contact list for parents at off-site birthday parties.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Also chiming in that in the 13 years I've been a parent with her own name, I also have never had a single issue traveling domestically or internationally, at school, or in any other situation.

I took dh's last name and I consider it my own. I'm sure you don't intend to imply that those who change their last names don't have their "own name", but we do. I'm Jill Dh's Lastname. I chose this name. It is my own name.

You know what she meant. Birth name.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Also chiming in that in the 13 years I've been a parent with her own name, I also have never had a single issue traveling domestically or internationally, at school, or in any other situation.

I took dh's last name and I consider it my own. I'm sure you don't intend to imply that those who change their last names don't have their "own name", but we do. I'm Jill Dh's Lastname. I chose this name. It is my own name.

Oh, PLEASE. You know exactly what she meant. You're in the majority, so don't play oppressed victim here.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's kind of exhausting to keep track of who are the parents of each kid my kid makes plans with.

You could say it's because phone books are missing useful features for coordinating members of a family, but one name per family, especially a unique name per family, is simpler.

Do you believe other women should change their names beacuse you find it "exhausting?" Serious question.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's kind of exhausting to keep track of who are the parents of each kid my kid makes plans with.

You could say it's because phone books are missing useful features for coordinating members of a family, but one name per family, especially a unique name per family, is simpler.

Does your school's phonebook not cross-reference? Mine does (and so does my temple's). This is perhaps an indicator of how common it is to have multiple last name households.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:What is up with all these name change threads recently? Is this a troll / bot? What is your angle?

Big Print at it again. They profit from name changes because it increases demands for new business cards.

Who still uses business cards in 2024?

People who go to conferences? I still give and recieve tons of business cards!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What is up with all these name change threads recently? Is this a troll / bot? What is your angle?

Big Print at it again. They profit from name changes because it increases demands for new business cards.

Who still uses business cards in 2024?

People who go to conferences? I still give and recieve tons of business cards!

pretty sure the "big print" conspiracy is not a serious comment

[Anonymous]

Totally agree. I didn't change my name and it is never been an issue.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I had an issue getting on a flight in Italy with my kids. My husband had boarded in front of us and a flight crew person had to go retrieve him for us to all board. When I travel with my kid(s) without my husband I take their official birth certificates.

This should be happening regardless of last name when traveling internationally. They want to make sure you are not abducting the child and have permission from the other parent to move them internationally.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Also chiming in that in the 13 years I've been a parent with her own name, I also have never had a single issue traveling domestically or internationally, at school, or in any other situation.

I took dh's last name and I consider it my own. I'm sure you don't intend to imply that those who change their last names don't have their "own name", but we do. I'm Jill Dh's Lastname. I chose this name. It is my own name.

You know what she meant. Birth name.

My birth name includes my father's last name. Whatever women choose to do namewise, they still have a man's last name.

[Anonymous]

Why are we fighting about this? Honestly it's just tearing women apart, feeling like they have to justify every. single. choice.

STOP!

You're choice is fine, no justification necessary! Especially as it has no bearing on me. The feminist movement intended to give us more choice, and it did. Let's relax with stuff like this and save our energy for the big stuff, like medical testing, workplace rights and protections, lowering the maternal death rate, etc.

[Anonymous]

No one has to. We're just sick of feminists harping on us for doing so.

[Anonymous]

I think the point is that it's silly to use "I just knew I'd encounter terrible logistical issues" when nooo one encounters them

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think the point is that it's silly to use "I just knew I'd encounter terrible logistical issues" when nooo one encounters them

Who cares. Women say things like that because they clearly think they are being judged. The point is to stop judging on both sides.

[Anonymous]

I changed my name and the hardest change was for frequent flyer accounts. I would say the potential hassle is more social rather than logistical. Who should Second Cousin Mary address the wedding invite to? Not that big a problem for most people now that couples aren’t always even married much less sharing a name.

This thread has made me realize how easy it would be to pick up random people’s prescriptions. I know they take IDs for controlled substances, but in general I’m surprised there’s not more theft. If I refused to put in my phone number at Walgreens would they still give me my husband’s prescription?