canceling dinner plans

[Anonymous]

Our friends invited us to dinner at their house, roughly 20 miles away, and we always collaborate on meals. I have 4 t-bones I need to use that I'll bring, made brownies, etc.
She texts me today that they have their 3 grandsons overnight now, but still want us to come. She originally thought they'd go to other grandparents this afternoon.
H and I are thinking of canceling. It's Friday, I'm a teacher who has spent the week with littles, and we just want to relax.

Would it be rude?

[Anonymous]

It's rude but understandable that you don't want to spend the evening with someone else's brats that are only cute to family members. Do it now. The earlier the better.

[Anonymous]

“With little kids.”

Sorry, that was annoying and my pet peeve.

That said, I am a pre school teacher and I wouldn’t want to deal with more little kids on my time off. So I understand where you are coming from. You have my blessing to cancel though I don’t think I would. I would just drink extra at dinner.

[Anonymous]

But maybe she parks them in front of the TV and it's all fine?

I don't know. I have no trouble ignoring children that aren't my problem.

[Anonymous]

Not rude. They have different circumstances now - it will look so "noble" of you to back out and let them spend time solely with the grandchildren

[Anonymous]

How old are the kids? Can they amuse themselves? Will they go to bed early? I wouldn't cancel unless they were young and high maintenance.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How old are the kids? Can they amuse themselves? Will they go to bed early? I wouldn't cancel unless they were young and high maintenance.

like, 10, 8 and 5. It's her third day with them, guessing she's had enough. Think we'll go, drink more, leave early.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How old are the kids? Can they amuse themselves? Will they go to bed early? I wouldn't cancel unless they were young and high maintenance.

like, 10, 8 and 5. It's her third day with them, guessing she's had enough. Think we'll go, drink more, leave early.

Drink more? 20 miles away? That doesn’t sound safe at all.

[Anonymous]

I would skip.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How old are the kids? Can they amuse themselves? Will they go to bed early? I wouldn't cancel unless they were young and high maintenance.

like, 10, 8 and 5. It's her third day with them, guessing she's had enough. Think we'll go, drink more, leave early.

Drink more? 20 miles away? That doesn’t sound safe at all.

Ever heard of an Uber Karen?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How old are the kids? Can they amuse themselves? Will they go to bed early? I wouldn't cancel unless they were young and high maintenance.

like, 10, 8 and 5. It's her third day with them, guessing she's had enough. Think we'll go, drink more, leave early.

That’s quite reasonable. And if they going to be a little too much for you, you can suddenly start feeling unwell and need to go home.

[Anonymous]

OP, I don’t mind flaking but if I were you I’d m suck it up and go. It would be hard for me to tell a friend (or even think) I don’t want to be around their grandkids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, I don’t mind flaking but if I were you I’d m suck it up and go. It would be hard for me to tell a friend (or even think) I don’t want to be around their grandkids.

this is where we're at. I don't want to hurt her feelings.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How old are the kids? Can they amuse themselves? Will they go to bed early? I wouldn't cancel unless they were young and high maintenance.

like, 10, 8 and 5. It's her third day with them, guessing she's had enough. Think we'll go, drink more, leave early.

Drink more? 20 miles away? That doesn’t sound safe at all.

Ever heard of an Uber Karen?

Are you OP? If so, I don’t believe you are going to pay for an Uber 20 miles x 2.

[Anonymous]

An Uber from their house to ours would be about $20. We live in the midwest.