No one asked for my ID or had me sign anything when I picked my daughter up early from school- say something?

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Need you be told, public schools are in reality are not concerned about your child’s safety. Just stop fooling yourself.

That’s silly. Same as saying private schools number 1 concern is money not the students

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Anonymous wrote:OP here thanks for all the thoughts.

Our school actually does check at end of the school day pick ups- the person that picks the child up has a card with a code on it that matches the code on the child's lanyard and the person bringing the child to the car makes sure they match. So maybe that's why I've been used to and it seemed odd no one verified for the midday pick up from in the building.

The verification was that they called you, you showed up.

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Anonymous wrote:Our school has an electronic system where everyone has a personal code they must input in the admin or teacher’s iPad to pick up a child. Seems a lot safer.

This is great!

Right especially quick when there is a sub I’m sure!

[Anonymous]

Have they met you before? They were probably annoyed you sent a sick kid to school.

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They called you to come and we’re expecting you. I don’t understand your concern.

Just wait until you find out kids can walk home from school alone.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:They called you to come and we’re expecting you. I don’t understand your concern.

Just wait until you find out kids can walk home from school alone.

+1
There's no concern that you're not allowed to pick up the kid--you're listed as an emergency contact, and they called you.

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Anonymous wrote:The schools talk a good game but in my experience at many schools this is typical.

My kids’ FCPS ES is very by the book about this stuff. Even though I’m at the office regularly enough for one of the staff members to recognize me, she always apologizingly asks for ID. Doesn’t bother me at all.

[Anonymous]

I would ask them what their policy is and your concerns.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Oh it can be so much worse! A former friend had like ten people as her emergency contacts for her kid, and was an alcoholic so used them all liberally. This kid would just run up to any of her mom’s friends who were near her school and ask if they were there to pick her up that day. The school let her leave with anyone.

It's good the kid had that large safety net for otherwise terrible circumstances. There is nothing wrong with having 10 pick up options. The bad part is the alcoholic mom.

There are a lot of bad parts. It's bad that she never knew who was picking her up. It's bad that her mom put her alcoholic friends on the emergency contact list who were often late. Its' bad that sometimes people picked her up and decided to cosplay being a parent and took her wherever and nobody but them knew where she was. I could go on and on.

How do you know what they were doing?

Is a nanny "cosplaying at being a parent"?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:They called you to come and we’re expecting you. I don’t understand your concern.

Just wait until you find out kids can walk home from school alone.

+1
There's no concern that you're not allowed to pick up the kid--you're listed as an emergency contact, and they called you.

They don't know that the person who came to school is the person they called.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:They called you to come and we’re expecting you. I don’t understand your concern.

Just wait until you find out kids can walk home from school alone.

+1
There's no concern that you're not allowed to pick up the kid--you're listed as an emergency contact, and they called you.

They don't know that the person who came to school is the person they called.

But the child would presumably know her mother.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:They called you to come and we’re expecting you. I don’t understand your concern.

Just wait until you find out kids can walk home from school alone.

+1
There's no concern that you're not allowed to pick up the kid--you're listed as an emergency contact, and they called you.

They don't know that the person who came to school is the person they called.

How might an abductor magically know that they had called anyone?
I am flabbergasted at the idiocy of some parents, most of them on this thread including OP

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I have not read this whole thread, but yes, of course say something. Not in an accusatory way--just to bring a security hole to their awareness. I am an educator and whenever I visit a campus where there seems to be lax observation of who comes in or out, I always say something. I mean, you read the papers right? Campuses need to be up on layered security, period.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I volunteered at a school office and asked for ids but also had to ask from people I knew very well which felt silly because I was told EVERY person must show ID. It is a little silly when you think about them all just walking out at release time.
There is only so much you can do but the MOST important thing to do is tell your kid not to leave with anyone except their parents/ grandparents/ your list. If someone in your orbit is an issue, tell the front office never to release your kid to them.

I often don't have my ID on me but my kid knows who I am and that's sufficient.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have not read this whole thread, but yes, of course say something. Not in an accusatory way--just to bring a security hole to their awareness. I am an educator and whenever I visit a campus where there seems to be lax observation of who comes in or out, I always say something. I mean, you read the papers right? Campuses need to be up on layered security, period.

New poster. OP, please heed the educator's post above. Say something. The many posts here shrugging this off are from people who don't get it (at best) or who don't GAF about overall security as long as THEIR kid is fine. They aren't seeing that you are concerned for overall procedures being followed and your post isn't about your own kid, on one day, for one pickup; it's about the bigger picture. Good for you for thinking about that bigger picture, OP.

I picked my kid up from her ES for an entire year, slightly early every Wednesday, so I had to go to the office so they could call her classroom. They knew me very well from that but also because I was in and around the school a lot (ran a program there, volunteered for other things). While they didn't ask for ID, they always had me sign her out. That protected the school and the main office staff as well as my kid and me. And I did see them ask others for ID (and was asked for it a few times when there were people subbing for the main office secretary, too, who did not know me.)

As someone earlier in th thread said -- it's the ONE time that something goes wrong that the school will be reamed for not following procedure, which is why you follow it every single time.