Annoyed at Nanny Asking for Raise

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Anonymous wrote:Stay home with your damned kid. Why’d you bother having any?

She is paying a good salary.

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Anonymous wrote:Well I work in the corporate world and I was pretty insulted that I didn’t get even a 3% raise this year. Annual raises are pretty standard most places. Did you not get a raise this year, op?

My spouse never gets a raise and his income goes up and down every year in the corporate world.

Up AND down? Is he on commission?

Nope. Some of it is RSU's but some of it is salary and the salary changes year to year too.

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Anonymous wrote:Our nanny makes $26/hr in Bethesda for one child. After one year she asked me for a raise ($2/hr plus a few hundred a month to her health insurance). Her justification was, inflation and the fact she had been with us for one year. I would never ask my boss for more pay with that justification. Not even when I worked an hourly rate in retail would that request have gotten me more money. Is this just the way it is in the nanny world? Raises expected annually for no reason other than retention?

Did you get a raise this year?
Did the nanny exceed expectations?
Has market rate for nannies changed in your area?
What is it worth to you to keep this nanny for the next year?
Just because the nanny did not articulate her justification the same way you would have does not mean it is not reasonable.

OP here. I got a 2% raise this year, not the 11% raise my nanny is asking for. I would say she “meets expectations”. Seems like the nanny market gets flooded in summer as families let nannies go as their kids start school. So I am just not convinced the market justified the raise.

I’d interview. For one kid you’ll find someone for cheaper than $26. We typically build in $1 raises per year so for one kid would go in at like $24.

I'd give a token raise of .25 or .5 but that's a good salary.

[Anonymous]

It’s weird that you are “annoyed.” She can ask. You can say no. She can accept that or she can go and find another job that pays her more if she can. Maybe she is struggling financially and had other higher paid opportunities but thought she’d see if she could stay with you first. You aren’t owed someone’s cheap labor just because it’s what YOU can afford or want to pay.

[Anonymous]

You are taking it personally. Don’t. Just say we can do x percent. You don’t know her situation. Maybe she would be better off in a nanny share. Just tell her what you can offer and then move on.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You are taking it personally. Don’t. Just say we can do x percent. You don’t know her situation. Maybe she would be better off in a nanny share. Just tell her what you can offer and then move on.

This

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Anonymous wrote:You are taking it personally. Don’t. Just say we can do x percent. You don’t know her situation. Maybe she would be better off in a nanny share. Just tell her what you can offer and then move on.

Yes, this. You have a business relationship with her, not a personal or family one. You’re feeling unappreciated for the salary you are giving her. Stop. As another poster advised, just tell her what you believe is a fair and reasonable offer based on inflation and market rates. If it’s nothing more, then it’s nothing more. Again, it’s not personal.

[Anonymous]

This person takes care of your child. I think it’s reasonable. Why did you have a kid anyway if you can’t take care of yourself?

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Anonymous wrote:This person takes care of your child. I think it’s reasonable. Why did you have a kid anyway if you can’t take care of yourself?[/quote]

This is such a stupid, misogynist question. Do you ask men why they bothered to have kids if they aren't stay at home dads?

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Anonymous wrote:This person takes care of your child. I think it’s reasonable. Why did you have a kid anyway if you can’t take care of yourself?[/quote]

This is such a stupid, misogynist question. Do you ask men why they bothered to have kids if they aren't stay at home dads?

NP. I would absolutely ask it of both parents.

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Anonymous wrote:This person takes care of your child. I think it’s reasonable. Why did you have a kid anyway if you can’t take care of yourself?[/quote]

This is such a stupid, misogynist question. Do you ask men why they bothered to have kids if they aren't stay at home dads?

NP. I would absolutely ask it of both parents.

So you regularly ask friends with a daycare provider why one of them doesn’t stay home to take care of their children. Really? I’m calling BS on this.

[Anonymous]

It sounds like you aren’t thrilled with this nanny. For a beloved nanny, you wouldn’t balk. For a so-so nanny, it feels like a burden. I would start looking for someone new now that you now how you feel.

[Anonymous]

Annual raises are the norm. $2 plus a couple hundred dollars is too much.

I would counter with a $1 per hour raise plus a $100 stipend a month. That’s probably about a 5% raise. Seems good if you want to keep her. If that sounds like too much, don’t offer the stipend.

If you think you can find someone for cheaper/better, feel free to interview, but every nanny is going to expect a minimum of $1 per hour raise each year, there’s no getting around it.

[Anonymous]

Yes most nannies expect a $1-2/hr raise per year. Very standard and most candidates would bring up the same with you.

[Anonymous]

Are you for real, OP? Do you work in the real world yourself? Yes, annual raises are the norm, not the exception - except when the employer is a poor one.

Luckily your nanny will have no problem finding another job when you fail to meet her reasonable remuneration requirements.