canceling dinner plans

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Our friends invited us to dinner at their house, roughly 20 miles away, and we always collaborate on meals. I have 4 t-bones I need to use that I'll bring, made brownies, etc.
She texts me today that they have their 3 grandsons overnight now, but still want us to come. She originally thought they'd go to other grandparents this afternoon.
H and I are thinking of canceling. It's Friday, I'm a teacher who has spent the week with littles, and we just want to relax.

Would it be rude?

Sounds like you are rude.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Won’t the kids go to sleep at some point?

I'm guessing. But we're starting at 5:15. It would be hours until they go to sleep.

Start later, or else nicely tell her what you told us (that you’ve been with kids all week so please put on a movie for them or let them play independently so they don’t bother you)

Don’t say this. There is no way to make that sound nice. Either deal with it or start feeling a little under the weather.

[Anonymous]

I’d stay home, grill the steaks, eat the brownies and pop a bottle of wine. Sounds far more relaxing than dealing with 3 little kids on a Friday night, no ma’am.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’d stay home, grill the steaks, eat the brownies and pop a bottle of wine. Sounds far more relaxing than dealing with 3 little kids on a Friday night, no ma’am.

steak? grow-up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:eh, I’ve been doing it for years. DH or friends never notice.

Oh they notice. And they definitely talk about it after you leave.

[Anonymous]

I would likely just suck it up + still attend since I feel it would be rude to cancel due to the Grandkids.

Just be prepared to leave earlier than you usually do if they are bothersome.

[Anonymous]

I would say I didn't realize the kids would be there, let's reschedule for another night. I'm not spending a whole evening pretending to be interested in children.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would say I didn't realize the kids would be there, let's reschedule for another night. I'm not spending a whole evening pretending to be interested in children.

Also, it's their third day there. The friend should have given more notice.

[Anonymous]

Offer to move it to another week. If she’s been taking care of 3 kids under 10, she may also be tired and want to have a quiet evening rather than entertaining you, but doesn’t want to be rude and cancel on you since she’s hosting. Offer her the option to reschedule.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:An Uber from their house to ours would be about $20. We live in the midwest.

Situations like this, I being four “99 Banana” shooters with me and drink them in the bathroom (wrap them in toilet paper before throwing away in their kitchen trash) - then, I pound a couple beers when they’re not looking and sip / carry around my wine. They’re none the wiser and I can actually relax and enjoy the evening.

You should try it!

WTH

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:An Uber from their house to ours would be about $20. We live in the midwest.

Situations like this, I being four “99 Banana” shooters with me and drink them in the bathroom (wrap them in toilet paper before throwing away in their kitchen trash) - then, I pound a couple beers when they’re not looking and sip / carry around my wine. They’re none the wiser and I can actually relax and enjoy the evening.

You should try it!

WTH

Try alcoholism? Really?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Our friends invited us to dinner at their house, roughly 20 miles away, and we always collaborate on meals. I have 4 t-bones I need to use that I'll bring, made brownies, etc.
She texts me today that they have their 3 grandsons overnight now, but still want us to come. She originally thought they'd go to other grandparents this afternoon.
H and I are thinking of canceling. It's Friday, I'm a teacher who has spent the week with littles, and we just want to relax.

Would it be rude?

What do the t-bones and brownies have to do with it? Honestly confused.

[Anonymous]

"Since plans have changed, I'd rather reschedule"

And then YOU go out-of-your-way to initiate, set a date and do more than your share.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Situations like this, I being four “99 Banana” shooters with me and drink them in the bathroom (wrap them in toilet paper before throwing away in their kitchen trash) - then, I pound a couple beers when they’re not looking and sip / carry around my wine. They’re none the wiser and I can actually relax and enjoy the evening.

WTH

don’t knock it until you try it! and root beer flavored “99’s” chased with beer is amazing. 😘