Is this common? DD, who is a junior in college, is seeing a 27-year old MBA student

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I’d worry she’s missing out on college experiences. She should stick to men her own age while she’s in college and can date older men after she’s graduated.

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Anonymous wrote:Aren't we infantilizing young women just a bit here? A 27 year-old's interest in a 21 year-old woman is "creepy?" Seriously?

I absolutely found older 20s men dating or trying to day my peers creepy when I was 21. I still find it creepy. Why can't they handle a woman their own age?

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Anonymous wrote:Aren't we infantilizing young women just a bit here? A 27 year-old's interest in a 21 year-old woman is "creepy?" Seriously?

I absolutely found older 20s men dating or trying to day my peers creepy when I was 21. I still find it creepy. Why can't they handle a woman their own age?

I agree. Why does nobody his own age want to date him?

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Anonymous wrote:I don’t see an issue. When she is 27 he’ll be 33 what’s wrong with that?

There's nothing wrong with him being 33 when she is 27. At that point, most people have been in the workforce a few years and have a sense of what the adult world is like.

When their ages are 27 and 21, it's different. She's still an undergrad in college while he, presumably, has had a job for a couple of years and then decided to get an MBA. People learn and grow and change so much between the ages of 18-24. After that, a certain level of maturity sets in and adults are at the same level, relatively speaking. My 26-year-old ds dates women around his age and maturity level. I can't picture him dating women the age of his sister, who coincidentally is also a junior in college.

None of this is written in stone, and of course there are going to be 27-year-olds seeing 21-year-olds where they are a good match emotionally and everything is fine. You know your dd, so you will have a better sense of whether or not she and the MBA student would be good together.

Exactly. And I also have a DD who's a college junior and two older sons, ages 26 and 29. Even though DD is and always has been very mature, she's at a completely different life stage than her brothers. She's getting ready to go out and have adventures and figure out the adulting thing for herself. They're making serious decisions about careers and buying homes (one is a med student and the other is a lawyer). They're both dating women who are closer to their ages and are similarly looking for more serious and lasting relationships.

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Anonymous wrote:Aren't we infantilizing young women just a bit here? A 27 year-old's interest in a 21 year-old woman is "creepy?" Seriously?

+1 really odd reaction to me, but I met my husband when I was 21 and he was 29.

Lol nobody wants their daughter to grow up to be you. Are you are narcissist!

Nobody wants their daughter to grow up in a happy, stable, long-term marriage with two wonderful kids? Ok, well good luck with whatever you’ve got going.

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On the flip side my 19 year old son dated a 25 year old woman. I didn’t like it but nothing I could do.

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Anonymous wrote:Aren't we infantilizing young women just a bit here? A 27 year-old's interest in a 21 year-old woman is "creepy?" Seriously?

+1 really odd reaction to me, but I met my husband when I was 21 and he was 29.

Lol nobody wants their daughter to grow up to be you. Are you are narcissist!

Nobody wants their daughter to grow up in a happy, stable, long-term marriage with two wonderful kids? Ok, well good luck with whatever you’ve got going.

Yes, nobody wants her daughter to be you. I’m glad you like your life but nobody wants their daughter to be you.. anybody the comments look I did it and look how great I am is a narcissist. I feel bad for your husband.

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Anonymous wrote:On the flip side my 19 year old son dated a 25 year old woman. I didn’t like it but nothing I could do.

Still unhealthy.

He look my kid smokes pot everyday what can I do.

Probably nothing but it’s still not good.

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Anonymous wrote:Aren't we infantilizing young women just a bit here? A 27 year-old's interest in a 21 year-old woman is "creepy?" Seriously?

+1 really odd reaction to me, but I met my husband when I was 21 and he was 29.

Lol nobody wants their daughter to grow up to be you. Are you are narcissist!

Nobody wants their daughter to grow up in a happy, stable, long-term marriage with two wonderful kids? Ok, well good luck with whatever you’ve got going.

Yes, nobody wants her daughter to be you. I’m glad you like your life but nobody wants their daughter to be you.. anybody the comments look I did it and look how great I am is a narcissist. I feel bad for your husband.

Lol, ok. Have a nice day.

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Anonymous wrote:Aren't we infantilizing young women just a bit here? A 27 year-old's interest in a 21 year-old woman is "creepy?" Seriously?

+1 really odd reaction to me, but I met my husband when I was 21 and he was 29.

I find it really weird, and very uniquely American. It's quite common in many other countries for their to be more of an age spread(both ways) than here I guess. One of my British friends is 8 yrs older than her husband, I'm 4 yrs older than mine (Swedish), I have friends in Germany with 10 yr age difference (husband this time).

I'm not even sure people ask about age as quickly there. Maybe.

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Anonymous wrote:Aren't we infantilizing young women just a bit here? A 27 year-old's interest in a 21 year-old woman is "creepy?" Seriously?

+1 really odd reaction to me, but I met my husband when I was 21 and he was 29.

Lol nobody wants their daughter to grow up to be you. Are you are narcissist!

Nobody wants their daughter to grow up in a happy, stable, long-term marriage with two wonderful kids? Ok, well good luck with whatever you’ve got going.

Yes, nobody wants her daughter to be you. I’m glad you like your life but nobody wants their daughter to be you.. anybody the comments look I did it and look how great I am is a narcissist. I feel bad for your husband.

Wow, you sound like a very unhappy moron. Serious issues.

--not PP

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Anonymous wrote:Is this too large of an age gap? She said her friends are mostly dating mid-late 20s professionals as well.

Maybe she and her friends aspire to be SAHMs at young ages.

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Anonymous wrote:Is this too large of an age gap? She said her friends are mostly dating mid-late 20s professionals as well.

Its not common at all and often predators take advantage of inexperienced girls who are learning to handle independence. Most undergrad girls and boys date people their own age plus minus 2.

She isn’t a freshman who was dropped on campus yesterday from her one horse town. Good lord. She’s a junior who has been living independently for at least 2.5 yrs and is likely on par maturity-wise w/ male grad students. My friends and I dated law students and MBAs as upperclassmen in college - this wasn’t weird at all and they weren’t creepy. The biggest creeps I met were the frat bros dropping roofies in our beers.

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Anonymous wrote:Aren't we infantilizing young women just a bit here? A 27 year-old's interest in a 21 year-old woman is "creepy?" Seriously?

I was thinking the same.

+2. It is only 6 years difference and they are both adults.

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Anonymous wrote:Is this too large of an age gap? She said her friends are mostly dating mid-late 20s professionals as well.

Its not common at all and often predators take advantage of inexperienced girls who are learning to handle independence. Most undergrad girls and boys date people their own age plus minus 2.

She isn’t a freshman who was dropped on campus yesterday from her one horse town. Good lord. She’s a junior who has been living independently for at least 2.5 yrs and is likely on par maturity-wise w/ male grad students. My friends and I dated law students and MBAs as upperclassmen in college - this wasn’t weird at all and they weren’t creepy. The biggest creeps I met were the frat bros dropping roofies in our beers.

I always dated law students in college. I never thought they were "creepy". They studied a lot, so I had plenty of time to hang out with my own friends.