DH upgraded to business class on overseas flight, left me in coach

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I, a wife, get offered upgrades all the time due to my status with an airline. Sometimes my husband is also upgraded, sometimes not. If he isn’t, I decline the upgrade. The best seat on the plane is the one next to him.

Why? What difference does it make?

If you have to ask…yikes.

+1

Goodness. If somebody would rather sit by strangers to get a nicer seat that's fine, but to truly not understand why it doesn't make a difference is just obtuse.

Sorry, I mean why it *makes* a difference.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:As a husband, I would have offered the seat to my wife. But she would have said no because she’s smaller than me (and doesn’t need the extra space in first class) and doesn’t drink (and therefore can’t take advantage of the free drinks). And if I said “let’s sit in coach together,” she would have said no (and meant it) because it’s passing up a good deal and because there’s no reason for both of us to suffer.

This is us. I don’t think OP is a troll. Dh travel for work a lot and has very high status. When we vacation internationally, we often all get upgraded. Sometimes only he does. He’s over six feet, and economy is highly uncomfortable for him. Versus for me, I’ll live in the small seats. He would probably offer me the front seat, and feel quite guilty about it, but in the end he and I would both know where the decision was going. If it was a daytime flight, we’d probably debate splitting halfway through. But night time flight? I would just tell him to eat dinner and take a melatonin and sleep. It’s fine! Someone should enjoy the free seat.

Exactly this. It happened to my DH and me once. I told him to take the upgrade. He told the flight attendant where I was, and she brought me a glass of champagne during the flight.

I'm the PP you're responding to, and I should have mentioned this: of course you send alcohol back! One time Dh and I went to Asia - he was already flying business class for work. We decided to use miles for me, but there was no business class left - only first and economy. We had zillions of points and hadn't traveled in years (young kids) so decided to blow out the bank and fly me on First. I sent him back a $100 of Japanese whiskey to his lowly business class seat.....

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I’d tell DH to take the upgrade! (Unless we were traveling with toddlers and I wanted his help)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Someone might as well take advantage. It's not like he paid extra to upgrade just himself. It was a fluke. Airplane time is not exactly loveliy time to chat . Trading half way through would be the best option.

This, above. He didn't even offer? You didn't even ask? He needs to work on considering you more, and you need to work on speaking up and coming up with (really very easy) solutions like taking turns.

But it's over now. Since you're still resenting him, tell him you resented it, ask him to do the vacation laundry as his "payment" and make it a joke as well. But I suspect there's not a lot of humor between the two of you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I, a wife, get offered upgrades all the time due to my status with an airline. Sometimes my husband is also upgraded, sometimes not. If he isn’t, I decline the upgrade. The best seat on the plane is the one next to him.

Barf.

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We are getting more and more banal posts based on snippets people have seen on TikTok.

[Anonymous]

This is so stupid. Why would anyone give up a comfortable seat in first class, in a long haul flight no less, so as not to hurt a spouses feelings. In fact if that happened to me, I would give the seat to my DH who is much taller and bigger than me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This was a Seinfeld episode (minus the marriage and the text).

Yes, was just about to say this. If text had existed then it certainly would have been featured. But I do remember the flowers in the (upper class) bathroom.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Someone might as well take advantage. It's not like he paid extra to upgrade just himself. It was a fluke. Airplane time is not exactly loveliy time to chat . Trading half way through would be the best option.

Yes I think splitting half way would’ve been most fair. Unless DH has status from lots of work travel

+1 he should've offered you a trade.

Wow, I would've been super livid. It would make me think he doesn't really care for your comfort. And then to send you a pix of a plate of cheese knowing you were in the cattle cabin. That's just thoughtless.

Your DH is a douchebag.

I would cook myself great meals and let him fend for himself.

[Anonymous]

I don’t understand how there wasn’t a conversation about this. Your husband just said ‘great, I’ll take it!’ And walked out without a backward glance to you? Did you say nothing? I can see DH and I coming to different solutions based on different situations, but in any of them, we would have talked and agreed!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:As a husband, I would have offered the seat to my wife. But she would have said no because she’s smaller than me (and doesn’t need the extra space in first class) and doesn’t drink (and therefore can’t take advantage of the free drinks). And if I said “let’s sit in coach together,” she would have said no (and meant it) because it’s passing up a good deal and because there’s no reason for both of us to suffer.

Hi honey. Except we’ve been through this scenario many times since DH has high airline status, he does not need to even ask - we know the drill. I’m often upgraded with him. But in case not, we know to choose the most desirable coach seat for me - so that if he rushes off to business class, I’m not stuck in a middle seat in between 2 randos.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I, a wife, get offered upgrades all the time due to my status with an airline. Sometimes my husband is also upgraded, sometimes not. If he isn’t, I decline the upgrade. The best seat on the plane is the one next to him.

Why? What difference does it make?

If you have to ask…yikes.

+1

Goodness. If somebody would rather [/b]sit by strangers [b]to get a nicer seat that's fine, but to truly not understand why it doesn't make a difference is just obtuse.

Haha. Obviously never flown in United Polaris or any international first pod — where you’re in luxurious aloneness. It’s like a spa treat for me.

[Anonymous]

I would be happy for my spouse that they are getting a nice seat. I am an adult and can sit in economy by myself. Assuming you went to Europe, the flights aren’t that long anyway.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:As a husband, I would have offered the seat to my wife. But she would have said no because she’s smaller than me (and doesn’t need the extra space in first class) and doesn’t drink (and therefore can’t take advantage of the free drinks). And if I said “let’s sit in coach together,” she would have said no (and meant it) because it’s passing up a good deal and because there’s no reason for both of us to suffer.

This is us. I don’t think OP is a troll. Dh travel for work a lot and has very high status. When we vacation internationally, we often all get upgraded. Sometimes only he does. He’s over six feet, and economy is highly uncomfortable for him. Versus for me, I’ll live in the small seats. He would probably offer me the front seat, and feel quite guilty about it, but in the end he and I would both know where the decision was going. If it was a daytime flight, we’d probably debate splitting halfway through. But night time flight? I would just tell him to eat dinner and take a melatonin and sleep. It’s fine! Someone should enjoy the free seat.

Exactly this. It happened to my DH and me once. I told him to take the upgrade. He told the flight attendant where I was, and she brought me a glass of champagne during the flight.

I'm the PP you're responding to, and I should have mentioned this: of course you send alcohol back! One time Dh and I went to Asia - he was already flying business class for work. We decided to use miles for me, but there was no business class left - only first and economy. We had zillions of points and hadn't traveled in years (young kids) so decided to blow out the bank and fly me on First. I sent him back a $100 of Japanese whiskey to his lowly business class seat.....

I love this.

My DH falls asleep as soon as the engines start. We only fly domestic, but we regularly buy him a coach ticket and me one in first class. Airline always laughs when I call to have them link the PNR's.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I, a wife, get offered upgrades all the time due to my status with an airline. Sometimes my husband is also upgraded, sometimes not. If he isn’t, I decline the upgrade. The best seat on the plane is the one next to him.

Barf.

Sorry your spouse sucks.