Annoyed at Nanny Asking for Raise

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Our nanny makes $26/hr in Bethesda for one child. After one year she asked me for a raise ($2/hr plus a few hundred a month to her health insurance). Her justification was, inflation and the fact she had been with us for one year. I would never ask my boss for more pay with that justification. Not even when I worked an hourly rate in retail would that request have gotten me more money. Is this just the way it is in the nanny world? Raises expected annually for no reason other than retention?

Your nanny's request is reasonable. Comparing the person who cares for your child to a retail employee is unreasonable.

Most retail employees make minimum wage. OP is paying way above that.

No one in this region makes minimum wage anymore. Have you not heard about the massive labor shortage?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Our nanny makes $26/hr in Bethesda for one child. After one year she asked me for a raise ($2/hr plus a few hundred a month to her health insurance). Her justification was, inflation and the fact she had been with us for one year. I would never ask my boss for more pay with that justification. Not even when I worked an hourly rate in retail would that request have gotten me more money. Is this just the way it is in the nanny world? Raises expected annually for no reason other than retention?

Your nanny's request is reasonable. Comparing the person who cares for your child to a retail employee is unreasonable.

Most retail employees make minimum wage. OP is paying way above that.

No one in this region makes minimum wage anymore. Have you not heard about the massive labor shortage?

I just checked Indeed. Both Lidl and Aldi pay $18/hr.

[Anonymous]

Reasonable. You’ll likely lose her if you don’t meet her halfway.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Our nanny makes $26/hr in Bethesda for one child. After one year she asked me for a raise ($2/hr plus a few hundred a month to her health insurance). Her justification was, inflation and the fact she had been with us for one year. I would never ask my boss for more pay with that justification. Not even when I worked an hourly rate in retail would that request have gotten me more money. Is this just the way it is in the nanny world? Raises expected annually for no reason other than retention?

[Anonymous]

We always have our nanny a raise every year on her anniversary, plus a Christmas bonus and a birthday check. She stayed over 8 years. Worth every penny.

[Anonymous]

OP this is totally reasonable. If it seems unreasonable, let her go and find someone new. She’ll be fine.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes, like the government

I work for the government and the past few years are the first time we have gotten raises for COL. There were freezes for years before that…

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Our nanny makes $26/hr in Bethesda for one child. After one year she asked me for a raise ($2/hr plus a few hundred a month to her health insurance). Her justification was, inflation and the fact she had been with us for one year. I would never ask my boss for more pay with that justification. Not even when I worked an hourly rate in retail would that request have gotten me more money. Is this just the way it is in the nanny world? Raises expected annually for no reason other than retention?

Did you get a raise this year?
Did the nanny exceed expectations?
Has market rate for nannies changed in your area?
What is it worth to you to keep this nanny for the next year?
Just because the nanny did not articulate her justification the same way you would have does not mean it is not reasonable.

OP here. I got a 2% raise this year, not the 11% raise my nanny is asking for. I would say she “meets expectations”. Seems like the nanny market gets flooded in summer as families let nannies go as their kids start school. So I am just not convinced the market justified the raise.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Our nanny makes $26/hr in Bethesda for one child. After one year she asked me for a raise ($2/hr plus a few hundred a month to her health insurance). Her justification was, inflation and the fact she had been with us for one year. I would never ask my boss for more pay with that justification. Not even when I worked an hourly rate in retail would that request have gotten me more money. Is this just the way it is in the nanny world? Raises expected annually for no reason other than retention?

Did you get a raise this year?
Did the nanny exceed expectations?
Has market rate for nannies changed in your area?
What is it worth to you to keep this nanny for the next year?
Just because the nanny did not articulate her justification the same way you would have does not mean it is not reasonable.

OP here. I got a 2% raise this year, not the 11% raise my nanny is asking for. I would say she “meets expectations”. Seems like the nanny market gets flooded in summer as families let nannies go as their kids start school. So I am just not convinced the market justified the raise.

Well, it sounds like you could do better. Call her bluff and if she walks, it sounds like it'll be easy to backfill.

[Anonymous]

Stay home with your damned kid. Why’d you bother having any?

[Anonymous]

I think $1-$2 an hour raise is reasonable. I don’t think asking for more money towards health insurance as well is though. How much are u putting towards her health insurance now?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Well I work in the corporate world and I was pretty insulted that I didn’t get even a 3% raise this year. Annual raises are pretty standard most places. Did you not get a raise this year, op?

My spouse never gets a raise and his income goes up and down every year in the corporate world.

Up AND down? Is he on commission?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You would never ask for an inflation raise adjustment? Why not?

Because it's a market job, not an entitlement. You ask for a raise based on the cost of replacing you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Our nanny makes $26/hr in Bethesda for one child. After one year she asked me for a raise ($2/hr plus a few hundred a month to her health insurance). Her justification was, inflation and the fact she had been with us for one year. I would never ask my boss for more pay with that justification. Not even when I worked an hourly rate in retail would that request have gotten me more money. Is this just the way it is in the nanny world? Raises expected annually for no reason other than retention?

Did you get a raise this year?
Did the nanny exceed expectations?
Has market rate for nannies changed in your area?
What is it worth to you to keep this nanny for the next year?
Just because the nanny did not articulate her justification the same way you would have does not mean it is not reasonable.

OP here. I got a 2% raise this year, not the 11% raise my nanny is asking for. I would say she “meets expectations”. Seems like the nanny market gets flooded in summer as families let nannies go as their kids start school. So I am just not convinced the market justified the raise.

I’d interview. For one kid you’ll find someone for cheaper than $26. We typically build in $1 raises per year so for one kid would go in at like $24.

[Anonymous]

The inflation is not 5% a year. I went to whole foods yesterday and most items I buy went 5-10% compared to month ago. $2 per hour is reasonable and $100 towards health insurance is reasonable.