Gross older men keep hitting on me

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I keep getting hit on and chatted up by 70-year-old, overweight, never married or very long since divorced men. Always the socially awkward ones, too.

I’m 37, divorced last year, thin and relatively attractive, putting myself back out there but absolutely NOT interested in these creepy old men. I’m afraid I somehow give out some kind of signal that I’m too “eligible” or somehow in the league of these men. I dated ONE man who was pushing 60, because we uniquely clicked, but that doesn’t mean I’m fair game. Go home, grandpa.

Don’t worry. This will pass in about 3 to 6 years.

It doesn't. I'm 48 and still get hit on a lot. Not by elderly men though.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:stop hanging at cheesy bars like clyde's

hahaha yeah men stop gawking unless you are at Clydes. something about this antlers..

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:stop hanging at cheesy bars like clyde's

But if you insist on frequenting places like this, OP, learn to throw drinks in their faces. It's a very dramatic yet effective response. Pro tip: only order well booze, not the top-shelf stuff. You'll save $$.

[Anonymous]

My 75 year old MIL gets asked for her number by men older and younger. She gives off very youthful vibes (swims and works out daily, wears heels and a ponytail) but im still gobsmacked every time it happens.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Hi OP, in 52, look 48, and get chatted up often by men 65+. They sense some vulnerability, I don’t know.

Sure you do...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yeah, you must give off a somewhat desperate or available vibe. Dial it back.

I am not OP but this has happened to me when I was just being polite or friendly. Doesn't take much for older men to think you are interested!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yeah, you must give off a somewhat desperate or available vibe. Dial it back.

I am not OP but this has happened to me when I was just being polite or friendly. Doesn't take much for older men to think you are interested!

Exactly. Movies and tv showing 60 and 79 year olds snagging 30-somethings doesn't help.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I keep getting hit on and chatted up by 70-year-old, overweight, never married or very long since divorced men. Always the socially awkward ones, too.

I’m 37, divorced last year, thin and relatively attractive, putting myself back out there but absolutely NOT interested in these creepy old men. I’m afraid I somehow give out some kind of signal that I’m too “eligible” or somehow in the league of these men. I dated ONE man who was pushing 60, because we uniquely clicked, but that doesn’t mean I’m fair game. Go home, grandpa.

Don’t worry. This will pass in about 3 to 6 years.

It doesn't. I'm 48 and still get hit on a lot. Not by elderly men though.

Why are you chiming in on this thread? 🙄

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Online or in real-life?
Men are naturally attracted to physically appealing women, OP. I'm married and middle-aged, but I'm fit and slim and men do tend to be nice and enter into conversations.
If all the attention is too much, you need a stock phrase or something.

She needs to stop going wherever it is she's going that these men are also hanging out.

OP, join a hiking group or something active that's aimed at (for instance) under-50s, or some kind of 30s-40s sporting league where you see men of the age you want are playing. Do things that these older men you describe just aren't doing.

That's not entirely right. OP has a right to go wherever she wants to go. Of course maybe a truck stop near the Dakota mines won't be pleasant, but... come on, this isn't all on the woman.

[Anonymous]

OP, I believe you. I am 53 and still get hit on. I am a widow and reasonably well off and I am also surprised by how many men want to know if I own my own home or want to be a sugar mama!! I know it might happen when I have dinner at the bar (many restaurants won’t seat single diners at a table) but it is annoying when any small talk is interpreted as flirting. This happens at baseball games, coffee shops, gallery openings, not singles events. I think it’s the men who are desperate and/or super deluded.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yeah, you must give off a somewhat desperate or available vibe. Dial it back.

I am not OP but this has happened to me when I was just being polite or friendly. Doesn't take much for older men to think you are interested!

Exactly. Movies and tv showing 60 and 79 year olds snagging 30-somethings doesn't help.

All the Viagra commercials show active 60something silver daddy types on sailboats with gorgeous younger women.

[Anonymous]

A lot of nicer old men just get off on talking to young women. There's not necessarily intention there.

[Anonymous]

Troll OP still hasn't commented on what this "hurting on" actually is.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My theory is that you look kind and socially awkward men aren’t afraid to approach.
Or you fit some type.
I am 47 and for the last couple years elderly Hispanic men tend to hit on me (60+).

+1. Might just be a side effect of putting yourself out there more, OP.

I fit a type, and I definitely get more attention when I am around certain types of men.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I keep getting hit on and chatted up by 70-year-old, overweight, never married or very long since divorced men. Always the socially awkward ones, too.

I’m 37, divorced last year, thin and relatively attractive, putting myself back out there but absolutely NOT interested in these creepy old men. I’m afraid I somehow give out some kind of signal that I’m too “eligible” or somehow in the league of these men. I dated ONE man who was pushing 60, because we uniquely clicked, but that doesn’t mean I’m fair game. Go home, grandpa.

Don’t worry. This will pass in about 3 to 6 years.

It doesn't. I'm 48 and still get hit on a lot. Not by elderly men though.

Why are you chiming in on this thread? 🙄

I was responding to the PP who said that the attention will stop when she's 40. That doesn't happen.