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Anonymous wrote:Dd couldn’t sleep last night because she was so upset by this. She feels disappointed and betrayed by her friends. She is worried about them. She said that she feels like her closest friend in the group (her best friend since age 2) has been “more distant” lately and she now thinks she understands why and it’s very hard for her. I am positive she did not know. I know my kid and I know when she is lying and she is so upset by this (and not in a “my mom found out something and I’m in trouble”) way.
I’m going to try to find out more from the person who told me - it was apparently a parent who found evidence (a vape pen and edibles) in the pockets of some kids, and also saw things posted on social media by these kids. Dd doesn’t have social media. Her phone was inspected carefully yesterday (she has no problem with that she knows her phone needs to be open to us to check at any time).
Perhaps other kids knew this was going on but mine didn’t. She has a very busy extracurricular commitment and has been especially busy with it lately so I could see why she feels a bit distant from her friend group. But I absolutely believe she didn’t know this was going on by her reaction.
You need to step back from this situation and not get involved. These are 8th graders. It’s unfortunate and typical. Lots of vaping and the ones that aren’t have seen it in the school bathroom. Do not try to find out more information. Let it go.
You can only support your daughter. Listen more than talk. Tell her it’s okay to be surprised and disappointed in her friends. Tell her it’s okay to take a break from friends but she doesn’t have to be mean to them or lecture them on drugs. No good will come of that either. Talk to your daughter about the dangers of trying all of this and of fentanyl. It’s in the middle school too. I never thought my kid would vape and he’s tried it many times. At least we have always had open conversations and he’s comfortable talking to us.
Who’s posting on social media about this? That’s what I don’t understand. The kids or the parents?
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