is it still considered polite/routine to give a tour of your house when guests come?

[Anonymous]

I have only done this for family and some close friends when we first moved into our house. Family didn’t ask and just went ahead, friends wanted to see the place because they were planning to renovate.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Where were you all raised? It’s just common decency and
proper manners to offer a tour.

Unless you were raised in Buckingham Palace it’s bizarre.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Where were you all raised? It’s just common decency and proper manners to offer a tour.

Honest question- how old are you?
It’s not common decency and proper manners. It’s gauche.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Where were you all raised? It’s just common decency and proper manners to offer a tour.

No, it’s weird.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Where were you all raised? It’s just common decency and proper manners to offer a tour.

I think if you're raised in poverty and you "make good" this is something you might well do. I think for the rest of us we find it gauche because we weren't raised in poverty so its like bragging but also very boring bragging.

[Anonymous]

I'd love to give a tour, but am hesitant to bring it up and people don't always ask. My place is well decorated and people are interested in the decor.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'd love to give a tour, but am hesitant to bring it up and people don't always ask. My place is well decorated and people are interested in the decor.

"people are interested in the decor" or they're just very polite because they can see how proud you are of it.

[Anonymous]

I grew up in the Midwest and this is normal. Lived all over and the only other place it was normal was Texas. My DH thought it was really weird because he grew up in a no-house-tour place.

Now I live on the west coast and it is decidedly not a house tour place, although coinciding with this thread we went to a party at new friends’ last night and they offered a tour! New friends are from the Midwest so it must be a regional thing.

[Anonymous]

Very nouveau riche.

[Anonymous]

Very very weird. Why would anyone care?

[Anonymous]

Yes give me a tour of your home. I also want to know how much you paid for the house and what year.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I grew up in the Midwest and this is normal. Lived all over and the only other place it was normal was Texas. My DH thought it was really weird because he grew up in a no-house-tour place.

Now I live on the west coast and it is decidedly not a house tour place, although coinciding with this thread we went to a party at new friends’ last night and they offered a tour! New friends are from the Midwest so it must be a regional thing.

Dang girl..what brings you to the east coast forum?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes give me a tour of your home. I also want to know how much you paid for the house and what year.

Haha, same! But I would never ask for a tour or any of this information.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I grew up in the Midwest and this is normal. Lived all over and the only other place it was normal was Texas. My DH thought it was really weird because he grew up in a no-house-tour place.

Now I live on the west coast and it is decidedly not a house tour place, although coinciding with this thread we went to a party at new friends’ last night and they offered a tour! New friends are from the Midwest so it must be a regional thing.

Yes, same. For those who didn't grow up with this custom, it honestly isn't about bragging or showing off--none of the houses I grew up in were brag-worthy. I think it's to make visitors/guests feel at home--a mi casa es su casa kind of thing.

[Anonymous]

I don't give tours because our place is old and kind of messy. But I do feel like it's a bit rude to not offer, especially because the last few homes I've visited have offered tours. They were all new homes post-pandemic, maybe that is why.