Suggestion if you are looking for T(w)een dress that is not Bodycon

[Anonymous]

OP, tween mom here and appreciate the link! I think it is a super cute, on trend and tasteful choice. Hope your DD feels great in it and has a good time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sorry but that dress is terrible. There are SO many other options on Lulus.

There are dresses that aren't great on the model, but look better in real life. I'll bet OP's DD looked great

There were 50+ pics on Lulus of real life people wearing the dress. 1, its cheap looking and 2, the cutout and back hanging out is not appropriate for a religious ceremony. Its like a mullet dress... unfortunate business in the front and party in the back.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I was having a hard time finding a dress for my tall 12 year old that wasn't tight, short and low-cut for her friend's Bat Mitzvah. I just wanted to share that we got this dress and it worked out great:
https://www.lulus.com/products/blissful-love-burgundy-cutout-mini-skater-dress/1572136.html

Some of her friends who were also trying to strike the balance of looking good but not too provocative (or their parents were) came out looking slightly on the babyish side. But this one was a hit. DD looked sophisticated but the dress was not revealing. Shows just a bit of skin in the back, but she was comfortable with it. The site has some other cute options, too.

I hope this helps!

The dress is lovely, and I'm sure your child looked beautiful. I still would have preferred the "babyish" dresses. Your child is 12. She has the rest of her teen years to wear short dresses with cutouts. I don't care if my child looks sophisticated at 12. Stop criticizing her friends parents who want their 12 year old children to look like children.

True. Also a bat mitzvah is a religious event in a synagogue. There shouldn’t be cut-outs, especially on a 12 year old. It’s not a bar.

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[Anonymous]

Never been to a bar/bat? You wear a light sweater in the service and take it off when you walk into the party.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I was having a hard time finding a dress for my tall 12 year old that wasn't tight, short and low-cut for her friend's Bat Mitzvah. I just wanted to share that we got this dress and it worked out great:
https://www.lulus.com/products/blissful-love-burgundy-cutout-mini-skater-dress/1572136.html

Some of her friends who were also trying to strike the balance of looking good but not too provocative (or their parents were) came out looking slightly on the babyish side. But this one was a hit. DD looked sophisticated but the dress was not revealing. Shows just a bit of skin in the back, but she was comfortable with it. The site has some other cute options, too.

I hope this helps!

The dress is lovely, and I'm sure your child looked beautiful. I still would have preferred the "babyish" dresses. Your child is 12. She has the rest of her teen years to wear short dresses with cutouts. I don't care if my child looks sophisticated at 12. Stop criticizing her friends parents who want their 12 year old children to look like children.

Op here. Thanks for your comment. Do you have a child around this age? Because I can tell you that most of the girls (almost everyone) at the bat mitzvahs wear dresses like this:
https://www.lucyinthesky.com/shop/breakaway-bodycon-in-shimmer-black-54807?utm_source=google&utm_medium=cpc&utm_campaign=19998568705&utm_content=&gad_source=1&gclid=Cj0KCQiAo7KqBhDhARIsAKhZ4uhyLj3yt9kUVGwokVHtrLlGKnbxVkhTMMFxpe6SaEjJnlJkQr-sYlcaAsQDEALw_wcB

This is no exaggeration. I am just saying that it's hard to find something that looks sophisticated, but not too mature. A kid is not comfortable in a sea of peers dressed like that-- wearing something that looks like it could have come from the Children's Place. DD's friend texted her mom angrily from the event that her dress was all wrong. (I thought this girl looked very beautiful. But "young" considering the crowd.) Hence, my post. I hope it was helpful to some.

If you have a different experience, please let me know. Maybe it is a regional thing. I am in NYC area.

Ok that's pretty awful

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I was having a hard time finding a dress for my tall 12 year old that wasn't tight, short and low-cut for her friend's Bat Mitzvah. I just wanted to share that we got this dress and it worked out great:
https://www.lulus.com/products/blissful-love-burgundy-cutout-mini-skater-dress/1572136.html

Some of her friends who were also trying to strike the balance of looking good but not too provocative (or their parents were) came out looking slightly on the babyish side. But this one was a hit. DD looked sophisticated but the dress was not revealing. Shows just a bit of skin in the back, but she was comfortable with it. The site has some other cute options, too.

I hope this helps!

The dress is lovely, and I'm sure your child looked beautiful. I still would have preferred the "babyish" dresses. Your child is 12. She has the rest of her teen years to wear short dresses with cutouts. I don't care if my child looks sophisticated at 12. Stop criticizing her friends parents who want their 12 year old children to look like children.

True. Also a bat mitzvah is a religious event in a synagogue. There shouldn’t be cut-outs, especially on a 12 year old. It’s not a bar.

