Do you set limits on what teen DD wears

[Anonymous]

No real limits but some things I refuse to buy. Even still, my daughter had a pair of short shorts on last week where you could see her butt cheeks. They didn’t look like that when I bought them but she had them hiked way up. I always ask her how I would look in that outfit and if she’s cool with me coming to pick her up looking like that. She adjusts but I know puts it back the second she’s out of my sight.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I find that if I make a judgement about what she is wearing, and this is especially true of girls, I am bringing my own bias and judgement from when I was growing up, which I'm pretty sure is perpetuating the stereotypes that we are all trying to avoid and dismiss for this next generation. So I am now staying far away from not only commenting but looking! That said, at 14 I no longer buy their clothes. They can thrift for what they want and that suits me fine. When we need to go to a dressy event, they have no problem wearing something "appropriate"

Same. I make no judgments. I set no boundaries. DD is perfectly able to figure out how to dress for the occasion. I know others may judge her or me for how she dresses, AND that always would be true no matter how she dressed. And I'll admit to being a bit shocked out how much you all seem to shame your daughters. . . .

[Anonymous]

I have a 15 year old. I do set limits. It is a self respect and class issue. Revealing outfits, especially on a young girls, is pure trash. No different than expecting you to brush your hair and look presentable. But we are UMC so maybe this is more popular in more middle of the road places.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have a 15 year old. I do set limits. It is a self respect and class issue. Revealing outfits, especially on a young girls, is pure trash. No different than expecting you to brush your hair and look presentable. But we are UMC so maybe this is more popular in more middle of the road places.

That's an . . . interesting. . .flex. . .

[Anonymous]

Tube-tops are coming back into fashion.

[Anonymous]

Nothing that is too wrinkled, stained, or dirty. No doc martins when we are going on an activity that involves a lot of walking. No Berks in the rain.

[Anonymous]

My daughter is almost 10 and for now is more modest than I am. I buy her really nice shorts and crop tops and she looks super cute in them, but won’t wear anything other than leggings, basketball shorts and loose fitting shirts

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have a 15 year old. I do set limits. It is a self respect and class issue. Revealing outfits, especially on a young girls, is pure trash. No different than expecting you to brush your hair and look presentable. But we are UMC so maybe this is more popular in more middle of the road places.

Get over yourself. My daughter and her friends have their butts and more hanging out and parents I know aren’t fighting that battle anymore. It’s all over our UMC neighborhood. Sometimes they don’t brush their hair well either. They are still kids. Go ahead and judge.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No but I do have limits on what I will buy. Only things she will wear/is allowed to wear to school or church. But I let crops in, who cares?

Same. I took dd to a thrift store and she wanted to buy a drug themed T-Shirt and I said NO.

The Chang Beer shirt, however, I allowed, but she’s not wearing that to school.