504 - kid forgets to turn in homework

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why not focus on getting your child to remember to turn HW in? Ask every single day after school - did you turn your hw in?
Remind them every single morning before school to turn hw in. Send them a text message during school with a single word - HW. Tell them to turn it in during lunch if they forgot earlier. Or detour to the class where they forgot and drop it off while they are on their way to another class. This will be more helpful in the long run then trying to throw it all on the teachers who are already slammed

Golly. I never thought of that.

Said no single parent who has kid with executive functioning issues. I'll give you a hint. It doesn't work.

Are you for real? What are you doing on this forum?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why not focus on getting your child to remember to turn HW in? Ask every single day after school - did you turn your hw in?
Remind them every single morning before school to turn hw in. Send them a text message during school with a single word - HW. Tell them to turn it in during lunch if they forgot earlier. Or detour to the class where they forgot and drop it off while they are on their way to another class. This will be more helpful in the long run then trying to throw it all on the teachers who are already slammed

LMFAO. Do you genuinely believe other parents haven’t tried this? We resort to accommodations at school because we as parents have been doing it for years to no avail. Get off your high horse please.

To be fair, many parents are not trying consistently at home to figure it out. They often want the school to manage everything school related

BS. You do not belong in this forum.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why not focus on getting your child to remember to turn HW in? Ask every single day after school - did you turn your hw in?
Remind them every single morning before school to turn hw in. Send them a text message during school with a single word - HW. Tell them to turn it in during lunch if they forgot earlier. Or detour to the class where they forgot and drop it off while they are on their way to another class. This will be more helpful in the long run then trying to throw it all on the teachers who are already slammed

LMFAO. Do you genuinely believe other parents haven’t tried this? We resort to accommodations at school because we as parents have been doing it for years to no avail. Get off your high horse please.

+1. The go-to move in disability discrimination - particularly "invisible discrimination" - is to blame parents.

I cannot effectively change my DC's behavior if I do not have a partner in the classroom.

Teachers can help but they have 20-30 students and you have your child(ren).
Can you work harder to set your kid up for success? Does your kid have a daily planner? Do you review it together every night? Do you then assemble all necessary materials for the next (or ensure that student has)? Can you set alarms on child's watch?
Also I don't really understand this particular situation. Do you mean the teacher asks students to turn homework in and your child can't find it? Or isn't paying attention and doesn't notice that all the other kids are handing work in?

Who are you? You are entirely clueless wrt executive functioning issues.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m with the teachers here - parents need to accept that for some kids there will be a long ugly learning curve for homework protocols
and there will be many failures over time as kids learn the process. Don’t flip out at teachers or your kids especially in the early years if there are hiccups - but be realistic that this skill takes time -often even years to develop - and ultimately your kid will be the one to decide if they master it or not. My kid got many Bs, Cs and even Ds in elementary school and middle school on a regular basis. So many calls and notes from teachers for not showing work and failure to do or hand in homework. This problem persisted from elementary school til early HS. Same kid graduated Summa Cum Laude from college and recently graduated from an Ivy League Law school. Point is - do your best with reminders and don’t give up on your kid. Most of all don’t make this your teachers problem to solve - it’s your KIDs problem. In our case there were many imperfect report cards- and I think this is important because it’s the consequence of not mastering the skill. For this issue, kids need time and patience from both parents and educators and not accommodations. It’s okay if the transcript is not perfect. Build resilience and grit -once it clicks it’s a huge boost of confidence- but don’t look for teachers to make things perfect and save them from messing up. Messing up IS part of the process.

This is useless drivel. Again you have no clue about the issue here. What a waste of space.

[Anonymous]

OP -- in my daughter's 504 accommodation, she gets an extra class day to turn in work without it being considered late. That was her counselor's suggestion, actually, and it's been great.

In middle school, when she would forget to turn it in, I'd have her send an email to the teacher immediately (hoping they'd see it before next class) and tell them that she had it, she forgot to turn it in, and she would turn it in next class -- but if they could also remind her, that would be extremely helpful.

I also always sent an email in the beginning of the year to all of her teachers explaining that she had a 504, what her issues typically were, and reminding them of the accomodations in her plan.

This is what she has (in APS):
Attention/concentration: Individual prompt/cue to
submit completed assignments

Attention/concentration: Flash Pass to counseling department

Attention/concentration: Individual check-in to ensure
student's understanding of assignments/directions
Attention/concentration Advanced notice (at least 2
class periods) of upcoming unit assessments

Attention/concentration Allow student to submit
assignments late, up to one class period, without grade
penalty

[Anonymous]

DS13 is like this. If he misses the original turn-in date, it's always an ordeal to get it where it needs to be.

Middle school was accommodating for all students to be able to turn in/redo homework any time for grades 6/7. In 8th, I noticed teachers are more restrictive with deadlines, so I made sure that turning in homework late was written into the 504. I didn't tell DS that, however!