OP again. The link I shared of the bodycon dress in the previous post is the kind of dress the Jewish girls in the friend group, who go to Bat Mitzvahs all the time and have been Bat Mitzvah'd (sp?) themselves, wear all the time at these events.

How does that make it right?

She fits in. Then it's right.
NP

Wow.

[Anonymous]

Aside from the rude and u confrontational replies, I as a bat mitzvah mom found this helpful. I didn’t even know about bodycon (con=constricting?) or skater dresses, and my daughter hasn’t mentioned those words, but I’m sure she can spot them and it will be helpful to name them. And helpful to apply these filters. So thank you, and sorry to OP that people don’t know how to “if you can’t say something nice…” about her daughter and this exciting ceremony.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Aside from the rude and u confrontational replies, I as a bat mitzvah mom found this helpful. I didn’t even know about bodycon (con=constricting?) or skater dresses, and my daughter hasn’t mentioned those words, but I’m sure she can spot them and it will be helpful to name them. And helpful to apply these filters. So thank you, and sorry to OP that people don’t know how to “if you can’t say something nice…” about her daughter and this exciting ceremony.

Thank you! Glad you found it helpful.

[Anonymous]

Thanks OP.
Your original message gave me some terms to search for in finding some much needed dresses for my young teen DD as well.

[Anonymous]

We have “promenade” dances at our middle school so I found great success with Nordstrom’s rack online. I bought a ton and will return half.
https://click.eml.nordstromrack.com/?qs=c21b8c9f72ed030d652737934b8c88cff728abdf7ed88499bd28d51654480367f5fc921251425b0be015eff1948eeb65aeeca35ee3e450437acef5a8498b9d3b181efc82880fe3c0

https://www.nordstromrack.com/s/halogen-surplice-faux-wrap-dress/7304659?utm_source=NR_Transactional&utm_medium=email&utm_campaign=RACK200ordcfm&utm_channel=email_tran_ret_p&utm_term=734294&utm_content=20231102_proddescr7

https://click.eml.nordstromrack.com/?qs=c21b8c9f72ed030dec70db243c6488ffb7033a44b94abafd2e7ee841540521edf64e0f60de9ea209d0ca777f3fd91adee905adb3acf0965f53cee1ef61614c990b89436ef762141a

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I was having a hard time finding a dress for my tall 12 year old that wasn't tight, short and low-cut for her friend's Bat Mitzvah. I just wanted to share that we got this dress and it worked out great:
https://www.lulus.com/products/blissful-love-burgundy-cutout-mini-skater-dress/1572136.html

Some of her friends who were also trying to strike the balance of looking good but not too provocative (or their parents were) came out looking slightly on the babyish side. But this one was a hit. DD looked sophisticated but the dress was not revealing. Shows just a bit of skin in the back, but she was comfortable with it. The site has some other cute options, too.

I hope this helps!

The dress is lovely, and I'm sure your child looked beautiful. I still would have preferred the "babyish" dresses. Your child is 12. She has the rest of her teen years to wear short dresses with cutouts. I don't care if my child looks sophisticated at 12. Stop criticizing her friends parents who want their 12 year old children to look like children.

Op here. Thanks for your comment. Do you have a child around this age? Because I can tell you that most of the girls (almost everyone) at the bat mitzvahs wear dresses like this:
https://www.lucyinthesky.com/shop/breakaway-bodycon-in-shimmer-black-54807?utm_source=google&utm_medium=cpc&utm_campaign=19998568705&utm_content=&gad_source=1&gclid=Cj0KCQiAo7KqBhDhARIsAKhZ4uhyLj3yt9kUVGwokVHtrLlGKnbxVkhTMMFxpe6SaEjJnlJkQr-sYlcaAsQDEALw_wcB

This is no exaggeration. I am just saying that it's hard to find something that looks sophisticated, but not too mature. A kid is not comfortable in a sea of peers dressed like that-- wearing something that looks like it could have come from the Children's Place. DD's friend texted her mom angrily from the event that her dress was all wrong. (I thought this girl looked very beautiful. But "young" considering the crowd.) Hence, my post. I hope it was helpful to some.

If you have a different experience, please let me know. Maybe it is a regional thing. I am in NYC area.

