11-12 girls so poised

[Anonymous]

I wouldn't know that my son was supposed to say something during an awards ceremony other than "Thank you." Is it possible they just didn't know they were supposed to say something?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m gonna disagree with all of you. It’s not that girls mature faster. It’s social media. These girls are watching make up tutorials and “get ready with me” videos. The amount they know about skincare and beauty products is staggering. And to be honest, a lot of the young women making the videos are poised and articulate. The girls seem sophisticated because they are, while the boys have spend the equivalent amount of time watching idiots play video games.

I think some of us are not sure if watching makeup tutorials at that age is a good thing. Or that it's any better than playing video games. Neither is necessarily harmless.

[Anonymous]

OP here: our pool does a banquet. Kids and adults dress casually but nicely. A usual step up from normal attire. The pool is closed so it’s a catered meal, awards in which kids get awards, coached make speeches and kids make tiny speeches in return thanking coaches and teammates. The 8U and 9-10 girls come in cute kids dress up clothes. The older girls are dresses in short dresses with low-cut necklines. Definitely young-woman attire, nothing cute or kiddish or sporty. Think prom-like except not glitzy. Not heavily made up but enough to look put together. The 15-18 older boys look like they came out of a Vineyard Vines catalog. The youngest boys were also dressed nicely. The 9-14 yos were dresses in their ‘play’ clothes. I don’t notice the difference when I volunteer at school but it was definitely obvious here.

[Anonymous]

I don’t know if it’s maturity or societal/peer pressure to act a certain way.
I have an 11yo DD and she is not like this yet. She’s a nice friendly kid and social. I would not call her poised though, lol. She wore a shirt with sharks on it to our banquet with khaki shorts.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m gonna disagree with all of you. It’s not that girls mature faster. It’s social media. These girls are watching make up tutorials and “get ready with me” videos. The amount they know about skincare and beauty products is staggering. And to be honest, a lot of the young women making the videos are poised and articulate. The girls seem sophisticated because they are, while the boys have spend the equivalent amount of time watching idiots play video games.

Tween girls outpacing tween boys when it comes to maturing predates social media. By millennia.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:They also don’t have an awkward stage, somehow! They pose for photos like they’re on the red carpet, know skin and hair care and makeup, etc (better than I do, tbh). I was a tween/teen in the 80s and there was a looooooong awkward period; I came out of it around 15, as did most of my friends. How are these girls so beautiful and poised?

All of the things DCUM tells us to block. They are on the internet, tik tok and Instagram.

But seriously, I asked my rising 7th grader (12 yo) to come shopping with me next week to help me with makeup. Mine was from many years ago and I don’t know how to apply it. Hers is simple, natural looking and beautiful. I started taking her advice on hair products and my hair has looked better!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There is some variety within this demographic but what you describe is very common, OP.

My 12 year old is as articulate as me and carries herself as well as I do.

Although... she doesn't cuss, stands up straighter and wears cuter clothes so actually she's probably doing better...

NP. Same!!!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:They also don’t have an awkward stage, somehow! They pose for photos like they’re on the red carpet, know skin and hair care and makeup, etc (better than I do, tbh). I was a tween/teen in the 80s and there was a looooooong awkward period; I came out of it around 15, as did most of my friends. How are these girls so beautiful and poised?

All of the things DCUM tells us to block. They are on the internet, tik tok and Instagram.

But seriously, I asked my rising 7th grader (12 yo) to come shopping with me next week to help me with makeup. Mine was from many years ago and I don’t know how to apply it. Hers is simple, natural looking and beautiful. I started taking her advice on hair products and my hair has looked better!

But perfecting ones "look" with " the best" hair products and makeup at such a young age comes at a huge cost in terms of time and money and probably self esteem from spending time watching "beautiful people."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:They also don’t have an awkward stage, somehow! They pose for photos like they’re on the red carpet, know skin and hair care and makeup, etc (better than I do, tbh). I was a tween/teen in the 80s and there was a looooooong awkward period; I came out of it around 15, as did most of my friends. How are these girls so beautiful and poised?

All of the things DCUM tells us to block. They are on the internet, tik tok and Instagram.

But seriously, I asked my rising 7th grader (12 yo) to come shopping with me next week to help me with makeup. Mine was from many years ago and I don’t know how to apply it. Hers is simple, natural looking and beautiful. I started taking her advice on hair products and my hair has looked better!

Your makeup was ‘years’ old??

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:They also don’t have an awkward stage, somehow! They pose for photos like they’re on the red carpet, know skin and hair care and makeup, etc (better than I do, tbh). I was a tween/teen in the 80s and there was a looooooong awkward period; I came out of it around 15, as did most of my friends. How are these girls so beautiful and poised?

All of the things DCUM tells us to block. They are on the internet, tik tok and Instagram.

But seriously, I asked my rising 7th grader (12 yo) to come shopping with me next week to help me with makeup. Mine was from many years ago and I don’t know how to apply it. Hers is simple, natural looking and beautiful. I started taking her advice on hair products and my hair has looked better!

Your makeup was ‘years’ old??

Probably. I was that poised 12 year old back in the 90s with a mom who didn't wear any makeup that didn't come free in a Clinique gift set. It happens.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:They also don’t have an awkward stage, somehow! They pose for photos like they’re on the red carpet, know skin and hair care and makeup, etc (better than I do, tbh). I was a tween/teen in the 80s and there was a looooooong awkward period; I came out of it around 15, as did most of my friends. How are these girls so beautiful and poised?

My 12 year old watches a lot of skin care videos, searches for outfit inspiration and takes care of her hygiene and health. She does wear make up, more than I prefer although she tries to make it look “natural.”

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why is an 11 yr old wearing makeup?

+1

It's so like southern pageant mom weird

[Anonymous]

these 11 year olds probably wear crop tops too that show lots of skin

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here: our pool does a banquet. Kids and adults dress casually but nicely. A usual step up from normal attire. The pool is closed so it’s a catered meal, awards in which kids get awards, coached make speeches and kids make tiny speeches in return thanking coaches and teammates. The 8U and 9-10 girls come in cute kids dress up clothes. The older girls are dresses in short dresses with low-cut necklines. Definitely young-woman attire, nothing cute or kiddish or sporty. Think prom-like except not glitzy. Not heavily made up but enough to look put together. The 15-18 older boys look like they came out of a Vineyard Vines catalog. The youngest boys were also dressed nicely. The 9-14 yos were dresses in their ‘play’ clothes. I don’t notice the difference when I volunteer at school but it was definitely obvious here.

I think you got your answer: girls mature sooner. Plus, social media makes them extra aware of posture, skin care, clothing, communication etc

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:They also don’t have an awkward stage, somehow! They pose for photos like they’re on the red carpet, know skin and hair care and makeup, etc (better than I do, tbh). I was a tween/teen in the 80s and there was a looooooong awkward period; I came out of it around 15, as did most of my friends. How are these girls so beautiful and poised?

All of the things DCUM tells us to block. They are on the internet, tik tok and Instagram.

But seriously, I asked my rising 7th grader (12 yo) to come shopping with me next week to help me with makeup. Mine was from many years ago and I don’t know how to apply it. Hers is simple, natural looking and beautiful. I started taking her advice on hair products and my hair has looked better!

Your makeup was ‘years’ old??

Yes. I hadn’t bought any since before covid happened. I stopped wearing it completely around then and I’d like to start again!