Okay, but really… losing baby weight w/ intense FT job

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Anonymous wrote:I don’t care about your weight but you need to let go of your perfectionist tendencies or else your life with children will be awful for you, your spouse and your children.

I don’t know about this. My type A /
Perfectionist friends tend to have pretty accommodating spouses and also tend to be high achievers with good marriages/ relationships because they are so driven to do the best in every possible realm. I sometimes feel so jealous of type A people even though it would never work for me!

Yeah, don’t let other people talk you out of being yourself or make you apologize for who you are.

Be yourself.

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Keto and IF!

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If your need to reach your pre-pregnancy weight is such that you're willing to do unhealthy things to reach it, you need to examine your priorities. Shorting yourself on nutrients and obsessively working out is not a sign of being a better person or mother. It is a sign of poor self esteem.

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Honestly? Give it 6-12 months. That worked for me. I walk a lot as part of my usual life and as my kids have gotten older, my life has gotten accordingly hecticer and I don’t have nearly as much time to snack and I’m always running after a kid or carrying one on my shoulders or something. At some point recently (my youngest is 18 months) I realized I fit in my prepregnancy clothes again. I still want to get back into a regular workout routine (at 5:30AM is right out; my kids are up between 5:30 and 6) but it’s nice to be a more comfortable size.

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Be kind to yourself. Even if/when you do lose weight, your body likely won't be what it was before baby. This may be your new normal for awhile and if so, that's ok. Keep up with the exercise because it's good for you. I exercise daily and have never gotten back to my pre-baby weight but I'm close and that has to be ok.

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In this situation I obsessively logged all my food in My Fitness Pal. I will tell you though that it did start to feel like a game I could win and that’s when I started to get kinda freaked out about u healthy behavior. I lost ten, gained a little back, and now try to focus more on fitness than obsessing over the number. At least my stomach is flat!!! That took a while but made a big difference.

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Anonymous wrote:I don’t care about your weight but you need to let go of your perfectionist tendencies or else your life with children will be awful for you, your spouse and your children.

This.

OMG this. This . This.

Seriously please don’t show this side of yourself to your child. You will F them up forever. Parents (particular mother’s) obsessions w weight tends to ruin their children’s happiness…often for life. I can’t tell you how many people I know who have the most unhealthy attitude toward, weight, appearance and food for their ENTIRE lives bc of these kinds of tendencies demonstrated by their mother.

I am actually 6 months pregnant right now and I am older (pushing 39) and I am curious how easily this weight will come off. But that doesn’t matter to me overall in terms of health and happiness and I won’t obsess over it. That’s because my entire life - as a girl//woman (and one who did a hobby OBSESSED w weight) i have never obsessed over my own weight bc my parents never put an ounce of pressure on me or on themselves. Luckily, we are all healthy/run sorta thin (though no skeletal) but we also don’t ever overeat or have issue bc it’s all about having a healthy and balanced attitude toward food.

Moderation. In. All. Things.

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If you really want to lose the weight, you just have to make time to work out. I don’t think there are any shortcuts that aren’t unhealthy or unsustainable. And fill your plate with mostly vegetables, especially leafy greens.

Some perspective: I had my second baby 5 months ago. I walked a mile or two every day during my 16 week maternity leave. I’ve been working out for half an hour/day 5 days a week for the past two months (weights and Peloton). I eat healthy (lots of veggies, whole grains, no red meat, mostly vegetarian) and in moderation. I don’t drink much. I’m naturally a thin person.

And guess what? Even with all that - working out, eating healthy, genetic predisposition - I’m still not back to my pre pregnancy weight. I’m wearing pants that are 2 sizes bigger than usual. I have about 7-8 lb to go to get back to my normal size. That might not sound like much, but I’m a small person. Maybe this weight is my new normal, who knows. Hormones are whack. You have to give yourself some grace.

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Weight Watchers.

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Anonymous wrote:Are you breastfeeding/pumping? For some people those last pounds will not come off until you stop lactating.

This is true!

Focus on your baby now and getting as much sleep as possible. Seriously.

Eat healthily but don't obsess. Get rid of the scale. Get a couple outfits that you feel awesome in right now.

Not to make you more anxious, but babies can sense anxiety. Work hardest on getting to a space where you can be calm and accept your body as it is right now. It won't be this way forever. Meditating or even sleeping for 30 extra minutes may be healthier for you right now than adding to your workout schedule.

There are a lot of aspects of parenthood that you can't control. It can be super stressful for us perfectionist types. Bodies hold on to weight when stressed. Deep breaths. Practice letting go.

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Anonymous wrote:I 100% agree with letting it go and not being attached to a number or what your body used to be before. But if you wan tot be able to be consistent about exercise, work out at 5:30AM. Find a group class (I did Fit4Mom) or do a Peloton workout or whatever. Then if (when) your workday gets out of control or if you're exhausted at the end of the day, you've gotten the workout out of the way.

Yup. You need to prioritize exercise if it is important to you. Babies wake up early anyway - get up at 5, put your baby in the stroller and walk or run (when she is old enough to hold her head up).

Avoid sugar, but make sure you are eating enough if you are still BF'ing!

Get your sleep! Go to bed early so you can get up early.

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The people acting like it’s insane to get back to pre pregnancy weight….what is wrong with you all? Just because you are happy letting yourself go and using motherhood as an excuse doesn’t mean everyone else is.

OP, you need my fitness pal. Put your weight in, and your goal weight and eat the amount of calories it tells you.

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Anonymous wrote:The people acting like it’s insane to get back to pre pregnancy weight….what is wrong with you all? Just because you are happy letting yourself go and using motherhood as an excuse doesn’t mean everyone else is.

OP, you need my fitness pal. Put your weight in, and your goal weight and eat the amount of calories it tells you.

Lol - no. We're reacting to a self-described perfectionist freaking out about having 10 pounds of pregnancy weight at 6.5 months postpartum. Why are you being so rude to people whose posts you're not even reading correctly?

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Breastfeed.

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Anonymous wrote:Stroller walks every morning with the baby before breakfast

Walking after meals is better- it will lower your blood sugar.

Also, exercising on an empty stomach can raise cortisol levels, especially in women. Elevated cortisol levels can make it harder to lose weight and can actually encourage weight gain in your midsection.