Mimosas at Birthday Party

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I was recently at an all-class late morning bday party. There was some wine and beer and a few parents did have a drink. We didn’t drink but I didn’t think anything of it until reading this thread. Upon reflection, I wouldn’t serve alcohol at an all-class party because of the potential for different cultural/religious/social attitudes towards alcohol, and I would want everyone to feel comfortable. That being said, when alcohol is served at my home, whether or not kids are present, I expect people to drink responsibly. I don’t understand the comments about not drinking when driving kids home. You should NEVER drink to excess when driving, period, for your own safety and the safety of other drivers. It’s not a kid thing.

I agree with your point regarding drinking and driving. It is always a factor and seems unrelated to the presence of children.

However, I disagree with your other comment. I do like the idea of being inclusive, but if you are trying to take into account all different cultural/religious/social attitudes, then you can't serve pork, or even meat, right? I married into a family that doesn't eat pork for religious reasons, but they don't have a problem with other people eating pork; they know they are in the minority. Just have a variety of things to offer.

Children’s events don’t need to have alcohol served to adults.

I mean, alcohol never NEEDS to be served. But a hosts' job is to make sure everyone they've invited into their home has a good time. It may be a child's party but adults are still present. As long as alcohol isn't the only option for adults--because yes, that would be very weird--an optional light drink seems perfectly fine.

Having alcohol is obligatory to having a good time?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I was recently at an all-class late morning bday party. There was some wine and beer and a few parents did have a drink. We didn’t drink but I didn’t think anything of it until reading this thread. Upon reflection, I wouldn’t serve alcohol at an all-class party because of the potential for different cultural/religious/social attitudes towards alcohol, and I would want everyone to feel comfortable. That being said, when alcohol is served at my home, whether or not kids are present, I expect people to drink responsibly. I don’t understand the comments about not drinking when driving kids home. You should NEVER drink to excess when driving, period, for your own safety and the safety of other drivers. It’s not a kid thing.

I agree with your point regarding drinking and driving. It is always a factor and seems unrelated to the presence of children.

However, I disagree with your other comment. I do like the idea of being inclusive, but if you are trying to take into account all different cultural/religious/social attitudes, then you can't serve pork, or even meat, right? I married into a family that doesn't eat pork for religious reasons, but they don't have a problem with other people eating pork; they know they are in the minority. Just have a variety of things to offer.

Children’s events don’t need to have alcohol served to adults.

No, they don't need to, but it's a nice touch when they do, IMO.

OP, this wasn't weird at all. My eyebrows would've gone up, but more of a "Yay!" than a "hmmmmm"

It’s also a nice touch if they don’t have alcohol served. There are many other options.

Yes it is. Options for everyone!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No, I would not serve alcohol at a kids bday party. It is tacky and gives the wrong impression. Save it for a more appropriate get-together.

It's hardly tacky just because you don't like it. It's very common in some places that are clearly different than whatever bumf@ck place you come from.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I was recently at an all-class late morning bday party. There was some wine and beer and a few parents did have a drink. We didn’t drink but I didn’t think anything of it until reading this thread. Upon reflection, I wouldn’t serve alcohol at an all-class party because of the potential for different cultural/religious/social attitudes towards alcohol, and I would want everyone to feel comfortable. That being said, when alcohol is served at my home, whether or not kids are present, I expect people to drink responsibly. I don’t understand the comments about not drinking when driving kids home. You should NEVER drink to excess when driving, period, for your own safety and the safety of other drivers. It’s not a kid thing.

I agree with your point regarding drinking and driving. It is always a factor and seems unrelated to the presence of children.

However, I disagree with your other comment. I do like the idea of being inclusive, but if you are trying to take into account all different cultural/religious/social attitudes, then you can't serve pork, or even meat, right? I married into a family that doesn't eat pork for religious reasons, but they don't have a problem with other people eating pork; they know they are in the minority. Just have a variety of things to offer.

Children’s events don’t need to have alcohol served to adults.

I mean, alcohol never NEEDS to be served. But a hosts' job is to make sure everyone they've invited into their home has a good time. It may be a child's party but adults are still present. As long as alcohol isn't the only option for adults--because yes, that would be very weird--an optional light drink seems perfectly fine.

Having alcohol is obligatory to having a good time?

No but it can help.

