Trying to recover from cheating spouse but will never feel the same

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why must you “regain interest” in someone you cannot trust or respect? Can you just live separate lives in your home, as much as is practically possible? Do you have a guest room so you don’t have to share a bed? You can be civil and polite in his presence and in conversations around logistical stuff, etc. but I think you can put intimacy on the back burner until ready (if ever).

It would probably be better for OPs health if she can find a way to forgive her husband, and they can get their marriage back to a healthy place again.

It will be better for the kids too, if they can follow the counseling process through, until they can again regain interest. It’s worth doing it, for the kids if not for OP too.

[Anonymous]

Another on the “other side.” Mine cheated years before and we did the whole therapy thing and it got a little better. Years went by, then he cheated again and our lives blew up. I divorced him immediately even though I had no job. It has been hard, financially and logistically, but people who cheat repeatedly? They will not ever change. Never. They have a missing chip and it can never be relearned or reprogrammed. You are best to separate from him as swiftly as possible because I promise you if you stay he will hurt you over and over and over again. Good luck.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Another on the “other side.” Mine cheated years before and we did the whole therapy thing and it got a little better. Years went by, then he cheated again and our lives blew up. I divorced him immediately even though I had no job. It has been hard, financially and logistically, but people who cheat repeatedly? They will not ever change. Never. They have a missing chip and it can never be relearned or reprogrammed. You are best to separate from him as swiftly as possible because I promise you if you stay he will hurt you over and over and over again. Good luck.

Consider this post carefully OP. Repeat cheaters… keep cheating, even after therapy. How many D-days do you want in your life?

[Anonymous]

Sex workers??? No! There’s is no regaining interest after cheating. But sec workers??? GTFO!!

[Anonymous]

Leaving him is doing what’s best for your kids