Can a woman over 35 ever be a catch?

[Anonymous]

Yes & it depends what YOU are looking for in a man. if you want someone who chases 22 yr olds, no…but why would you bother? Keep fit & attractive. Be interested in others and life. I’m 49 and still turn heads.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My wife was a huge catch at that age. I would have dated her over women 10 years younger.

Your wife is standing behind you and looking over your shoulder as you type---right ?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My wife was a huge catch at that age. I would have dated her over women 10 years younger.

Your wife is standing behind you and looking over your shoulder as you type---right ?

No she’s not and I’m actually serious. She’s just always been HOT. Her mom and aunts (on both sides) were all good looking well into their later years. She put herself through a D1 school on a track scholarship (she was the first member of her family to go to college) and made the deans or presidents list every semester she was there. She’s had a life long dedication to fitness, even at 50 she’s toned from head to toe, and when she was in her 30’s her body was even more insane. She’s literally got a booty that stops traffic. Like, I’ve seen people make the block just to look at her again. Lol.

Aside from looks, as you might have guessed by college, she’s extremely driven. In her 30’s she was averaging about $600k per year and had started a side business buying and rennovating rental properties. There was a year where she even made more than me at her side hustle! Now, she has 7 figure years pretty regularly. She realy has zero interest in proving anything or showing off to anybody. We have lots of properties but she drives a 10 year old car with 160k miles on it. All she needs to be happy is family, friends and a dog (more if left up to her). To be somewhere around water helps too.

I’m not saying that she doesn’t have quirks. Most really driven people do and she’s very Type A. She can also be very chill and easy going to.

But she’s a real catch and thats not just my biased view.

[Anonymous]

I met my DH at 36, and he was 36.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes to a man over 40.

Not necessarily.

Im 50+, I'm a catch to my MUCH MUCH younger (handsome af) bf

[Anonymous]

Oh my god, how sad that you have so little self-regard/regard for women.

Of course.

[Anonymous]

I'm 45. I promise you I am still a catch. Many of my similarly aged friends have definitely slid out of "catch" territory in the last 5 years. When we were 35? Lots of my friends would have been catches. We were, of course, all married. But the idea being that if we suddenly found ourselves single, we would have definitely been catches.

However..... 35 and single? Quite often a reason for it. We had a few straggler friends at that age who were amazing women and men who had just had lousy luck at dating, and still did very well at 35. But by 40... the single folks were mostly single for a reason.

Said another way: At 35, never married? Maybe a catch, maybe not.

[Anonymous]

I'd be a catch if I got divorced. Skinny, conventionally attractive, own a successful business, have been told I'm funny. Take good care of my grooming and have no kids. Family is nearby and they're there for me but I can also easily take care of myself.

[Anonymous]

Of course. Justin long just married Kate Bosworth- they’re both well over 35. Goldie Hawn was over 35 when she and Kurt russel got together. Rachel Weisz was in her late 30s when she Daniel Craig got together. Ben affleck married Jlo in their 50s…

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Divorced dads who doesn't want a conflict of interest should prefer a financially independent childless woman in her mid 30's.

Financially independent childless women in their 30s should (and mostly do) avoid divorced dads.

[Anonymous]

Definitely. Sure, I evaluate on a sliding scale accounting for age. But one thing about young women: a lot of very beautiful ones are not beautiful at all by their 30s or 40s. The older a beautiful woman is, the more confident I am that they will continue to be beautiful (accounting for aging, of course). If you're pretty in your 30s, I'll feel good about committing because I'll figure you're probably going to still be pretty in 20 years. If you're pretty in your 40s, I'll feel real good about the next 15 years. But with a pretty 25yo, it's a crap shoot.

[Anonymous]

Depends. How much money do you have?

[Anonymous]

I'd say they're more of a catch than me- 34 with two kids

[Anonymous]

This language is so bizarre: "Landing" a man; a "catch". Is this really how people think about relationships?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Can I as a 36 year old childless woman ever be considered a catch? What would my attributes have to be?

Catch for whom? For a 50 year old high school dropout homeless person?