Is MCPS biased against boys?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My son got in trouble because he was loud and distracting and when he was bored he acted out. When my day was bored she drew or daydreamed.

I teach and I don't see a bias. I bet your kid is actually more obnoxious than he's letting on and your dd may have better social skills.

So many boys I know hate school. More than the girls I know. Why do you think this is the case?

[Anonymous]

Our ES teacher and school counselor both told us MCPS is not geared towards boys. Among other reasons, they mentioned there needs to be 2 breaks in the middle of the day to release the energy (which leads to ADHD over diagnosis btw)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have a boy and a girl at Bradley Hills Elementary in Bethesda. Neither kid is an angel, but my daughter never gets in trouble for anything. If my boy is assertive in any way he gets reprimanded or sent to the office. This same behavior is never punished with my daughter.

Other parents seem to have similar experiences with athletic and high energy boys.

sex discrimination is unlawful.

You and all other parents that know about these discrimination incidents should report it to the feds without hesitation. https://www2.ed.gov/about/offices/list/ocr/index.html

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It depends on the teacher and principal.

True-last year my son's teacher made his life a living hell (he's a squirmer who has trouble sitting still). This year the teacher is much more tolerant of his movement and gives me glowing reports. I specifically asked for a teacher who didn't get irritated by active little boys (the school sent out a questionnaire). Thank goodness that's who he got! He loves going to school this year and hated it last year.

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[Anonymous]

Does OP think her dd and son behave similarly in school? Please give one action that both kids did in school but only the boy was caught and sent to office.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My son got in trouble because he was loud and distracting and when he was bored he acted out. When my day was bored she drew or daydreamed.

I teach and I don't see a bias. I bet your kid is actually more obnoxious than he's letting on and your dd may have better social skills.

You don't see the issue that your kid was acting up?

[Anonymous]

What is the school plan for a child repeatedly being sent to the Principal. Negative consequences is not the normal best practice to change behavior.

I would recommend that you keep all documentation or request all documentation when your child leaves the classroom to go to the principal or any time recess or breaks or lost as punishment. After you have the documentation, request in writing to your principal to assemble an IEP meeting to determine if your child has a disability that is having an educational impact. The impact is the loss instruction and social skills development your child suffers when not in class or at recess. Request for this meeting to be held in person so you can meet the people making important decisions about your child.

There are multiple disabilities that impact children’s behavior. ADHD is one. Sending a child to the principal is extreme so is the punishment matching the behavior which is also extreme? If the behavior is repeatedly outside the school expectation, then a plan needs to be developed so a child can learn coping skills and strategies to develop behaviors that align with the school expectations. A Behavior Intervention Plan is one way that the teacher can collect data.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Our ES teacher and school counselor both told us MCPS is not geared towards boys. Among other reasons, they mentioned there needs to be 2 breaks in the middle of the day to release the energy (which leads to ADHD over diagnosis btw)

Or sometimes (my son was one who was a frequent flyer to the principal) MCPS is failing Child Find obligations for identifying children with ADHD.

[Anonymous]

Request an IEP meeting to discuss the trips to the principal and the educational impact on your child and the school will stop sending your child to the principal.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have a boy and a girl at Bradley Hills Elementary in Bethesda. Neither kid is an angel, but my daughter never gets in trouble for anything. If my boy is assertive in any way he gets reprimanded or sent to the office. This same behavior is never punished with my daughter.

Other parents seem to have similar experiences with athletic and high energy boys.

Is your son the older one? Perhaps the school just holds higher standards did that kind of behavior kids in grades 3-5 vs K-2.

[Anonymous]

It's not MCPS, it's pretty much all co-ed schools in the US. Females teachers tend to be biased.

If you can afford it, send your son to an all boys school. Landon is walking distance from Bradley Hills.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have a boy and a girl at Bradley Hills Elementary in Bethesda. Neither kid is an angel, but my daughter never gets in trouble for anything. If my boy is assertive in any way he gets reprimanded or sent to the office. This same behavior is never punished with my daughter.

Other parents seem to have similar experiences with athletic and high energy boys.

Yes. There are plenty of clubs for girls to learn assertiveness, positive self image, etc none for boys. Boys who show those things are slapped down except in sports.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have a boy and a girl at Bradley Hills Elementary in Bethesda. Neither kid is an angel, but my daughter never gets in trouble for anything. If my boy is assertive in any way he gets reprimanded or sent to the office. This same behavior is never punished with my daughter.

Other parents seem to have similar experiences with athletic and high energy boys.

Yes. There are plenty of clubs for girls to learn assertiveness, positive self image, etc none for boys. Boys who show those things are slapped down except in sports.

And that's why we see boys get discouraged, and most universities have undergrad enrollment of around 60% females.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's not MCPS, it's pretty much all co-ed schools in the US. Females teachers tend to be biased.

If you can afford it, send your son to an all boys school. Landon is walking distance from Bradley Hills.

It's not just the teachers, it goes higher up than that. How ES is designed in general is biased against boys. Too much sitting, it's not developmentally appropriate.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Our ES teacher and school counselor both told us MCPS is not geared towards boys. Among other reasons, they mentioned there needs to be 2 breaks in the middle of the day to release the energy (which leads to ADHD over diagnosis btw)

Or sometimes (my son was one who was a frequent flyer to the principal) MCPS is failing Child Find obligations for identifying children with ADHD.

Childfind is for 3-5 year olds not older kids and once they hit K, parents need to get them evaluated.