He is slowly getting better, but still a struggle. And he's not alone. It's part of that middle school brain.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DS13 is like this. If he misses the original turn-in date, it's always an ordeal to get it where it needs to be.

Middle school was accommodating for all students to be able to turn in/redo homework any time for grades 6/7. In 8th, I noticed teachers are more restrictive with deadlines, so I made sure that turning in homework late was written into the 504. I didn't tell DS that, however!

He is slowly getting better, but still a struggle. And he's not alone. It's part of that middle school brain.

Yes. Even my non special needs son regularly forgot to turn in homework in middle school. Really common among his friends and completely bewildering and aggravating to us parents.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why not focus on getting your child to remember to turn HW in? Ask every single day after school - did you turn your hw in?
Remind them every single morning before school to turn hw in. Send them a text message during school with a single word - HW. Tell them to turn it in during lunch if they forgot earlier. Or detour to the class where they forgot and drop it off while they are on their way to another class. This will be more helpful in the long run then trying to throw it all on the teachers who are already slammed

If you knew EF issues, you would know that all your ideas are disasters. Texting the kid and making them look at the phone will cause them to be stuck in it for ten minutes and not really know why. The detour your describe might (might!) get the HW to one class but could just as easily lead to being late for another class, wandering to the library, or otherwise straying where the kid should not be and get in trouble.

[Anonymous]

If your school goes by green/blue days, make sure the kid's folder/binder for each day is green or blue. We also have a dry erase calendar we hang in his room and color each day at the beginning of each month (gold, blue, gold, blue, etc.).

He has a yellow folder that all hw goes in when finished. We keep BOTH folders in his bookbag just in case a snafu happens, but so far, coloring the calendar has been good.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why not focus on getting your child to remember to turn HW in? Ask every single day after school - did you turn your hw in?
Remind them every single morning before school to turn hw in. Send them a text message during school with a single word - HW. Tell them to turn it in during lunch if they forgot earlier. Or detour to the class where they forgot and drop it off while they are on their way to another class. This will be more helpful in the long run then trying to throw it all on the teachers who are already slammed

If you knew EF issues, you would know that all your ideas are disasters. Texting the kid and making them look at the phone will cause them to be stuck in it for ten minutes and not really know why. The detour your describe might (might!) get the HW to one class but could just as easily lead to being late for another class, wandering to the library, or otherwise straying where the kid should not be and get in trouble.

My family had to deal with so many special education teachers in Loudoun who did not know their field. I shouldn't have to explain to the case manager what executive functioning issues, adhd or dysgraphia are. We got talked in to using a teacher as a tutor for compensatory time owed us. She had kid's iep which explained everything then after the first session was aghast at how kid struggled. She'd even been in the iep meetings where everything was discussed. There is a woman running for office who supposedly has a ton of special education experience but at a candidates forum stated that adhd and autism are caused by screen time and she shut things down when people tried to correct her.

This poster is one of them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You can't get a 504 without a diagnosis and need. There is a litmus test that my type I diabetic barely passed based on the way it's written.

Your T1 kid can be an airline pilot, of all things. Why the hell do they need a 504?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You can't get a 504 without a diagnosis and need. There is a litmus test that my type I diabetic barely passed based on the way it's written.

Your T1 kid can be an airline pilot, of all things. Why the hell do they need a 504?

Not pp but I can think of many reasons why a diabetic child would warrant a plan alerting teachers why they may occasionally need special accommodations.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You can't get a 504 without a diagnosis and need. There is a litmus test that my type I diabetic barely passed based on the way it's written.

Your T1 kid can be an airline pilot, of all things. Why the hell do they need a 504?

Not pp but I can think of many reasons why a diabetic child would warrant a plan alerting teachers why they may occasionally need special accommodations.

My kid has POTS, and has it in her 504 that she needs access to her water bottle and salty snacks at all times. That was her counselor's suggestion just in case anyone in the high school was difficult. T1 kids have WAY more needs than my kid.

[Anonymous]

I checked DC's homework folder everyday when he came back from school. If there was a homework not turned in, I scanned it to PDF using an app on my phone and attached it to a polite email to teacher saying DC forgot to turn it in, hoped teach would accept electronically and DC would try to turn in paper version the next day. As DC got older, I coached him to do this himself.

This approach has the advantage of showing DC did the work in time, and documenting how often DC was forgetting. When done in a positive way with DC, it also elicited some reasons why he was forgetting, which we could then address.

[Anonymous]

Homework is the bane of my existence. My DD has ADHD and it's a daily struggle. She at least now has an accommodation that her teacher checks her planner at the end of the day to make sure she has the HW written down correctly. That was a battle. I have been asking for an online calendar with upcoming assignments so that I wouldn't have to ask the teacher or have this daily check in, but the teachers refuse to do this.

And then we spend time completing all the homework, making sure it goes back to school, and she won't turn it in. It's so frustrating. It will eventually get turned in but be docked points for being late. I'm not sure where it all goes wrong. She didn't know it was time to turn it in? Didn't hear the teacher ask? Forgot? I don't know.