No good deed goes unpunished. It would have added to the variety had I seen any girls wearing a similar dress at the last bar/bar mitzvah I attended. I live in manhattan, so I know exactly what you are talking about. So nice that you and your daughter enjoyed picking out a dress. I have two sons, so I have to content myself to picking out fun socks and pajamas!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We have “promenade” dances at our middle school so I found great success with Nordstrom’s rack online. I bought a ton and will return half.
https://click.eml.nordstromrack.com/?qs=c21b8c9f72ed030d652737934b8c88cff728abdf7ed88499bd28d51654480367f5fc921251425b0be015eff1948eeb65aeeca35ee3e450437acef5a8498b9d3b181efc82880fe3c0

https://www.nordstromrack.com/s/halogen-surplice-faux-wrap-dress/7304659?utm_source=NR_Transactional&utm_medium=email&utm_campaign=RACK200ordcfm&utm_channel=email_tran_ret_p&utm_term=734294&utm_content=20231102_proddescr7

https://click.eml.nordstromrack.com/?qs=c21b8c9f72ed030dec70db243c6488ffb7033a44b94abafd2e7ee841540521edf64e0f60de9ea209d0ca777f3fd91adee905adb3acf0965f53cee1ef61614c990b89436ef762141a

Posters in this thread are going to hate these, but I like them. And my DD would also, FWIW.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I was having a hard time finding a dress for my tall 12 year old that wasn't tight, short and low-cut for her friend's Bat Mitzvah. I just wanted to share that we got this dress and it worked out great:
https://www.lulus.com/products/blissful-love-burgundy-cutout-mini-skater-dress/1572136.html

Some of her friends who were also trying to strike the balance of looking good but not too provocative (or their parents were) came out looking slightly on the babyish side. But this one was a hit. DD looked sophisticated but the dress was not revealing. Shows just a bit of skin in the back, but she was comfortable with it. The site has some other cute options, too.

I hope this helps!

The dress is lovely, and I'm sure your child looked beautiful. I still would have preferred the "babyish" dresses. Your child is 12. She has the rest of her teen years to wear short dresses with cutouts. I don't care if my child looks sophisticated at 12. Stop criticizing her friends parents who want their 12 year old children to look like children.

True. Also a bat mitzvah is a religious event in a synagogue. There shouldn’t be cut-outs, especially on a 12 year old. It’s not a bar.

OP again. The link I shared of the bodycon dress in the previous post is the kind of dress the Jewish girls in the friend group, who go to Bat Mitzvahs all the time and have been Bat Mitzvah'd (sp?) themselves, wear all the time at these events.

How does that make it right?

She fits in. Then it's right.
NP

The tail wagging the dog.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We have “promenade” dances at our middle school so I found great success with Nordstrom’s rack online. I bought a ton and will return half.
https://click.eml.nordstromrack.com/?qs=c21b8c9f72ed030d652737934b8c88cff728abdf7ed88499bd28d51654480367f5fc921251425b0be015eff1948eeb65aeeca35ee3e450437acef5a8498b9d3b181efc82880fe3c0

https://www.nordstromrack.com/s/halogen-surplice-faux-wrap-dress/7304659?utm_source=NR_Transactional&utm_medium=email&utm_campaign=RACK200ordcfm&utm_channel=email_tran_ret_p&utm_term=734294&utm_content=20231102_proddescr7

https://click.eml.nordstromrack.com/?qs=c21b8c9f72ed030dec70db243c6488ffb7033a44b94abafd2e7ee841540521edf64e0f60de9ea209d0ca777f3fd91adee905adb3acf0965f53cee1ef61614c990b89436ef762141a

Posters in this thread are going to hate these, but I like them. And my DD would also, FWIW.

No I like these! Especially the last one.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I was having a hard time finding a dress for my tall 12 year old that wasn't tight, short and low-cut for her friend's Bat Mitzvah. I just wanted to share that we got this dress and it worked out great:
https://www.lulus.com/products/blissful-love-burgundy-cutout-mini-skater-dress/1572136.html

Some of her friends who were also trying to strike the balance of looking good but not too provocative (or their parents were) came out looking slightly on the babyish side. But this one was a hit. DD looked sophisticated but the dress was not revealing. Shows just a bit of skin in the back, but she was comfortable with it. The site has some other cute options, too.

I hope this helps!

The dress is lovely, and I'm sure your child looked beautiful. I still would have preferred the "babyish" dresses. Your child is 12. She has the rest of her teen years to wear short dresses with cutouts. I don't care if my child looks sophisticated at 12. Stop criticizing her friends parents who want their 12 year old children to look like children.

True. Also a bat mitzvah is a religious event in a synagogue. There shouldn’t be cut-outs, especially on a 12 year old. It’s not a bar.

OP again. The link I shared of the bodycon dress in the previous post is the kind of dress the Jewish girls in the friend group, who go to Bat Mitzvahs all the time and have been Bat Mitzvah'd (sp?) themselves, wear all the time at these events.

How does that make it right?

She fits in. Then it's right.
NP

The tail wagging the dog.

No it's not making a big deal about something that's not.
The hosts want somethings better? They should mention it in the invite.