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friend died last night
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Anonymous
Sorry for your loss, OP. This post is spot on. I was in a bad accident earlier this year and it helped when people would just say, I will bring you dinner on this day, or I will come clean your house on this day. Otherwise his girlfriend may feel like she shouldn't bother you with tasks that she thinks she should be able to do herself. |
Anonymous
I'm sorry, but I don't understand how he could be killed on the metro switching from one train to another. Do they mean the cars? Can you move from car to car on the metro? |
Anonymous
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Terrible tragedy. At 3 a.m. alcohol may have been involved. It doesn't sound like a suicide.
I think the best you can do is call frequently, and yes, bring food, or offer to take your friend out to eat. And don't fade away. Keep asking her how she's doing, and realize that grief lasts a full year at least. In the old days, people wore black armbands or dressed in black for a full year after losing a close family member. It's too bad that was given up, as it lends the impression that we "get over" a death in a few months and "move on." It takes much longer than that. Asking how a friend is doing six months later can be very supportive. Lots of pain is invisible. |
Anonymous
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OP, very sorry to hear about the passing of your friend. I have lost several friends over the years and it is never easy.
On another note, I am wondering if the death of this student has anything to do with the doors opening on moving metro trains and the immediate removal of over 100 cars. |