How to respond to MILs outrageous comments

[Anonymous]

So you’re mad that your MIL is right in her observations and got your feelings hurt so you’re skipping a meal with her to put her in her place but not telling her that’s why you’re skipping?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Am I the only one who thinks what she said doesn’t sound that bad? Everyone’s overwhelmed with a newborn. It sounds like she was worried about you all. The money comments and organization comments — only you would know, are they true? If so, sounds like she’s a worrier and those were reasons why she was worried. I think you should try to have a conversation with her and her know that you were hurt by her comments. And that you’re aware she was drunk but it was still hurtful.

If you think this wasn't that bad it because you've been abused and have normalized it.

[Anonymous]

I think OP is right to just avoid her MIL and let her husband deal with her. I think confronting her or having husband avoid her makes things more miserable for OP. More heated exchanges, more drama, a guilt-laden husband. She’s a mean drunk but she’s still your husband’s mother.

[Anonymous]

With Mother’s Day over, I think you and your husband need to establish what your long term plan is. It sounds like your husband did nothing so far to address his mom’s behavior. You need to figure this out.

[Anonymous]

Great job in skipping the brunch, OP, and setting your own boundaries. In my experience, drunks get worse as they get older so it's good to set boundaries now. I agree with the other posters to grey rock her ad let your DH handle her as much as possible. I learned the hard way to NEVER tell MIL anything about our lives because she used even the smallest things against us and she doesn't even drink. Grey rock was the only way to go.