I know it is genuinely frustrating but you are not going to get a lot of sympathy here (in case you are new). Assets tend to impact financial aid calculations ![]() You must understand the reasoning for not forcing parents to dip into retirement (often with penalties) or their primary home. I acknowledge your situation is tough because the timing of the inheritances clearly hurts you (otherwise, you'd qualify for some help not to mention you'd clearly rather have the people and not the $$ anyway). |
Op here, speaking from experience, yes I think the kids who had “privileged” upbringings in the sense of parents being very dedicated to their development from day one and exceptional schools are in a sense the best and the brightest. But schools with FU money (who are they saying FU to btw, the very people who built the schools into what they are now?) are deliberately viewing this form of “privilege” as a negative variable when they make admissions decisions. It’s quite counterintuitive. They specifically don’t want kids who are coming to them having been extremely nurtured and well prepared to excel academically. It’s like a Major League Baseball team avoiding the best high school programs when they scout players and just looking for the worst. My contention is, if your selection process entails avoiding the circumstances that produce exceptional kids, you will probably have fewer exceptional kids. |
not looking for any sympathy. we made peace with this long ago.
inheritances hitting in these years are not unusual. I spoke to the FA office and said, "this is our retirement .. I'm not sure why you only are looking at tax-sheltered retirement. money is money" and the FA office actually said they've been looking into this as well. And then mentioned a lottery winner who literally had no other assets .. no home ownership, literally didn't even have a 401k, and having a windfall that wasn't sheltered knocked them out of FA.. when other people have many millions in retirement and a couple million in a home and receive aid. moving to a total asset base would be the workaround. interesting iMO. also, at our income, you can take money out of roth for college w/o penalties. and some schools actually do think your home equity is on the table (looking at you, Georgetown) We're fine. I'm not looking for sympathy. I dont' have any special feelings about any of these schools. plenty of good ones. |
other parents love their kids too. they're also out there every weekend on the soccer fields and in the library. umc kids in the 1990s didn't build Princeton. that's laughable. |
PRINCETON is not using its endowment to pay for Pell Grants. The feds pay for that. Hence, we the taxpayers are paying for those kids to go to Princeton, not Princeton |
I’m not missing the point, your argument is flawed. Most privates have vey few kids who are on full scholarship. Most aid goes to upper middle class families like yours. |
What's more impressive? A poor kid that overcomes odds to score 1580 on their SAT with a 4.0 and national awards or an UMC tutored from elementary school with test prep that scores a 1600 with personal college counseling that hand holds their ECs. How do we define best and brightest here? |
It would make sense that if you take away the obstacle of not having the money to attend then the University has a better chance of getting the best of the best. What’s the problem? |
The DCUM bubble is amazing. Pell Grants average less than $4,500 and max out at less than $7,000. Identifying the number of students that receive Pell Grants is just a means of quantifying the percentage of low income students. Princeton is definitely paying the bulk of the cost. |
I went to HYP 25 years ago and have relatives at one now. It’s not at all clear why you think my generation was any better. Yes we had more privileged kids and swaths of the classes from fancy schools like Exeter. Were those kids impressive? Coddled and prepared for sure but impressive?
There is still a problem in affordability for the truly middle class and that’s real. But if s it better than in my years? For sure |
Over 80% submit scores according to the CDS. Where are you getting this or are you just making this up because of your bitterness? |
This is obviously not the Princeton situation with incomes over $300k being part of the 67% getting aid — they aren’t a big lump that can be called “poor.” It seems that the UMC DCUM crowd is torn between two complaint narratives: that they are donut-hole families who can’t afford Princeton and simultaneously (unhooked) white-privilege families who Princeton’s admissions department is determined to reject. Or maybe they embrace both narratives. I went to Princeton a long time ago, and I can tell you that the overwhelming bulk of the students came from families with incomes (adjusted for average wage inflation from then to now) that would put them into the financial aid bucket these days. So the fact that 67% get aid does not mean that Princeton is enrolling a lower % of their historical clientele (from an income standpoint). What’s maybe going on is that the wealth of the top 1% has exploded and that you folks on the bottom half of that 1% are feeling simultaneously unwanted and strapped for cash. |
Unlike Hopkins, Princeton, looks more like America in terms of racial and ethnic representation based on their CDS https://registrar.princeton.edu/sites/g/files/toruqf136/files/documents/CDS_2022-2023.pdf with the exception that whites are underrepresented and Asians are over represented. |
Princeton is a lot bigger pond than your private, which is to say there is a much wider spectrum of families economically. It’s been that way for decades. There are definitely middle class kids there. |
Princeton has a large percentage of Asian kids compared to the overall percentage of Asian students in the country. Do you really think those kids and many of their peers have not been “extremely nurtured and well prepared to excel academically”? I get that it’s a very tough admit for an unhooked UMC suburban white kid compared to the 80s or 90s, but those kids will have plenty of other options and it’s hard to say they are objectively much stronger than the kids who may get admitted with slightly lower test scores. |