Gross older men keep hitting on me

[Anonymous]

I keep getting hit on and chatted up by 70-year-old, overweight, never married or very long since divorced men. Always the socially awkward ones, too.

I’m 37, divorced last year, thin and relatively attractive, putting myself back out there but absolutely NOT interested in these creepy old men. I’m afraid I somehow give out some kind of signal that I’m too “eligible” or somehow in the league of these men. I dated ONE man who was pushing 60, because we uniquely clicked, but that doesn’t mean I’m fair game. Go home, grandpa.

[Anonymous]

Online or in real-life?
Men are naturally attracted to physically appealing women, OP. I'm married and middle-aged, but I'm fit and slim and men do tend to be nice and enter into conversations.
If all the attention is too much, you need a stock phrase or something.

[Anonymous]

Where is this happening?
Are you hanging at the bar by yourself at a country club?

[Anonymous]

Well, viagra is being subsidized and is really inexpensive now.

Such an important investment in the medical field. Glad there aren't more pressing needs. /s

[Anonymous]

Yeah, you must give off a somewhat desperate or available vibe. Dial it back.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Online or in real-life?
Men are naturally attracted to physically appealing women, OP. I'm married and middle-aged, but I'm fit and slim and men do tend to be nice and enter into conversations.
If all the attention is too much, you need a stock phrase or something.

She needs to stop going wherever it is she's going that these men are also hanging out.

OP, join a hiking group or something active that's aimed at (for instance) under-50s, or some kind of 30s-40s sporting league where you see men of the age you want are playing. Do things that these older men you describe just aren't doing.

[Anonymous]

You sound incredibly immature for 37

[Anonymous]

But they got $.

[Anonymous]

Lmao are you a caregiver at assisted living or something?

[Anonymous]

OP, you are likely doing nothing wrong. Men feel entitled to hit on anyone around them. A 67 yo may no longer feel entitled to hit on an 18 yo, but someone 30 years younger? - that feels in range to them, particularly when the 67 yo is convinced he’s “really” more like a 55 or 60 yo.

I am 57 and still get street harassment - whistles, comments about my ass, etc. I’m not particularly fit or pretty. However, at the moment it happens, I am alone. That’s the only thing I’m doing “wrong” - in that moment I am a woman unprotected by a man and so other men think it’s OK to sexually objectify me out loud or make some kind of pass.

If this kind of contact is occurring in a dating environment, it is simply because in that environment men think they have a shot at anything. It’s not because of anything you do.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, you are likely doing nothing wrong. Men feel entitled to hit on anyone around them. A 67 yo may no longer feel entitled to hit on an 18 yo, but someone 30 years younger? - that feels in range to them, particularly when the 67 yo is convinced he’s “really” more like a 55 or 60 yo.

I am 57 and still get street harassment - whistles, comments about my ass, etc. I’m not particularly fit or pretty. However, at the moment it happens, I am alone. That’s the only thing I’m doing “wrong” - in that moment I am a woman unprotected by a man and so other men think it’s OK to sexually objectify me out loud or make some kind of pass.

If this kind of contact is occurring in a dating environment, it is simply because in that environment men think they have a shot at anything. It’s not because of anything you do.

This is such good advice.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, you are likely doing nothing wrong. Men feel entitled to hit on anyone around them. A 67 yo may no longer feel entitled to hit on an 18 yo, but someone 30 years younger? - that feels in range to them, particularly when the 67 yo is convinced he’s “really” more like a 55 or 60 yo.

I am 57 and still get street harassment - whistles, comments about my ass, etc. I’m not particularly fit or pretty. However, at the moment it happens, I am alone. That’s the only thing I’m doing “wrong” - in that moment I am a woman unprotected by a man and so other men think it’s OK to sexually objectify me out loud or make some kind of pass.

If this kind of contact is occurring in a dating environment, it is simply because in that environment men think they have a shot at anything. It’s not because of anything you do.

Lol desperate guys are willing hit anything that moves

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I keep getting hit on and chatted up by 70-year-old, overweight, never married or very long since divorced men. Always the socially awkward ones, too.

I’m 37, divorced last year, thin and relatively attractive, putting myself back out there but absolutely NOT interested in these creepy old men. I’m afraid I somehow give out some kind of signal that I’m too “eligible” or somehow in the league of these men. I dated ONE man who was pushing 60, because we uniquely clicked, but that doesn’t mean I’m fair game. Go home, grandpa.

Don’t worry. This will pass in about 3 to 6 years.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, you are likely doing nothing wrong. Men feel entitled to hit on anyone around them. A 67 yo may no longer feel entitled to hit on an 18 yo, but someone 30 years younger? - that feels in range to them, particularly when the 67 yo is convinced he’s “really” more like a 55 or 60 yo.

I am 57 and still get street harassment - whistles, comments about my ass, etc. I’m not particularly fit or pretty. However, at the moment it happens, I am alone. That’s the only thing I’m doing “wrong” - in that moment I am a woman unprotected by a man and so other men think it’s OK to sexually objectify me out loud or make some kind of pass.

If this kind of contact is occurring in a dating environment, it is simply because in that environment men think they have a shot at anything. It’s not because of anything you do.

This is such good advice.

There was literally no advice there, just someone posting about how they still get hit on and cat called.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I keep getting hit on and chatted up by 70-year-old, overweight, never married or very long since divorced men. Always the socially awkward ones, too.

I’m 37, divorced last year, thin and relatively attractive, putting myself back out there but absolutely NOT interested in these creepy old men. I’m afraid I somehow give out some kind of signal that I’m too “eligible” or somehow in the league of these men. I dated ONE man who was pushing 60, because we uniquely clicked, but that doesn’t mean I’m fair game. Go home, grandpa.

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