is it still considered polite/routine to give a tour of your house when guests come?

[Anonymous]

I realized I find it strange, but it's not a big deal if still considered polite to give guests a tour of your house when they arrive. Is it still standard? We don't do it.

[Anonymous]

I would never do that and would find it weird if someone gave me a tour.

[Anonymous]

We don't. We show them the public areas that they might need--kitchen, dining, living, and bath, but nothing like a full tour.

[Anonymous]

Definitely not standard as in required or expected. We don't usually have guests comes upstairs if they are here for dinner, playdate etc - I haven't cleaned the whole house.

Makes sense in some circumstances like if you just moved and want to show people your home.

[Anonymous]

No a full house tour including bedrooms is weird. (Maybe unless you just moved into a new home and they were familiar with your previous home.)

[Anonymous]

Close family first time at your house yes...otherwise just the main floor.

[Anonymous]

Just had this conversation yesterday with my DS. He and his wife bought their first home a few months ago and were having a few couples in. I told him the downside of a new home is people will want to see the place. (Hint: Clean up upstairs).

[Anonymous]

No. The only time I’ve given or been given a tour is if I just bought the place or the other person just did renovations.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Just had this conversation yesterday with my DS. He and his wife bought their first home a few months ago and were having a few couples in. I told him the downside of a new home is people will want to see the place. (Hint: Clean up upstairs).

I really don’t. I don’t want to see your bedrooms or your upstairs bathrooms.

[Anonymous]

I've had friends give me tours of their homes but I've never felt compelled to give one.

[Anonymous]

Only if they are close friends and you have just done a renovation or something.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Just had this conversation yesterday with my DS. He and his wife bought their first home a few months ago and were having a few couples in. I told him the downside of a new home is people will want to see the place. (Hint: Clean up upstairs).

I really don’t. I don’t want to see your bedrooms or your upstairs bathrooms.

I do! I’m nosy. But I never ask for a tour. People generally just offer.

[Anonymous]

How does this even work? People come over for dinner and you say, "Let me show you around?"

Why would you do that? I get that family might want to see your new place, or someone looking at houses by the same builder, but my default is no. You don't show off your stuff. That's not polite.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How does this even work? People come over for dinner and you say, "Let me show you around?"

Why would you do that? I get that family might want to see your new place, or someone looking at houses by the same builder, but my default is no. You don't show off your stuff. That's not polite.

OP here. That is exactly my feeling, too, and then I realized we might be being rude in the other direction if we don't.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How does this even work? People come over for dinner and you say, "Let me show you around?"

Why would you do that? I get that family might want to see your new place, or someone looking at houses by the same builder, but my default is no. You don't show off your stuff. That's not polite.

OP here. That is exactly my feeling, too, and then I realized we might be being rude in the other direction if we don't.

Not rude either way. Do whatever you prefer.