[Anonymous]

Literally every home or park birthday party that I attend has some sort of booze for the parents. It's what makes 25 screaming elementary school children tolerable. Anyone who gave me attitude for this would be crossed off the list for future parties. Our lifestyles just won't mesh well, so no point in spending time with them.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I think it's fine and definitely have more fun at birthday parties with beer/mimosas being served! Your peers need to relax. Agree no one should overdo.

If they are drinking enough alcohol to relax, it’s too much.

That's not what I meant. Let's be honest kids' birthday parties are tedious. Nothing wrong with being a fun host for the adults too

[Anonymous]

I'm in NYC and I don't remember the last kids party I went to that didn't serve alcohol for the parents.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I would appreciate mimosas at a kid's party! Some people are judgmental about alcohol being anywhere in the vicinity of kids though.

I think it's more judgement about serving alcohol to people who you know are driving away from your home with children in their car.

oh bull. you tryiing to tell me these people don't have a beer when they go out to dinner and then ... DRIVE HOME!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would appreciate mimosas at a kid's party! Some people are judgmental about alcohol being anywhere in the vicinity of kids though.

I think it's more judgement about serving alcohol to people who you know are driving away from your home with children in their car.

oh bull. you tryiing to tell me these people don't have a beer when they go out to dinner and then ... DRIVE HOME!

Who said that was okay?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I was recently at an all-class late morning bday party. There was some wine and beer and a few parents did have a drink. We didn’t drink but I didn’t think anything of it until reading this thread. Upon reflection, I wouldn’t serve alcohol at an all-class party because of the potential for different cultural/religious/social attitudes towards alcohol, and I would want everyone to feel comfortable. That being said, when alcohol is served at my home, whether or not kids are present, I expect people to drink responsibly. I don’t understand the comments about not drinking when driving kids home. You should NEVER drink to excess when driving, period, for your own safety and the safety of other drivers. It’s not a kid thing.

I agree with your point regarding drinking and driving. It is always a factor and seems unrelated to the presence of children.

However, I disagree with your other comment. I do like the idea of being inclusive, but if you are trying to take into account all different cultural/religious/social attitudes, then you can't serve pork, or even meat, right? I married into a family that doesn't eat pork for religious reasons, but they don't have a problem with other people eating pork; they know they are in the minority. Just have a variety of things to offer.

Children’s events don’t need to have alcohol served to adults.

I mean, alcohol never NEEDS to be served. But a hosts' job is to make sure everyone they've invited into their home has a good time. It may be a child's party but adults are still present. As long as alcohol isn't the only option for adults--because yes, that would be very weird--an optional light drink seems perfectly fine.

Having alcohol is obligatory to having a good time?

No but it can help.

Cementing your instability.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm in NYC and I don't remember the last kids party I went to that didn't serve alcohol for the parents.

Most that I’ve attended don’t serve. -NP

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Literally every home or park birthday party that I attend has some sort of booze for the parents. It's what makes 25 screaming elementary school children tolerable. Anyone who gave me attitude for this would be crossed off the list for future parties. Our lifestyles just won't mesh well, so no point in spending time with them.

Oh my god! Like, literally! Like, cross them off. Literally, like oh my god!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Literally every home or park birthday party that I attend has some sort of booze for the parents. It's what makes 25 screaming elementary school children tolerable. Anyone who gave me attitude for this would be crossed off the list for future parties. Our lifestyles just won't mesh well, so no point in spending time with them.

How do you fit that many people in your trailer?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think it's fine and definitely have more fun at birthday parties with beer/mimosas being served! Your peers need to relax. Agree no one should overdo.

If they are drinking enough alcohol to relax, it’s too much.

I think pp was suggesting the eyebrow raising, nondrinking peers need to relax.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would appreciate mimosas at a kid's party! Some people are judgmental about alcohol being anywhere in the vicinity of kids though.

I think it's more judgement about serving alcohol to people who you know are driving away from your home with children in their car.

oh bull. you tryiing to tell me these people don't have a beer when they go out to dinner and then ... DRIVE HOME!

I think the differences are a couple:

At an all-class birthday party you don't know the drinking habits of the adults. Someone previously said I assume all adults drink responsibly and don't drive drunk. Why would you ever assume that? Um, clearly people drive impaired all the time. So no, I wouldn't feel comfortable serving booze over a multi-hour party to adults I don't even know and then having them drive home with their kids.

If people drink at dinner and then drive home, that is fully their choice. In this scenario, you are serving them the alcohol. No you wouldn't be held liable in most states if anything happened, but it's not great either.