16 yo dd sent multiple revealing pics to unknown contacts on snap

[Anonymous]

I wish they offered ‘defensive driving’ classes for teens and internet/social media. We spend so much time teaching them how to drive responsibly but really mobile phones are just as dangerous as cars and should be handled accordingly.

[Anonymous]

Op, good job staying on top of your kids online behavior. You caught this and that’s awesome, as hard as it is, it’s better that you know. Did she feel pressured/encouraged to do this? Do other kids in her friend group do this? It might be time to really look into her peer group and influences and find out if a major change or oversight is needed. I would frankly start banning certain friends and force a school change based on what you uncover.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I wish they offered ‘defensive driving’ classes for teens and internet/social media. We spend so much time teaching them how to drive responsibly but really mobile phones are just as dangerous as cars and should be handled accordingly.

I once went to a parenting workshop and heard the best description: When we give our kids a phone, it’s akin to giving them the keys to a $90K sports car and saying have fun.

We do very little to place limits like no phones after 9pm or checking on what they’re posting or asking them to show us what they like to view.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If it were my DD, that would be no more snap.

+1. I’d almost consider dropping her to a phone without a camera.

[Anonymous]

Define spicy? Topless?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op, good job staying on top of your kids online behavior. You caught this and that’s awesome, as hard as it is, it’s better that you know. Did she feel pressured/encouraged to do this? Do other kids in her friend group do this? It might be time to really look into her peer group and influences and find out if a major change or oversight is needed. I would frankly start banning certain friends and force a school change based on what you uncover.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don’t know what to say
She just broke up with her BF
I skim her snap once in a while and saw multiple pics sent to multiple boys
On questioning she just said that it was a rebound reaction and wanted attention
She is not even admitting to how many boys she sent it to
Just said she is sorry and won’t do it again

I am nauseous
Obviously we took away her phone
And trying to talk about dangers and it’s like she knows all that but she did it anyways and is saying sorry
But I don’t get it
is this dumb or dumb , she is old enough to know this
My head is just exploding and I don’t know how to handle this

Troll?

[Anonymous]

Ground her and give her a talking to but that’s it. She is 16! How we never sent these type of pics of before in our teenage years?

[Anonymous]

How do you check snap? I thought the whole point of snap was that the posts disappear

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Blackmail is real. You new to get thru to her that any photo she sends is out there forever and can be seen by anyone. My kid is younger than yours but I work in LE and deal with teens and adults doing this regularly. I talk to my kid about it on a regular basis. I would tell her she can’t have that app on her phone anymore as she clearly can’t be trusted.

What’s the blackmail if you can’t be shamed? In a couple of years she can make bank doing this on OF.

Because obviously jobs, colleges, future personal contacts will have their own opinions and that affects her life, moron

Colleges don’t make decisions on the basis of stolen photos. If the photo is stolen, or shared against your will, it’s a very different category than something you post publicly yourself.

But she did post it publicly herself, why don't people get this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don’t know what to say
She just broke up with her BF
I skim her snap once in a while and saw multiple pics sent to multiple boys
On questioning she just said that it was a rebound reaction and wanted attention
She is not even admitting to how many boys she sent it to
Just said she is sorry and won’t do it again

I am nauseous
Obviously we took away her phone
And trying to talk about dangers and it’s like she knows all that but she did it anyways and is saying sorry
But I don’t get it
is this dumb or dumb , she is old enough to know this
My head is just exploding and I don’t know how to handle this

Social media is toxic.

Do you see that now?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Blackmail is real. You new to get thru to her that any photo she sends is out there forever and can be seen by anyone. My kid is younger than yours but I work in LE and deal with teens and adults doing this regularly. I talk to my kid about it on a regular basis. I would tell her she can’t have that app on her phone anymore as she clearly can’t be trusted.

What’s the blackmail if you can’t be shamed? In a couple of years she can make bank doing this on OF.

Because obviously jobs, colleges, future personal contacts will have their own opinions and that affects her life, moron

Colleges don’t make decisions on the basis of stolen photos. If the photo is stolen, or shared against your will, it’s a very different category than something you post publicly yourself.

But she did post it publicly herself, why don't people get this.

Op said she sent them to several people.

[Anonymous]

Talk about cybersecurity. What’s appropriate and inappropriate, the dangers of social media, etc

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don’t know what to say
She just broke up with her BF
I skim her snap once in a while and saw multiple pics sent to multiple boys
On questioning she just said that it was a rebound reaction and wanted attention
She is not even admitting to how many boys she sent it to
Just said she is sorry and won’t do it again

I am nauseous
Obviously we took away her phone
And trying to talk about dangers and it’s like she knows all that but she did it anyways and is saying sorry
But I don’t get it
is this dumb or dumb , she is old enough to know this
My head is just exploding and I don’t know how to handle this

First time she's done this or first time she's been caught?

[Anonymous]

I think the bigger issue - isn't this a crime for those who send and receive?