Would you stay in this marriage?

[Anonymous]

All of you, "no kids I'd leave" people are really annoying on EVERY thread like this. FFS some people have NO family, NO friends, NO help to leave like as if not having kids is the only thing stopping you for some others there are other things not stopping people from leaving. Kids is not the end all be all. Expand your mind for God sakes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:All of you, "no kids I'd leave" people are really annoying on EVERY thread like this. FFS some people have NO family, NO friends, NO help to leave like as if not having kids is the only thing stopping you for some others there are other things not stopping people from leaving. Kids is not the end all be all. Expand your mind for God sakes.

Well it would be good, then, if OP told us what is preventing her from leaving.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:All of you, "no kids I'd leave" people are really annoying on EVERY thread like this. FFS some people have NO family, NO friends, NO help to leave like as if not having kids is the only thing stopping you for some others there are other things not stopping people from leaving. Kids is not the end all be all. Expand your mind for God sakes.

Well it would be good, then, if OP told us what is preventing her from leaving.

She did. He is a decent person, good earner and good housemate.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:All of you, "no kids I'd leave" people are really annoying on EVERY thread like this. FFS some people have NO family, NO friends, NO help to leave like as if not having kids is the only thing stopping you for some others there are other things not stopping people from leaving. Kids is not the end all be all. Expand your mind for God sakes.

Well it would be good, then, if OP told us what is preventing her from leaving.

She did. He is a decent person, good earner and good housemate.

This is not a good reason to live in misery. She can get a roommate, have a job, and meet other decent people who can emotionally connect. This is not complicated.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Did you take a vow to stay with him? Does your promise mean anything? Or were those just pretty words you said for show, and that you didn’t really mean? Serious questions.

Apparently not. People rush into and out of marriages without much consideration or any sense of sincerity and loyalty.

+1. Why did you get married at all OP? Let me guess, your family put a loaded shotgun to your back and forced you into it?

[Anonymous]

It sounds like you like him as your local handyman but not as a partner. I think a partnership should be so much more! I wouldn’t want to live my life next to someone, I want to live with them, and share life and love. I don’t think I’d feel fulfilled in your shoes and would leave.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Do you have shared interests? does you libido match his?

Not a lot of shared interests. My libido is higher.

Why marry someone you don't have much in common with or physically compatible with? Why not take time to find out before marrying?

Because likely OP can’t do much better.

[Anonymous]

To all you “why’d you marry him” posters who show up on every thread like this, have you ever been young and naive and made a poor choice? Do you think shaming the OP is somehow helpful? Can you please go somewhere else to feel superior?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Did you take a vow to stay with him? Does your promise mean anything? Or were those just pretty words you said for show, and that you didn’t really mean? Serious questions.

Apparently not. People rush into and out of marriages without much consideration or any sense of sincerity and loyalty.

+1. Why did you get married at all OP? Let me guess, your family put a loaded shotgun to your back and forced you into it?

I bet $5 all of these posts are the same person.

[Anonymous]

No kids? Then what's stopping you?

This was my exDH. Except mine was super critical and mean sometimes. You will need more support as a mom with young kids.

[Anonymous]

No kids?? Then leaving is easy! Get out! No reason to stay!

[Anonymous]

Didn’t you figure all this out before getting married? If I were you, heck yeah I’d leave.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:All of you, "no kids I'd leave" people are really annoying on EVERY thread like this. FFS some people have NO family, NO friends, NO help to leave like as if not having kids is the only thing stopping you for some others there are other things not stopping people from leaving. Kids is not the end all be all. Expand your mind for God sakes.

Because those of us with kids know it gets much harder and more stressful once you have kids. And the problems you have now will only be exacerbated 5 fold. And had we known then what we know now, we would have ended it sooner and saved everyone so much pain

[Anonymous]

I would leave.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:His cleverness and seeming like a good person drew me to him…but the lack of connection is wearing me down. I feel lonely, unseen and I do all the work at maintaining the emotional side of the relationship. No intention of having kids.

Move on