SIL just had a baby and my sister is due in the fall

[Anonymous]

I'm sorry, OP. I went to my BFFs shower while actively miscarrying. It was brutal. Skip what you need to, take care of yourself. Anyone who doesn't understand can suck it.

I lost the baby and a solid bid on a house the same day. I planned myself a kick ass vacation instead. (It helped redirect my energy, but in reality on the whole trip I was resentful of the fact that it wasn't a babymoon type trip, and got mad when alcohol was offered. Grief is weird)

[Anonymous]

It's 100% age. Don't worry it'll probably happen to them too in the next round

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's 100% age. Don't worry it'll probably happen to them too in the next round

2 ectopics in a row isn't due to age.

I'm so sorry, OP. I've been there. In the end, IVF worked for me. Good luck.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's 100% age. Don't worry it'll probably happen to them too in the next round

That’s nasty…so, you are miserable and instead of hoping your own situation improves, your attitude is it’s okay because (fingers crossed!), things will go wrong for them, too!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think it is ok to skip baby showers given your situation. Send a note with a gift.

I bet you will eventually have a child, either thru IVF or adoption. Hang in there.

My SIL skipped my baby shower shortly after her second miscarriage and OF COURSE I understood. I was half inclined to cancel it entirely. Skip that type of stuff for sure. Anyone who does not understand, well, that is their problem.