How to deal with mom's IL jealousy during birth of third child

[Anonymous]

Girl, you’re having your third child. You are the mama now. Your mom is horrid to you. Your in-laws and husband know this. Just cut her off now if you can. Don’t invite her. Don’t tell her.


My mom was similar and we didn’t talk for a year after she said some terrible things to me while I was struggling homeschooling my 3 young kids during covid. My biggest surprise if the whole thing was how much more peaceful it felt to not have her in my life and how I didn’t miss her.

[Anonymous]

I realize you like the free babysitting but is this an adult you want your kids around? She just isn’t mature, emotionally well adjusted and is abusive. I can’t imagine her being grandma of the year.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I realize you like the free babysitting but is this an adult you want your kids around? She just isn’t mature, emotionally well adjusted and is abusive. I can’t imagine her being grandma of the year.

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[Anonymous]

I recommend you read "Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents: How to Heal from Distant, Rejecting, or Self-Involved Parents" by Lindsay Gilson. It will give you strategies to deal with your mother. Good luck!

You've gotten some really good advice here.

[Anonymous]

We had this with my MIL. She even invented times we'd spent with "my" family when we were in fact elsewhere, had told her so, and my parents were out of the country.

There's no winning.

[Anonymous]

OP here. Thank you all for the thoughtful and constructive advice. I really appreciate it.