MIL keeps pressuring DH to go in hot tub

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Hot tubs are disgusting. Just keep saying no

This. Especially at a rental.

[Anonymous]

If your DH really cannot say no to his mom and if mom really cannot take no for an answer -- maybe try the passive aggressive delay.

Oh yes, planning on going in later today! Thanks for the reminder.

Then later in the day -- oh just showered -- will go in tomorrow am with my coffee -- looking forward to it!

And so on until it is time to leave. And then say, oh man, can't believe I missed out on the hot tub - glad you enjoyed it mom.

[Anonymous]

How old are you and how long have you been TTC?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Hot tubs are disgusting. Just keep saying no

This. Especially at a rental.

Do you guys also not go to pools?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why can't your husband tell his mom no? Why do you need to be involved?

+1. If he’s grown enough to be a husband and a father, he’s grown enough to open his mouth and say, “Mom, I’m glad you enjoy it, but I won’t be going in the hot tub,” without wifey’s help.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We’re currently on vacation with ILs at a lake house. When ILs booked the rental, MIL was super excited about the fact that it has a hot tub. However, DH and I are currently TTC, and we’ve read studies that show that going in a hot tub can decrease your sperm count for up to three months, so DH doesn’t want to go in the hot tub. However, MIL keeps pressuring him to go in, despite him saying no over and over. This is weird, right?

Is she always like this? My MIL only started doing this when she was in her 80s.

OP here, yes she’s always been like this…she’s like a bulldog and won’t accept no for an answer on anything

So why did you two agree to go on vacation with her?

[Blame instead of saying “because we’re doormats”]

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She probably just wants to make sure she’s getting her money’s worth.

+1

She wanted to impress everyone and is disappointed no one is excited or justifying th choice.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We’re currently on vacation with ILs at a lake house. When ILs booked the rental, MIL was super excited about the fact that it has a hot tub. However, DH and I are currently TTC, and we’ve read studies that show that going in a hot tub can decrease your sperm count for up to three months, so DH doesn’t want to go in the hot tub. However, MIL keeps pressuring him to go in, despite him saying no over and over. This is weird, right?

Is she always like this? My MIL only started doing this when she was in her 80s.

OP here, yes she’s always been like this…she’s like a bulldog and won’t accept no for an answer on anything

OK, so she’s just asking? And he says no and doesn’t do it? Unless she is hog-tying him or forcing him into the hot tub at gunpoint, so what. He presumably has a voice. He can use it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She probably just wants to make sure she’s getting her money’s worth.

+1

She wanted to impress everyone and is disappointed no one is excited or justifying th choice.

Lol what is so impressive about a hot tub?

[Anonymous]

He can hot tub just have him shower off if your worried about it after.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She probably just wants to make sure she’s getting her money’s worth.

+1

She wanted to impress everyone and is disappointed no one is excited or justifying th choice.

Lol what is so impressive about a hot tub?

NP. If she is paying for the rental (or was in charge of selecting the one everyone paid for together), she probably looked at a lot of properties, and took great pride in finding the “best” one. She’s probably been very excited about this trip.

I totally get that it is annoying that she won’t stop suggesting it, but unless DH has actually, plainly said, “Mom, I’m not going into the hot tub during this trip. Please stop asking me about it,” then OP (and DH) have absolutely no right to be upset. DH should use his words, like a grown-up. If he has spoken up and she’s still pushing, yes, again, that is very annoying, but…so what? In the grand scheme of things, so what?

[Anonymous]

If he can’t tell his mother “no, I don’t want to go into a hot tub” he’s not ready to be a father. So there’s that.

[Anonymous]

Lots of mothers are pushy; this doesen't seem overly unusual to me. Your dh is a big boy; I'm sure he can handle himself with regard to her insistence.

[Anonymous]

Many cultures use hot baths / hot tubs daily and fertility isn't negatively impacted.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Lots of mothers are pushy; this doesen't seem overly unusual to me. Your dh is a big boy; I'm sure he can handle himself with regard to her insistence.

+1. Plus if MIL is pushy, what does that make you, OP? You aren’t trusting him to simply say he doesn’t want to go in a hot tub, so you’re taking it to the Internet to backup for bashing MIL?