DH doesn’t care that I am sick

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What a jackass. You have permission to rip him a new one. Here’s what you can say:
“Let me clear with you: your behavior the past several days has been reprehensible. I’m 35 weeks pregnant with your child and sick as a dog. The best you can do is give me some coconut water. Your lack of care is not okay. To be clear, you’ll be taking care of your family when they’re here. I’m focused on two things: getting better and growing this baby. What questions might you have?”

Good Lord it's so bad when people suggest scripts, especially haughty, self-righteous nonsense like the above.

Ignore this fool, OP. By all means, made your needs known, but there's no need to be that nasty and aggressive. PP is a goddamned idiot.

Nah. He’s been rude. Time to be clear about boundaries in the most plain language possible. If not, he’ll always expect his spouse to power through any illness just so he doesn’t have to play host to his family or step up with his kids.

That isn’t plain language. It’s being a whiny, insufferable beeyotch. It’s escalating conflict instead of being assertive. It’s nasty and will backfire.

[Anonymous]

Wow you are screwed OP. Too bad you didn’t wise up prior to having a kid with him.

[Anonymous]

Maybe he cares more about being employed that he does the difference in your comfort between the bed and the sofa.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What a jackass. You have permission to rip him a new one. Here’s what you can say:
“Let me clear with you: your behavior the past several days has been reprehensible. I’m 35 weeks pregnant with your child and sick as a dog. The best you can do is give me some coconut water. Your lack of care is not okay. To be clear, you’ll be taking care of your family when they’re here. I’m focused on two things: getting better and growing this baby. What questions might you have?”

Good Lord it's so bad when people suggest scripts, especially haughty, self-righteous nonsense like the above.

Ignore this fool, OP. By all means, made your needs known, but there's no need to be that nasty and aggressive. PP is a goddamned idiot.

Men like PP’s DH don’t do anything unless it is stated to them very clearly. He’s being a selfish jerk and deserves to be called out on it.

[Anonymous]

Is your bedroom the office for work at home spouse? Can you just relocate to the couch if that’s where he works?

[Anonymous]

Guy here - I thought he was a jerk just because you are sick. The fact that you are 35 weeks pregnant is outrageous. If I were your father or your brother I’d beat the crap out of him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Guy here - I thought he was a jerk just because you are sick. The fact that you are 35 weeks pregnant is outrageous. If I were your father or your brother I’d beat the crap out of him.

What a prince.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So much recycled drama on DCUM.

It’s almost as someone just lurked around for a year and then just mashes up 5 themes into 5-10 posts each day.

+1. Was the original post created by AI?

[Anonymous]

You sound insufferable OP

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Op here. My parents are in the guest room which is why I am not sleeping there. They have been taking care of our first kid while I am sick, not DH. DH stormed off to his office in a huff this morning “so I could rest” and took a $80 Uber there instead of his usual commute to make a point. Anyway I feel better as of this afternoon. This has been eye opening though and I am not going to do anything for his family when they arrive tomorrow. Usually I entertain them while he is at work. That is all on him.

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I’m stuck on him being unwilling to leave the bedroom. WTFFFFF

I mean, it’s a pain to move a WFH setup, but with you making an explicit actionable request for this reason, the degree of hassle involved is not even worth mentioning. Directly refusing is worse interpersonal behavior than I would expect from an actual sociopath, TBH.

That is effed. Sorry OP

[Anonymous]

I give you permission to check into the Ritz.

[Anonymous]

Honestly it sounds like the two of you have so much drama in your relationship. Who the heck takes an 80 uber out of spite from a shared pool of money in marriage? He sounds like a loser, you sound high maintenance and like you love drama.

[Anonymous]

And maybe he didnt want to move his work location since your parents are there? You left that detail out, I know for certain I wouldnt work around my in-laws and stay camped out in my bedroom.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Guy here - I thought he was a jerk just because you are sick. The fact that you are 35 weeks pregnant is outrageous. If I were your father or your brother I’d beat the crap out of him.

Such toxic masculinity. What a loser this guy is.