Living with my Dad is so hard

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The average person, not the wealthy on this forum, cannot save enough money to pay for assisted living, etc.

We are not talking about assisted living we are talking about independent living. Many are very affordable especially if you sell a house. You can pay $150,000 to get in and $3000/month which includes one meal a day, activities, maintenance, and shuttle to dr appointments.

Once you are in a place like this they will move you to other level's of living and take your SS and medicare as payment. They don't kick you out. Many never go to the next level.

I believe most places are lot more than $150K buy-in with a $3K monthly rent. Can anyone point to one within this price range?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The average person, not the wealthy on this forum, cannot save enough money to pay for assisted living, etc.

We are not talking about assisted living we are talking about independent living. Many are very affordable especially if you sell a house. You can pay $150,000 to get in and $3000/month which includes one meal a day, activities, maintenance, and shuttle to dr appointments.

Once you are in a place like this they will move you to other level's of living and take your SS and medicare as payment. They don't kick you out. Many never go to the next level.

I believe most places are lot more than $150K buy-in with a $3K monthly rent. Can anyone point to one within this price range?

If the retiree ever was an officer in the armed forces or retired a GS14 or above, the smaller apartments at Vinson Hall might be a possibility.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The average person, not the wealthy on this forum, cannot save enough money to pay for assisted living, etc.

We are not talking about assisted living we are talking about independent living. Many are very affordable especially if you sell a house. You can pay $150,000 to get in and $3000/month which includes one meal a day, activities, maintenance, and shuttle to dr appointments.

Once you are in a place like this they will move you to other level's of living and take your SS and medicare as payment. They don't kick you out. Many never go to the next level.

I believe most places are lot more than $150K buy-in with a $3K monthly rent. Can anyone point to one within this price range?

If the retiree ever was an officer in the armed forces or retired a GS14 or above, the smaller apartments at Vinson Hall might be a possibility.

Not at those amounts! You are in for a big shock.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Moving parents into a house with your kids is a disaster. It’s exhausting and steals so much time from your spouse and children.

They should move to continuous care facilities where they can live independently and have their own identity and friends.

Reclaim your life and enable your dad to have one of his own,

“Steals so much time.”

Wow. That’s really dehumanizing. An aging person’s needs reduced to “theft.”

“They should move.”

No they shouldn’t. They should have the money to stay home with full time live in care and attention. But almost nobody can afford that. Just like the vast majority of older people can’t afford to just move to a “continuous care facility.”

There’s no one size fits all solution to these situations, least of all a glib dismissal of the elderly as not even worthy of human dignity.

In my experience with both my mom and my in-laws, they were all much happier in assisted living than they were before in their own homes. Life can become very isolating living by yourself in a house not designed for your changing needs.

Living in an environment that is designed for your level of functioning and around other people you can socialize with is often much better.