16 yo dd sent multiple revealing pics to unknown contacts on snap

[Anonymous]

That’s one senseless kid. Well now she certainly got the attention she was seeking.

[Anonymous]

Bad judgment and consequences (taking away app/phone) sure, but also sounds like she has low self esteem, so do what you can to help her with that.

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Anonymous wrote:How do you check snap? I thought the whole point of snap was that the posts disappear

this. i call troll.

[Anonymous]

Don’t give a 16 year old social media, parents never learn.

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Anonymous wrote:Blackmail is real. You new to get thru to her that any photo she sends is out there forever and can be seen by anyone. My kid is younger than yours but I work in LE and deal with teens and adults doing this regularly. I talk to my kid about it on a regular basis. I would tell her she can’t have that app on her phone anymore as she clearly can’t be trusted.

What’s the blackmail if you can’t be shamed? In a couple of years she can make bank doing this on OF.

Because obviously jobs, colleges, future personal contacts will have their own opinions and that affects her life, moron

Colleges don’t make decisions on the basis of stolen photos. If the photo is stolen, or shared against your will, it’s a very different category than something you post publicly yourself.

Stolen? Her daughter took the underage p*rn pics and distributed them herself.

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Anonymous wrote:Blackmail is real. You new to get thru to her that any photo she sends is out there forever and can be seen by anyone. My kid is younger than yours but I work in LE and deal with teens and adults doing this regularly. I talk to my kid about it on a regular basis. I would tell her she can’t have that app on her phone anymore as she clearly can’t be trusted.

What’s the blackmail if you can’t be shamed? In a couple of years she can make bank doing this on OF.

Because obviously jobs, colleges, future personal contacts will have their own opinions and that affects her life, moron

Colleges don’t make decisions on the basis of stolen photos. If the photo is stolen, or shared against your will, it’s a very different category than something you post publicly yourself.

Stolen? Her daughter took the underage p*rn pics and distributed them herself.

It probably not P@rn for all we know she’s in a bikini.

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Anonymous wrote:How do you check snap? I thought the whole point of snap was that the posts disappear

this. i call troll.

Yes, I was wondering this too. You can’t see what she sent, can you? Only that she sent something to these specific people.

[Anonymous]

Op here
If someone saves the chat it stays till you manually delete it
And they were not nudes but bikini and bra pics
Some of your advices are helpful
But I’m just so heartbroken
We’ve had talks before , about illegal and future consequences
But the last time Was to her boyfriend and we still took away her phone and social media for months and thought we drilled the issues into her head
And now this

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Anonymous wrote:Blackmail is real. You new to get thru to her that any photo she sends is out there forever and can be seen by anyone. My kid is younger than yours but I work in LE and deal with teens and adults doing this regularly. I talk to my kid about it on a regular basis. I would tell her she can’t have that app on her phone anymore as she clearly can’t be trusted.

What’s the blackmail if you can’t be shamed? In a couple of years she can make bank doing this on OF.

Because obviously jobs, colleges, future personal contacts will have their own opinions and that affects her life, moron

Colleges don’t make decisions on the basis of stolen photos. If the photo is stolen, or shared against your will, it’s a very different category than something you post publicly yourself.

But she did post it publicly herself, why don't people get this.

Op said she sent them to several people.

Yes on which makes it public. You can't control what people do with stuff. She made it available for them to to do with as they please through a platform that makes it exceptionally easy to re distribute.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op here
If someone saves the chat it stays till you manually delete it
And they were not nudes but bikini and bra pics
Some of your advices are helpful
But I’m just so heartbroken
We’ve had talks before , about illegal and future consequences
But the last time Was to her boyfriend and we still took away her phone and social media for months and thought we drilled the issues into her head
And now this

OP, this is super frustrating. I'm sure maturity will eventually take care of this but obviously not at the moment. Her lack of impulse control got the better of her. Hopefully the fall-out will be minimal. Until then, all you can do is treat her like a younger child and take away her access and ability to do this again.

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Anonymous wrote:Pay attention, folks. OP has. no right to be surprised if she gave her child a smartphone and also if she allowed snapchat in the first place. It's dumb AF to think this won't happen.

This...I was going to say exact same thing. My 15 yo daughter does not have snap and she will not be getting it any time soon. And I have no reason to think she would engage in this sort of behavior. She barely uses Insta, so I am so far very pleased with how she pretty much avoids social media. Also recently deleted her TikTok account because it is a waste of time and silly. So proud of her maturity.